Leben in Deutschland
Hallo!
Last week I finally completed the “Integrationskurs” in Germany. This course consist of 600 hours of language course (until B1 level) and 100 hours of “Leben in Deutschland” course. The test certificate later can be used to get a permanent residence permit, or even as a requirement to apply for the citizenship. I obligated to take this course due to the nature of my immigration process. When we applied for German visa from Ireland, thankfully I can come together with my husband as a dependent without having to proof my language competence. I heard that when you come as a dependent from Indonesia, you should at least have a A1/A2 certificate to get the visa.
So, what do we learned in “Leben in Deutschland (LIB)” course?
Well, at the first glance, the subject sounds pretty boring: politics, history and society. I learned about German constitution, election, political parties, history of Nazi, WWII, west and east Germany, reunification, EU, etc. In other words, Sejarah + PPKn, the subjects that I was not really good at school.
But, contrary to my first impression, I found that I enjoyed this course more than the language course. The language course was very demanding with lots of homework. However, the LIB course was very relax. We didn’t focus on dates, but on why things happened. Gradually, we are also getting better at speaking German (I think!), since there were lots of discussion about our opinion on certain subjects and how things go in our home country.
Acculturation model
In one of the class, we got a visit from a Psycholog and we discussed lots of things about culture, “typisch Deutsch”, etc. In one segment, she told us about acculturation and she drew something like this:
So, basically acculturation is an act of adopting new culture where we live in. The lady said that the best form of acculturation is “integration”, where we adopt new culture without forgetting our roots. But unfortunately, people in the host country sometimes confuse “integration” with “assimilation”, where immigrant should builds a new identity based on the new culture and leave their original values behind. Hmm…
Perhaps this session is the most difficult part of this course for me. After a decade of living abroad, I often feel like I don’t belong in anywhere. Abroad, I definitely look different, face lots of challenges, but somehow it feels like home. When having a holiday in Indonesia, I look local and communicate easily, yet I feel out-of-date, find myself frustrated with lots of things and can’t wait to go back “home”.
About speaking new language
On the last day of the LIB, the teacher asked about our next plan after the course. Everyone is having a wonderful plan, and I hope that we can all succeed in Germany. At that opportunity, I said that I would like to find a job, maybe first get some advice from Agentur für Arbeit (Employment Agency) and learn Deutsch a bit more since I am still afraid of speaking. The teacher then asked why do I feel that way. My simple answer unexpectedly turned into a long discussion.
I told her that I had bad experiences here, mostly because of the language barriers. From being ignored by the saleswoman at the store, scolded by the locksmith and had my language fluency critized by my son’s pediatrist (while she supposed to address more important matters there). Somehow, those experiences lower my confidence a lot. Over time, I also see myself turning bitter.
My teacher (one of the very kind, gentle and patient Deutsche I’ve ever known) said that bad people are everywhere (the problem is why I found them a lot here in my short time in Germany, lol) and we should feel better since we are smarter and speak more languages than them. So, chin up and cheer up!
Natürlich that’s easier said than done. I wish more and more people realized that being an immigrant is not easy. Of course it is important to learn the language of your host country to show respect and be able to tackle everyday’s problem. Unfortunately, learning language is hard and could take years. If possible, without a doubt, I would take a pill and be able to speak other language instantly, rather than spending 600 years of my life learning YOUR language, to only ended up with this so-so proficiency.
I believe wherever we live, it’s important to find something that we grateful for. Otherwise, our negative thoughts towards the place will prevent us from enjoying our daily life. There are plenty of things that I am grateful for, like: the work-life balance, Arbeitsschutz (employment protection), the cycling infrastructure in this little city, the clean air, the safety, the free education, the ease of travel within Europe, etc.
So yeah (walaupun aku hanya manusia biasa yang hobi misuh-misuh), overall I am happy as can be. May our daily life get easier day by day and we can all thrive in Germany!






