Iconic Egypt tourist photo: Me at the pyramids.

I recently wrote in this blog about the challenge of connecting with people of other cultures when traveling abroad, especially when going to poorer nations. Those thoughts were prompted by a trip to Egypt in October, 2025. In this post, I reflect more on the challenges of tourism, focusing especially on what it means to be a tourist and what we are seeking to accomplish when we travel abroad.

Often, First World travelers to Third World countries are smothered in luxury while surrounded by poverty. Some of us want to see the world and also contribute to the local economy, but are troubled by the model of the good life evidenced by the way tours are provisioned. Do we really need to be provided with accommodations much more lavish, truth be told, than the more-than-ample homes we left when we set out on our journeys? Do we need to be fed such large quantities of food, and have our tastes catered to as if our preferences were sovereign? Does it really benefit us to be surrounded by bellhops, clerks, concierges, guides, and the like who focus on keeping us from having to expend any physical or mental energy whatsoever? What does this style of travel teach us about the world around us and ourselves?

Another traveler on the Egypt tour was reading “The New Tourist” by Paige McClanahan (https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/199798115-the-new-tourist). I got to scan it. The author differentiates between Old Tourists, who confine their experiences to a preconceived story, and New Tourists, who are humbled by their travels and open to the vastness of history and humanity. New Tourists  are learners who are always curious. Old Tourists want their prejudices confirmed. They objectify and commodify when they encounter other cultures.

McClanahan’s categories reminded me of the processes of assimilation and accommodation that psychologist Jean Piaget described as foundational to cognitive development. When infants or children encounter something unfamiliar, they either assimilate that new thing into a pre-existing category–a cup without handles is just another type of cup–or accommodate to what is different by modifying a mental category or creating a new one–a squirrel is not a puppy and calls for a different response.

The world that adults inhabit is mostly familiar rather than novel, so we don’t need to use either of these processes as often as children do. But travel is almost by definition a place of encountering the new, making it inevitable that we will either assimilate or accommodate while on the road. During the trip to Egypt, I did plenty of each. For example, we attended a church whose music I readily assimilated into my picture of Western contemporary worship music, even though the lyrics were in Arabic. We then ate at a local restaurant that specializes in Koshary, an Egyptian specialty, prompting me to accommodate by adding a new category of meal.

So I was first an Old Tourist fitting a new experience into a familiar category, then a New Tourist open to recognizing something beyond my previous understanding. All travelers are probably a combination of Old Tourists and New Tourists. But the proportions differ, probably dependent both on the personality of the traveler (Openness to Experience is one of the Big Five personality dimensions; see https://www.traitpath.com/blog/articles/openness-to-experience-big-five) and the nature of what is being encountered. Regarding the latter, McClanahan has a chapter on tourist traps. We tend to think of these as  exploitative, but McClanahan thinks their central feature is that they present a dumbed down view of the unfamiliar that is not educational or evocative but instead is escapist. It’s a false view of reality. Theme parks are a good example of tourist traps; think of the sparse amount of cross-cultural exposure that occurs at Epcot World Showcase. A tourist trap makes it easy for the Old Tourist to project his preconceptions onto the weak simulacrum of culture that’s on offer.

Such tourism is structured so as to reinforce prejudices and prevent encounter with anything that is truly new. Most of us aren’t looking for that when we travel, though–at least we don’t think we are when we make our plans. If we only wanted to relax or be entertained, we could get that close to home. We travel to distant and unfamiliar places to experience something new, something that is for us out of the ordinary. We hope that we will find something we can appreciate, admire, or respect. Perhaps we are even interested in seeing the familiar in the light of new, gaining a different perspective on what had become commonplace to us. In this sense, we travel in order to be changed.

I would like to suggest that tours that take us to unfamiliar places are cultural liturgies in the sense described by James K.A. Smith ( see https://www.goodreads.com/series/196620-cultural-liturgies). He suggested that liturgies are not only the activities that take place during a worship service, but any rituals or practices designed to shape our desires and imaginations. We are participating in a liturgy when we shop at a mall, for example, or attend a sporting event. What’s the goal of the liturgy of tourism? What sort of person is being formed? Perhaps different tours have different aims. Tours that give a superficial, stereotyped exposure to a culture cater to the Old Tourist, shaping people who want their preconceptions confirmed and are comfortable with a shallow understanding of cultures and peoples, albeit one that for the frequent traveler may have a good deal of breadth. Tours that go beyond the superficial to provide a nuanced sense of the history, culture, and people of a place are producing New Tourists, people who in their encounter with the new are characterized by humility, curiosity, and openness. We are all at least a little of each kind of tourist. But we can each choose what sort of trips to take–what liturgies we’ll participate in–and with time these choices can make us more into the sort of traveler (and person) we would like to be.  

Travel on the Nile, 1200 BCE
Travel on the Nile today; the age of tourism.
Advent is lament 
at least if it’s done right:
before the morning bursts with dawn
we walk through darkest night.

Advent is lament
or else it’s no true thing
since goodness seems ephemeral
while evil tends to cling

Advent is lament
and thus produces fruit;
the indigence of our own strength
prepares the way for truth.

Advent is lament:
we stand before the Lord
to him we bring our shattered selves;
to us he gives his Word.

Advent is lament
but that’s not where it ends
for God in sending his own Son
restores our souls again.

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In October, I traveled to Egypt as a member of a tour group sponsored by the alumni association of my alma mater (Calvin University). The tour, led by a seminary professor and an Egyptian guide, brought us to the most popular sites–the pyramids in Giza and Saqqara, the Karnak temple complex in Luxor, the Valley of the Kings, The Temple of Horus, the Khan El-Khalili Bazaar–as well as some places of particular interest to our group, such as the cave churches on Mokattam Mountain and the nearby Zabbaleen, the Coptic Christian community that collects garbage for Cairo. I found the experience not only enhanced my appreciation of ancient Egypt, but also gave me some sense of modern Egypt–its struggles, successes, and failures.

We couldn’t have avoided encountering modern Egypt even if we wanted to. Our bus took us back and forth through Cairo, with its dilapidated high-rises with laundry hanging from open windows and the teeming multitude of people on its streets. Arriving at museums or archaeological sites, we almost always had to walk through a gauntlet of street vendors, waving their wares in front of us and announcing the remarkable bargains they could provide for us.

Shops Outside the Temple of Hatshepsut, Luxor.

The first day, our Egyptian guide told us that at tourist sites we would be surrounded by aggressive sellers. She instructed us to walk past, not making eye contact, not responding. We needed to stay together as a group, she explained. Plus, most of the wares hawked by street vendors were inferior. We would have time enough to shop at places where better quality merchandise would be on offer.

We did as she said. And we did have other opportunities to shop, and at least a little opportunity to interact with Egyptians. Most of the Egyptians we met were either clerks at the shops to which we had been brought or people in the hospitality industry–hotel clerks, bellmen, waiters, barkeepers, and the like. These were invariably polite and eager to please. However, I couldn’t help but wondering what it would have been like to have a wider range of contacts. What do ordinary Egyptians think of tourists? What are their lives like? What would they like outsiders to know about them?

Another member of our tour group was reading The New Tourist  by Paige McClanahan, a book that discusses both positive and negative aspects of tourism and that suggests ways both travelers and the places they visit can benefit from such journeys. I was able to borrow the book and skim several chapters. McClanahan advises,

“We need to encounter each other on an equal footing and offer up something of ourselves, even as we ask something of the people and places we visit.”

How to do that, though? I suspect a naive American wandering the streets of Cairo seeking encounters with the residents could wind up in trouble. The places tourists are taken are at least safe–there’s a significant police presence making sure of that–but what kind of encounter could I have with the street vendors that surrounded us? Is there any sense in which we would be on an equal footing? What could I offer that would be beneficial to them, other than cash?

So, yes, it is probably best to walk past the vendors, not looking at them or acknowledging their cries, pretending that they are merely obstacles to be circumvented. But that is wrenching. They are human beings, made in God’s image, endowed by their creator with dignity and worth. Who am I to give them no more regard than I would a rock or tree in my path?

Our last day in Cairo, when we visited the the Khan El-Khalili Bazaar, we were given a half hour to wander among the shops. Again we were bombarded with sellers, but at least we had a little time to stop and interact. I tried to give at least brief responses to some of the men (almost all the shopkeepers and their assistants were male) that I passed. I did buy a few things, and to many others I expressed some small degree of appreciation. Yes, that’s a lovely shirt or scarf or carpet, but I’ve spent my cash, and I don’t have room in my suitcase. It wasn’t anything like an I-thou encounter, as Martin Buber would advise us to have, but it mostly seemed I-you in character rather than I-it. After getting some response, the sellers usually relented; perhaps they wanted to sell but, failing that, just wanted to be acknowledged.

And what about all the previous I-it interactions at tourist sites, when someone spoke and I ignored them? The best I could come up with was not to change my external behavior but to be mindful of what I was doing to my heart–for to ignore another human who wants to interact with me does diminish both me and him. It was a harmful mini-lesson I was teaching to both myself and the person–a false lesson, that some people don’t matter. I didn’t repent, since I had already decided not to change my behavior. I did lament, though. In Scripture, laments are addressed to God during times of distress, such as during war, oppression, sickness, famine, or injustice. It is an acknowledgment that we can’t make things right by ourselves and a cry to God asking him to do so.

Here, then, is my lament. God, I see that this manner of interaction is damaging both me and the other person. We are each constrained by cultural, social, economic, and linguistic conditions that prevent us from making things right. Help us; protect us from harm.

Khan El-Khalili Bazaar

In January I started dating a woman I met on a group tour. Things were going well, but I was hesitant to commit. I’m old and have been unattached for decades. What was I doing considering such a huge life change? Oddly, one thing that helped me become more serious about a future together was an old bookmark that Greenpeace had sent me years ago. On one side was a picture of their sailing ship; on the other was a quote: “A ship in the harbor is safe, but that’s not what ships are built for.” The relationship has progressed, and we are engaged. I wrote a poem reflecting on the quote. Here it is:

A ship that’s harbored is kept safe, 
one on the seas is not,
but do I want to die by waves
or stay tied up, and rot?

The wind and waves may capsize me,
of that I’m terrified
but worse would be the mothballed life,
preserved to slowly die.

If we embark on unknown seas
we run the risk of hurt,
but never to essay a life
and die alone is worse.

We have been docked for overlong--
that’s not what ships are for;
together let’s cast off the lines
and sail for distant shores.

We’re in the time between seasons here in Wisconsin, winter abating but spring not yet arrived. Here’s a poem describing this time.

The sun is sliding slowly north, 
emboldened light has swept
away vast sectors of night,
winter’s worst invasion
is repulsed and now it only
sends periodic snowy
mid-night forays that then
get swept away at dawn.
Though the ground is liberated,
still it sleeps, grass insensate
as the stones. I have to bundle
when I walk the dogs, for the
remaining but relenting cold
is aggravated by the bite
of ruthless winds, rough savages
of spring. The equinox arrives,
a tightrope strung between
the seasons; we’re balanced
between weariness
and transformation.
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I continue to write poems. I sometimes try to capture some experience I’ve had. Most often, those are about the prosaic events of ordinary life. For example, I tried to capture the experience of trying to memorize a psalm. Here’s how I put it:

The words slip through my fingers 
like water down a drain,
drying up in minutes:
I start from naught again.

I wish words were imprinted,
completely stamped in mind
upon the first recital--
then memory would shine!

Perhaps there’s some advantange
to such a leaky sieve,
there’s worth that’s gained by effort
and hard-won fruit is sweet.

As I return each morning,
though most is still unknown
the little that has thickened
and been retained has grown.

When words congeal to solid,
their presence is a gift
for now some of the psalter
comes easy to my lips
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Time magazine’s website recently published an article about communal living. The author, Lola Miholland, has lived in communities of four or more unrelated roommates for the last 17 years. The initial reason for living with others was financial. She and her roommates live in Portland, Oregon, where housing is quite expensive. She reports:

“Many of our neighbors within the working class can’t get a mortgage, minimum-wage workers can’t afford rent on market-rate apartments, and the number of people without shelter rises all the time. Group living isn’t a solution to housing inequity, but sharing costs can make the difference between being able to afford a roof over our heads and living on the street.”

Milholland finds other benefits to communal living, though.

“Learning how to share space thoughtfully and making time for others can combat the currents of isolation, alienation, loneliness, and apathy. Group living can also make it easier to live lighter on the land, spend less money by sharing resources like that car and those appliances, and divide domestic activities…”

Milholland writes thoughtfully about the benefits of sharing common spaces, having meals together, and coming home to others after a difficult day. I’ve lived in a communal household for almost two years now, and have found similar benefits. I’ve also noticed the costs. A housemate is in the shower when I need to use the bathroom; there’s no space in the fridge because someone has accumulated too many groceries; a time of productivity is interrupted by others coming into the space I’m using. Living together conserves resources and is rich in connections, but it’s also inconvenient. It’s tempting to prefer convenience to connectedness.

The community that I’m in was established eight years ago as a Christian community. We appreciate the economies and social benefits of life together, but also see community as a vehicle for spiritual growth. When the community is functioning as intended, we pray together, seek close relationships with each other, show hospitality to outsiders, and engage in disciplines aimed at helping us mature in our spiritual lives.

The ideal is a good one, but we constantly fall short. We don’t take time for each other, avoid coming to the times of prayer, or isolate ourselves. We look to other things to fill the emptiness we all experience. When that happens, the community provides inconvenience without overriding benefits. Milholland mentions this danger:

“I’ve lived in a group setting that wasn’t built on a common commitment to each other, and it was worse than living alone.”

In gardening, you plant and tend without immediate benefit, hoping for eventual bounty. Our community is our garden; unless we are constantly cultivating it even when growth isn’t evident, we will end up impoverished and hungry. I regularly wonder whether the potential harvest is worth the vexation. Most of the time, I decide it is.

Mulholland’s Time article is apparently taken from her memoir entitled Group Living and Other Recipes; A Memoir.  Here’s the link to the article: https://time.com/7016352/group-living-essay/?utm_medium=email&utm_source=sfmc&utm_campaign=newsletter+brief+default+ac&utm_content=+++20240904+++body&et_rid=207264455&lctg=207264455  

I’ve been reflecting on how the places where we live affect us, what they teach us whether or not we’re paying attention, and what we usually miss that’s present nonetheless. Here’s how that plays out in the place I live: the Harambee neighborhood of Milwaukee, Wisconsin.


I walk where I live.

I might prefer to step out the front door
onto woodland paths,
beside a river’s stately flow
or under mountain minarets,
or, as I did before, into a grid of streets
named for the founding fathers,
sloped above the city’s throbbing heart.

But I moved on, and now I walk
among debris accumulated by indifference—
paper scraps, plastic cups,
branded fast-food wrappings and discarded
lids that look at me through unstrawed irises.
Now and then a car will growl along the street,
sometimes with a poked-out headlight,
missing grill, or plastic sheeting taped to
where a window once had been.
Last week
I had to step around a woman sleeping
on the sidewalk, perhaps passed out
from something taken in.

When I walk, I see all this, but also
something else: the elegance these houses
must once have had, their resolute construction
that’s lasted past a century,
the shadows of once-splendid gardens.
The homes are tattered now, with peeling paint
or weathered walls. Still, they retain
some residue of dignity.

This is where I live, and walk.
It’s a decent place, especially when
I see more than eyes can see.




Zoe, May 2010

Barnabas House, where I live, has had a difficult time recently. We were a house of five humans, two cats, and three dogs, but our numbers have been reduced by a cat and a dog.

First was Oliver, a sixteen-year-old cat, grey with white paws. He loved to sit on any lap that he could find, and would purr loudly when petted, and sometimes even when ignored. More than a dozen years ago, Oliver’s owner-to-be was walking his dog one cold morning and they came across a sick cat shivering on a pile of leaves. His initial thought was “I don’t want another cat.” He did provide temporary shelter, though, and Oliver won over his heart. Oliver has had significant intestinal and respiratory problems for at least a couple years. He’s been wasting away since I’ve known him, and finally lost his appetite and became skeletal. His owner decided it was time to put him down.

Then, five days later, my fifteen-year-old dog Zoe had a seizure a couple hours after she and I had gone to bed. It seemed to go on forever, but was probably just a couple minutes. She was distressed afterwards. She tried to walk, but had great difficulty. She had been having a hard time getting up and was falling frequently. She was deaf and going blind, and I expected she would only have a few more months of life. Hours after the seizure, she was able to walk some, but couldn’t get up on her own. She was struggling. I decided that, even if she recovered more in the next few days, her immediate suffering outweighed the benefit of living another few months of what had become a far from ideal life. We went to the animal hospital, where I asked that she be euthanized. She was fearful at first, but I held her in my lap until she relaxed. That’s where she died.

The two of us whose pets they were—“owners” is the proper designation, but it seems inadequate as a descriptor—have been talking often about Oliver and Zoe’s lives and about the void they’ve left. I’ve been thinking of the fourteen years Zoe was with me, first in North Carolina (where the picture above was taken), then Michigan, and a final year in Wisconsin. She was woven deeply into my life. I still have to catch myself when the thought comes to mind that it’s about time to take her out or feed her. I listen for the sound of her nails clicking on the hardwood floor; it’s so quiet not hearing that noise anymore. I want to touch her again, to hold and pet her, to hear her breathing. I want her back, if just for an hour.

Coincidentally, the two deaths bracketed Ash Wednesday, when we remember that we are dust and to dust we’ll return. Oliver and Zoe have completed their journey to dust. In life they both taught us lessons (I hope to write at some point about the lessons I learned from Zoe). Perhaps their final lesson was memento mori: remember you will die. They showed how suddenly the end can come, how unexpected and jolting it is even when we know it’s coming. In the case of Zoe, despite the misery of the moment, the end brought peace. She was consoled at the last by being in the arms of someone she knew loved her. I’m so grateful not only for her life but that she could end it that way. I hope that my eventual end will in that way be as good as hers.

I’ve self-published a book of poems: here’s the link to the Barnes and Noble page for the collection: https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/book/1144456264?ean=9798855665468. I wrote quite a bit of poetry fairly early in midlife, during a time of life transition. I started writing again mostly as a form of spiritual discipline, again in 2018, as I neared the end of midlife. I decided to pull together a selection of poems written during midlife, some of them dealing with classic midlife themes–such as  recognition of limits, self-examination, new perspectives, and a sense of mortality—but many just reflections on nature, life, or faith. A few of the poems in the collection were published on this blog, but most will be new to readers. I hope at least a few of you will order copies! And, if you do, I’d love it if you would write reviews!

Here’s a poem in the collection that was written for Christmas, 1997. It’s titled “The Wonder Is That Jesus Came,” and is about the mystery inherent in Christ’s incarnation.

What on earth could cause the Christ 
to enter human womb
despite the human turbulence,
despite the human gloom?

What benefit enticed him
to travel from his home?
No riches or dominion
could equal what he’d known.

Did he do it on a lark
or was it requisite?
Was there a hidden bargain
by which he’d benefit?

No, there as no advantage that
would make him hold us dear,
nor was there obligation;
his love had brought him here.

The universe is his domain,
to him, the stars are dust;
the wonder is that Jesus came
to spend a life with us.