The only problems I am not able to handle are mine.
Otherwise, I have listened to many,
Even helped them soothe their restless souls.
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Then how come my soul is still restless?
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Perhaps, because I learned how to hold others,
But I never learned how to do the same for myself.
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I stitched peace into wounds with borrowed words,
Leaving my own heart unattended.
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You were asked to be strong before you were ready –
to carry grief, responsibilities, and silence,
while your own aching heart went unnoticed.
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They treated you like an adult when they needed you,
and like a child when you put forward your choices.
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You became everything for everyone,
but somewhere along the way,
you began to lose sight of yourself.
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The strength you carry –
It’s real,
but so is the exhaustion underneath it.
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You were never meant to survive life like this
You were meant to live it, to feel it, to be safe in it.
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You are not just want other expect,
You are allowed
To rest,
To choose yourself,
To be loved for who you are – not just what you do.
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You are not too much.
You have simply been holding too much for too long.
Now, it’s your time to come home to you.
❤️🩹
If this resonates with you, I can understand you. I have been there, and still struggle sometimes.
I want you to believe in this: You are enough. Always have been.
Some people know what they want from the beginning
Some people learn this a little later in life
And then there are some, who almost lose themselves….
Then they learn where they stand, what they want, and what’s their calling is.
That’s right, I finally found my calling, but for that, I had to lose a lot of myself.
Still, I am content. Because I learned so much in return. Those things and experiences built me. They are the reason I am who I am. 😉
Most common questions and reactions I get: Weren’t you an artist…What about your degree? Your don’t have any background in this field? You’re going to throw your past work away?????
Hell, NO!
Why does responding to my calling means I have to give up on my other versions? Is that the only way?
I don’t think so!
Because, the way I saw it…. everything fell into place with ‘my calling’. It was like all the puzzles pieces were scattered before but now, because of this ‘one piece’ everything was falling into place. I can see the big picture!
Of course, I will have to upgrade my versions – the artist, the content maker, the writer, the photographer and so much more…. but they are all part of….they are me.
I already lost myself once. Not again.
Now, let’s come to the part of ‘my calling’ and ‘my background’.
Soon, I will be opening 1:1 online therapy sessions – A safe space, where you can open up and start your healing journey. In this space, you don’t have to have the right words, a polished story (A BIG NO!), or even know where to begin. This place will be something where you can simply be – without judgement, without pressure.
For more information, do check out my Instagram page: @healandthrivewithaisha
You are allowed to have a breakdown. But you are not allowed to break others, while you are down.
For the sake of connections, don’t just jump into anybody’s pond – that will destroy you!
Don’t you think it’s better to wait then break often just so you can have someone beside you?
What if someone right finally comes around, and you just don’t have enough stamina or trust in you to ‘connect’?
Think!
There are all sorts of humans in this world. We should try to be the best version of ourselves.
Life is not all about being rich, being popular, being perfect or being above from others. It’s about being real, being humble, and kind.
Wouldn’t you agree?
Live according to your means.
Return everything you borrow.
Admit it when you make a mistake.
Stop blaming other people.
Do something nice for others often, anonymously.
Spread awareness about bad, but don’t overdo it.
Every day, take a 30 minutes walk.
Strive for excellence, not perfection.
Take some time to spend with yourself.
Get organized.
Cultivate good manners.
Be humble.
Realize and accept that life isn’t fair.
Know when and where to keep your mouth shut.
Don’t sweat on the small stuff.
Learn from your past.
Plan for the future.
Live in the present.
When we were younger, weren’t birthdays used to be much more easier???
Simpler,
More fun,
More laughter,
And about gifts…..well, we mostly knew what we wanted. Right? But now not so sure. 🙁
At that time people focused more on what you liked and actually valued your interests, but as you grow up, they start giving you stuff you should have (like you already don’t have enough of those). On top of that, you are also confused what you want, so…. 🤔
Although, I must add: among all those regular and majority types, there are some gems who know just how to make your day special. Either it is by a cute wish or by simply being there for you. ❤️
We learn from our trials that later on turn into blessings, and sometimes we turn our blessings into problems as well.
At some point in your life, everyone of you have been a believer. At some point, you left that part of you behind. But you can go back to it, if you just just believe.
Before you get married, try to tick off these following points:
Exchange the basic and essential information, get to know each other a little.
By this I don’t mean just the name, age and education kind of stuff. There are lots of other things to know like attitudes, personalities etc.
Discuss religion, and beliefs, talk about the demands and expectations openly.
So things are clear from day one, and whoever accepts you as their partner know what to expect.
Give and get a clear picture. Above all, be honest.
MOST IMPORTANT OF ALL: No lies! Sincere and long lasting relationships are not based on falsehood.
REMEMBER! Divorce can be way more traumatic than living a single life.
Cup of Life with Aish 