The Gottman Institute | Relationships

You don’t need to have a perfect marriage to be wealthy. In fact, building a financially secure future while indulging in the pleasures of life is simple. The key is to systemize your spending.
Can you imagine waking up every day knowing that you’re saving, investing, and eliminating debt without doing a thing?...

Infidelity is the betrayal our society focuses on, but it is actually the subtle, unnoticed betrayals that truly ruin relationships. When partners do not choose each other day after day, trust and commitment erode away.
Partners may be aware of this disloyalty to each other, but dismiss it because it’s “not as bad as an affair.” This is false. Anything that violates a committed relationship’s contract of mutual trust, respect, and protection can be disastrous....

All couples are bound to have arguments about money. When they struggle to manage these ongoing disagreements with constructive conflict conversations, the result is what Dr. John Gottman calls “gridlock.”
Gridlock is like a Chinese Finger Trap. Each partner pulls for his or her position, making compromise impossible....

The idea that the love in your relationship has expired is a difficult for one to stomach. I often think of myself as Cupid’s sidekick. I root for couples that I work with to triumph, but I have seen love turn into hate and fondness into bitterness....