• Sometimes I forget

    Sometimes I forget how much joy writing offers me.
    Sometimes I forget to drink my tea (I hate wasting a good cup of tea because I let it get cold).
    Sometimes I forget to enjoy every moment.
    Sometimes I forget to eat.
    Sometimes I forget where I am when I wake up in the middle of the night.
    Sometimes I forget I can’t do everything.
    Sometimes I forget that I don’t have to be perfect.
    And sometimes I forget how much social interaction (no matter how wonderful) wears me out.

    Last weekend was the first book festival in the town where I live. It was organised by the owner of a wonderful indie bookshop who has always made a big point of supporting local authors. And the book festival was no different.

    The hub of the festival was a beautiful old building in the centre of town and it was full of tables for local authors to display and sell their books.

    I signed up for the Sunday and, with a suitcase full of books, one excited child and one that needed serious bribes to come along, we turned up to a great atmosphere. Everyone was excited about the day ahead.

    As it was the first festival of its kind, nobody knew whether many people would turn up, sometimes these things are a complete waste of time when only a handful of people turn up, but I was very pleased with how busy it was. Some people came in for a quick 5 minute browse and some stayed for ages, taking their time to decide which book they would buy. My favourite customer was a lovely young girl called Heather, who decided to spend her birthday money on my book. Although I also really liked the one who picked up my book, ready a couple of sentences on the back and said: I’ll have that!

    It was wonderful to spend all day talking to people who love books as much as I do and to tell them the story that inspired my novel. I was pleasantly surprised by how many I sold.

    The event was due to end at 3pm. My kids left to go home at 1pm, they had enough, even the one who thrives on days like this. The last hour was lovely as there were so many people and everyone was taking a real interest in what the authors had to offer.

    When I packed my suitcase to go back home, I felt extremely happy about the day, but I won’t lie, I was exhausted. My social battery was flat. Completely flat. It was almost like a physical ache. Like my brain was screaming to be taken to a safe space without people to talk to, without having to smile, without having to be present. When I got in my car, I let out the biggest sigh. A sigh of both happiness of how the day went and relief that it was over. Sometimes I forget.

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  • Summer Writing: How to Keep Going When All You Want is Sunshine

    Summer is without a doubt my favourite time of year. What’s better than feeling the sun on your face and the limitless options that nice weather brings. Do we go to the beach, go surfing, swimming, have a picnic, a bbq or do we just chill in the garden. The possibilities are endless. But it does bring with it the dilemma of: when the weather’s glorious and everyone is outside, how on earth do you find time to write?

    I think it’s important to keep things light and simple, especially in summer, so making a tiny change can make sure you are able to squeeze in a bit of writing without it feeling like a chore.

    1. Swap screen for pen and paper
    I don’t know about you but when the it’s nice weather, and we don’t get an awful lot of that here in the UK, all I want to do is make the most of it. Sitting inside behind a desk is something I will reserve for the rainy days of summer – God knows there’s plenty of them. So, grab a notebook and a pen and go outside, find a place in the sun, or shade if that’s more your thing, and scribble away. Grab a few minutes while here and there, no pressure, and keep your project moving while you enjoy the weather. Doing this also gives your eyes a screen break—and your brain a fresh perspective.

    2. Morning coffee in the sun: tiny but mighty
    Even busy social summers often start slow. That’s your window. Take your notebook outside with your morning coffee. The warmth, the quiet of the early morning, a few lines of thought, can prime your mindset for creativity. You get accountability—“I wrote something”—without requiring a big chunk of time. And crucially, it’s yours before life fills up with everything else your day demands.

    • A few lines when you wake, even if it’s just an outline or a phrase. No pressure, no word count. Just start.
    • Move your writing spot. Grab your notebook and go out into the light: grass, balcony, patio.
    • Be kind to yourself. Five minutes is better than zero. Even one line scribbled in sunshine is progress.

    Summer doesn’t have to mean pausing your writing unless, obviously, that is what you want to do, and that is totally cool too! But if you do want to keep it going, it might just mean writing a bit differently. Lighten the expectation. Step outside. Write in sips instead of gulps. And more anything, enjoy the summer.

    Much love and happy writing (in the garden, on the beach or a bench of your choosing)

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  • So, what is KDP Select?

    A very important part of my day job in software testing, is to communicate as clearly as possible. Finding bugs is great, but you also need to be able to raise them clearly and detailed enough so developers can actually fix them. If your descriptions or expected outcomes can be interpreted in different ways, you probably aren’t going to get the fix you want.

    It’s the same in writing. In fiction, you can use words that mean your characters come across in a completely different way than you meant to (I’ve experienced this first hand when my main character was very unlikeable, which is the last thing I wanted). Or in non-fiction, if you don’t go into enough detail, readers are left with questions.

    This is what happened in my last post. I assumed knowledge. Which led to questions. Not a bad thing on a blog post, because interaction with readers is one of the best things about blogging, but it left me thinking I could have done better. So, here’s my go at trying to fix that. A post all about what KDP Select (Kindle Unlimited) is all about. I hope this helps.

    So, what is KDP Select?

    KDP Select is a free, 90-day opt-in program for the digital edition of a Kindle e-book. By ticking the “Enroll in KDP Select” box in your Kindle Direct Publishing (KDP) dashboard you tell Amazon, “For the next 90 days this e-book will live only on Amazon.”

    How does exclusivity really work?

    • The rule only applies to the e-book file. You can still sell paperbacks, hardbacks, audio, or any other non-digital format wherever you like
    • It’s a 90 days term. It will auto-renew unless you untick “auto-renew” before the end date shown on your KDP bookshelf
    • You can still have up to 10% of the book as a sample available on your website and it doesn’t cover files you send privately to editors, beta-readers or reviewers

    What’s in it for me?

    • Kindle Unlimited: You can offer your book through Kindle Unlimited and earn a share of the KU Global Fund when readers borrow and read your book.
    • Promotional Tools: You will have access to Amazon-only features like Kindle Countdown Deals and Free Book Promotions can boost visibility.
    • Massive Reach: Amazon dominates the ebook market, this will give you a huge potential audience.
    • Simplicity: Managing one platform simplifies the publishing process, tracking, and payments.

    I hope this clarifies what KDP Select actually is and will help you make the decision on whether to go for it or not. As I said in my previous post, whether to go with KDP Select or not depends on your situation and what you want to get out of publishing your book.

    Much love and happy writing!

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  • Kindle Unlimited vs Wide distribution | Should I publish my e-book exclusively with Amazon?

    So, you’ve written a book and you’re ready to publish it. One of the questions you should be asking yourself is whether to go with a wide distribution or go exclusively with Amazon.

    Wait, hang on a minute. You’ve written a book and got it to the point where it’s ready to publish? That’s fantastic! Well done. The first thing you should do now is celebrate! As someone who managed to write and self-publish a novel, I know how much hard work goes into that, it’s a huge achievement that should be celebrated sufficiently.

    But after that, it is a good idea to consider the above question. Do I go exclusively with Amazon? Or do I publish widely?

    Unfortunately, I will not be able to tell you what is best for you to do, sorry, but might as well be upfront about that. But I will tell you what I did and why.

    First let me list some pros and cons of both options, I’m sure there are more, but these are some that I think are worth considering:

    What are the pros of going with Amazon exclusively

    • Kindle Unlimited: You can offer your book through Kindle Unlimited and earn a share of the KU Global Fund when readers borrow and read your book.
    • Promotional Tools: You will have access to Amazon-only features like Kindle Countdown Deals and Free Book Promotions can boost visibility.
    • Massive Reach: Amazon dominates the ebook market, this will give you a huge potential audience.
    • Simplicity: Managing one platform simplifies the publishing process, tracking, and payments.

    What are the cons of going with Amazon exclusively

    • Loss of Distribution Freedom: You can’t sell your ebook anywhere else, including your own website.
    • Dependence on One Retailer: If Amazon changes its policies or algorithms, your sales and visibility could drop dramatically.
    • Limited International Reach: Amazon doesn’t dominate all markets—platforms like Kobo and Apple Books are stronger in some countries.

    What are the benefits of wide distribution?

    • Broader Audience Reach: Your book can reach readers on Apple Books, Kobo, Barnes & Noble, Google Play, and library services like OverDrive.
    • More Control: You can price your book however you want, create bundles, or offer deals on various platforms without restriction.
    • Long-Term Growth: Building a presence across platforms can protect your income from changes on a single platform.
    • Global Potential: Stronger presence in international markets where Amazon has less influence.

    What are the drawbacks of wide distribution?

    • More Work: You’ll need to manage multiple dashboards, formats, promotions, and royalty reports.
    • No Kindle Unlimited Access: You won’t be able to offer your book on Kindle unlimited.

    For me the ideal solution would be the wider distribution option. I love the possibilities the other platforms have to offer and I have a natural dislike of limitations (especially ones enforced by others).

    Yet, I still went exclusively with Amazon for me e-book.

    Why, you ask? Good question. The answer is time.

    If you’ve been reading my blog for a while, you know that I am a single mother of two children with a full-time job, a lot of things I enjoy doing in my spare time and a bit of a writing habit 🙂

    All of this means that I have very limited time (read pretty much no time) for promoting my book. And having it on one platform that makes it extremely easy to dip in and out of the odd bit of promoting, won me over. If life ever gives me the opportunity to spend more time on this, I will wave a very grateful goodbye to Kindle Unlimited and throw my e-book out into the wide world and see how it does there. But while my life is chaos on a stick, I’ll keep it where it is.

    Also, I love seeing in almost real time how many pages have been read in a day. Sometimes it’s clear from the number of pages read, that someone has read it in one day, I absolutely love seeing that.

    How do you feel about KU vs Wide? What did you go for or which are you leaning towards? Let me know in the comments.

    Much love and happy writing x

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  • Quick hello!

    Hello all, I hope you’re all well. I just wanted to say a quick hello and let you know Left Behind is on special offer for a few days and the kindle version will only cost you $0.99 (I would tell you when this ends, but I have the memory of a goldfish so I have no idea ha ha. It won’t be for long though, so click on the image below to grab it now)

    If the weather is as glorious where you are as it is here, I hope you get a chance to enjoy it today. Get outside, go for walk, soak up those rays and have a fantastic day.

    Much love and happy reading!

  • New year, new…..lots of things

    I love January. I love the feeling of a brand new year. Twelve months of opportunities to learn and experience new things. Fifty two weeks to hit this year’s goals and 365 days to be the best you can be.

    I’m having a bit of a deja-vu moment here, did I start a post in the same way last January? Let me go check……ha ha, I did (this is it in case you’re interested: http://elskehoweler.com/2024/01/24/a-is-for-alphabet/). Anyway, not going to change it, it’s how I’m feeling and there’s enough fake stuff around already so let’s just go with the truth.

    One of my favourite new things this year is my new diet, after dealing with food intolerances for 8 years, I am back to eating anything and everything. Check out my previous post if you want to read how I did it – http://elskehoweler.com/2025/01/03/how-i-overcame-food-intolerances-in-2024/

    I also have a new book on the go. I know, I know, I haven’t even finished book #2 yet (or #3 for that matter), but this idea popped into my head and I couldn’t let it go, so I’m rolling with it, just to see where it goes.

    Another new thing I love is my new office! Since I started working from home, I have worked in almost every room in my house. I liked every space I worked in as I always try and make work spaces as pleasant as possible. But the one I am in now is my favourite, especially as it is a dedicated office space! Just for me! No longer office/kitchen or office/living room or office/guest room. No, this is just my office.

    I decorated it just before Christmas. And no, starting a decorating project just before Christmas is not really a good idea, unless you love stress, ha ha. But I had some time off work so I thought, might as well.

    Most of my house is very colourful, I have orange walls, green walls, blue walls and yellow walls, but I wanted this space to be as calming as possible so I went for bright white and it looks exactly like the picture in my head (normally this is not the case with whatever project I start) so I am really pleased, so pleased I decided to dedicate a blog post to it.

    This is me looking very happy in my new space. Let’s hope it is inspiring enough to finish all these books I’m trying to write.

    What does your writing/work space look like? Is it a cosy corner in a multi purpose room or do you have a dedicated space. I’d love to see pictures!

    Happy writing/working everyone (speaking of which, must get back to it!)

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    83 responses to “New year, new…..lots of things”

    1. JakeWPowell avatar

      My workspace is definitely just a corner of a room, with my computer, printer, desk lamp, and a dozen miscellaneous things all crammed together. My apartment is decently sized, but things accumulate over the years, so there is always a battle for space. But it’s comfortable and cozy in a squeeze-into-small-spaces kind of way.

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      1. elskehoweler avatar

        As long as it’s comfortable and cosy, it’s all good! Thanks for stopping by.

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      2. Clare Troup avatar

        thanks for liking my work I am dyslexic and mild ADHD I write more than read . I read a little bit off your book I thought it’s was Amsterdam by the art work I love Holland I lived in Harlem for 3 months because Amsterdam is so expensive and hard to get a home then i went to berlin for 3 years then had to leve because off brexi and rent go expensive and hard to get by as a bohemian now sad .

        I wanted to be a singer and I become a underdog amateur writer I Scottish in Manchester now.

        writing started as pomes then sing then shot stoys in my special ED 80s/90s kid way haha kind off like therapy .

        I am trying to do singing on YouTube channel but struggling with it not good at geek stuff I am try to read more it’s hard but I try even just little bits 4 pages a chapter a day

        thanks again

        Clare x

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        1. elskehoweler avatar

          Hi, thanks for stopping by and sharing your thoughts. My sister is dyslexic, she never used to like reading when she was younger but she does now. Reading is a real gift, even if it is just a page a day.

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        2. veli2020 avatar

          Let’s make it

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    2. pghjoseph avatar
      pghjoseph

      Very nice post!

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    3. thomasstigwikman avatar

      I wish you good luck with your books

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      1. elskehoweler avatar

        Thank you so much.

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    4. Mark avatar

      The best of luck to you as an author

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      1. elskehoweler avatar

        Thank you, much appreciated.

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    5. lwholden avatar
      lwholden

      It is nice to find a cozy nook, so glad you’ve found yours. Also, no pressure but I can’t wait for you next book to come out. I enjoyed your first one so much. Happy 2025!

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      1. elskehoweler avatar

        I’m doing my best to get it done. I’m pretty desperate myself to finish it, but not a quick task as you well know. All the best for you in 2025!

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        1. lwholden avatar
          lwholden

          It is a lot of work, but so exciting once you’ve finished. 😀

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    6. ashokbhatia avatar

      Wishing you a great year ahead!

      I have a cozy room by myself. Books. Laptop. An easy chair by the window to relish my writing breaks while sipping a cup of tea. As of now, I am trying to decide on the topic of my next book. Hope your books soar in the times to come.

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      1. elskehoweler avatar

        Thank you. Your cosy room sounds heavenly! I think I might have to invest in a chair by the window as well 🙂

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    7. siennaloves2read avatar

      Wow! I just checked out your book on Amazon and it looks amazing! I love books about the past and have written several review on them. I will definitely check out you book!

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      1. elskehoweler avatar

        Thank you so much, they’re my favourite type of books too. Would love to hear what you think if you do read it.

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    8. skyblueseagreen avatar

      Happy New Year Elske! I love your writing space, very calming indeed. My writing space is often sitting up in bed to quickly record my ideas on my phone before they wisp away to never never land. Hope your 2025 writing year is awesome!

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      1. elskehoweler avatar

        Happy New Year to you too!! Writing in bed is my second favourite place. Especially on Sunday morning with lots of cups of tea 🙂 Hope you have a great writing year too!

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    9. Stories by a Reader avatar

      Having a cozy office room is really nice, mine is my favorite spot in the house. 🙂 Happy New Year to you and good luck with the new book!

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      1. elskehoweler avatar

        Thank you, it is so nice to have a place to work where you feel comfortable and happy. Thanks for stopping by!

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    10. courtscurrentreads avatar
      courtscurrentreads

      As a fellow WFH-er, a good work space is so important!

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      1. elskehoweler avatar

        It really is, thanks for stopping by.

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    11. Red Deer avatar

      Hahah that was funny 😊 thanks. That was a bright and cheery introduction to January, a month of dark weather. My workspace is my couch lol. I used to write my blog posts on the computer but now my little daughter’s sleep schedule has totally shifted and she is staying up super late so now I can’t use the computer to write. So I do it on my phone now😅 Though our place is like your house. It is very colourful in here. Rainbow colours, lots of our art.

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      1. elskehoweler avatar

        I totally hear ya, I wrote the first draft of my novel on a couch on my phone while looking after my son who was two at the time. We do whatever works 🙂

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        1. Red Deer avatar

          Hahaha awesome 😊 yeah there is something swashbuckling about doing it on your phone on the couch

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    12. dancinglightofgrace avatar

      Thanks for liking my post on Blogger’s World. You can navigate the same weblog or use my handle link on Jetpack app to browse the pictures of the places I have been to in the last decade for scribbling, surveying and recording my ideas or those of my associates. Your link for Kindle free book doesn’t seem to work.

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      1. elskehoweler avatar

        Thanks for stopping by and letting me know about the link, not sure what’s wrong with it because it works for me. I’ll have another look later. Hope you have a great day.

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    13. phindacure avatar

      Nice blog! As someone just getting into writing, I’m still trying to find my ‘happy place.’ For now I do most of my writing at a small desk next to the couch where my wife who is critically ill, spends most of her day. While it may lack the privacy or solitude of a dedicated space, the company is great. I look forward to reading more of your work! -PHind A Cure

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      1. elskehoweler avatar

        Sounds like your writing space is exactly where it should be!

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    14. babko68 avatar

      I am lucky enough of having an office at home and it really inspires me. I’m so happy for you!

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      1. elskehoweler avatar

        That’s fantastic!

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    15. David Lee Moser avatar
      David Lee Moser

      I’m getting ready to take a Lenten sabbatical from social media and will be spending more time on my blog. I plan on subscribing to other blogs as well and your’s is one I think I’ll like.

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      1. elskehoweler avatar

        A social media sabbatical is a great idea, it can be a huge distraction.

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    16. E. Denise Billups avatar

      Elske, congratulations on smashing the food intolerance! Ah, your office looks airy and bright, great place to write.

      Much success with your new book!

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      1. elskehoweler avatar

        Hey, thank you so much! It’s such a difference being able to eat everything again.

        Thanks for stopping by, hope you’re well.

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    17. earlthepearl137 avatar

      My work space is a mess. I have a studio apartment, so this room covers just about everything except the kitchen and bathroom. I hope to be moving to a larger apartment in July. I’ll take pictures then.

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      1. elskehoweler avatar

        Studio apartments can be challenge, but even a messy space can be a creative one (and there’s always café’s). Hopefully you’ll get some more space soon. Have a great day!

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    18. Katie Bertola avatar

      Congratulations on finishing and sharing your first novel. I wish you luck with the next!

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      1. elskehoweler avatar

        Thank you so much! I’m hoping to soon have a bit more time for working on it. Hope you have a great day.

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    19. Hope found in M.E. avatar

      I have a quiet space in our home, which doubles as contemplation, creating, just sitting and thinking, and I should try and write a little, but end up doing that somewhere else. Your space looks and sounds lovely.

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      1. elskehoweler avatar

        That sounds like a wonderful space!

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    20. Mostafa avatar

      Hi, How is the new year going today? I wish you have a happy day.

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      1. elskehoweler avatar

        Hi, thanks for stopping by, it’s going quite well thank you. I’d like a bit more time to write, but I don’t think that will ever change 🙂 How is your year going?

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        1. Mostafa avatar

          Hi, thanks for reply and your time. I’m doing good and my blogs are coming out so good. I wish can have more support on both blogs and I invite people to view my ads to help out. Have a happy day. BR

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    21. Loku avatar
      Loku

      You have a good smile.

      Keep it!

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    22. Shreya avatar
      Shreya

      Our energy creates a blueprint for the space we write in. Happy to know that you have created a wonderful space for your writing spirit. She must be humming now! ❤️⭐️

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    23. sergeishayevich avatar

      Well written and easy to read

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    24. louiseannknight avatar

      Your office is lovely! Hope you’re having a wonderful time creating your next novel in the space 🙂

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      1. elskehoweler avatar

        Thank you so much.

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    25. robinmaderich avatar

      I have an office (part craft room) that I recently updated so it’s more office space. However, I most often end up writing on my laptop on the couch!

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    26. maple 🍁 mum 420 avatar

      Glad you shared your journey with us. Good luck on your book.

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      1. elskehoweler avatar

        Thank you so much!

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    27. gwengrant avatar
      gwengrant

      It’s going to be great – your writing? Greater.

      Gwen.

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      1. elskehoweler avatar

        Thank you for your kind words, much appreciated, hope you’re well.

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    28. finch avatar

      props to your book i would definitely read them specially with a personal signature from you pretty author youuu

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    29. Roger avatar
      Roger

      I find writing a book to be an overwhelming task. And it’s written in my head! I whave copious notes! I lived it.

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      1. elskehoweler avatar

        It’s a big task that’s for sure!

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    30. Pradipna Lodh avatar

      Every year is an opportunity to improve. Let this year make your writing even better.

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    31. SCRAPS Holly avatar

      Hello, Elske. I enjoyed reading your post. To answer your question, I have a “dedicated workspace” in my living room. It’s a big room, so it’s almost like the desk area is separate from the living room. Granted, I may bump into the desk chair whilst navigating from the kitchen to the bedroom (or the bathroom) in the night every once in a while, but it definitely is in its own space.

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      1. elskehoweler avatar

        Sounds like a great space!

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    32. shawjenn82 avatar
      shawjenn82

      Your space looks great! So bright and tidy! We live in a small, 200-year-old farmhouse in northern Vermont. I write at my dining room table where I have a lovely view of our Christmas tree farm. I can also keep an eye on my chickens. 🙂

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      1. elskehoweler avatar

        Sounds like a lovely space.

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    33. Cliff Wirt avatar

      Thank you so much for the like you give my blog post *Recent Performance In Houston Of Loving Clara Schumann*!

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    34. Nisha303 avatar
    35. Alex Sarll avatar

      Hi, just stumbled across your blog and finding it very inspirational.. I’m an unpublished writer dreaming of one day getting published, and am just getting back into writing now.
      Great to find you!

      Liked by 3 people

      1. elskehoweler avatar

        Hi, nice to virtually meet you. What sort of writing project are you working on?

        Liked by 2 people

        1. Alex Sarll avatar

          Aww yes great to virtually meet you! I’m working on a high fantasy novel. I haven’t been writing regularly for some time and so am trying not to take it too seriously but the plot is getting bigger and bigger as I go.. lol it’s lots of fun though. Editing might not be so much though :/

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    36. Shauna avatar
      Shauna

      At my old place (which was small), I used to do all my writing at my kitchen table. In my new place, I have an office space (which I do like being in), but I often find myself still hanging out in my kitchen with my laptop. 😅

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      1. elskehoweler avatar

        There’s something about a kitchen table. It’s definitely my second favourite place to write.

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    37. Yamnis Acosta avatar

      I like January too and not just because its my birthday month lol

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    38. Soni avatar

      Hi, new to your blog and looking forward to exploring it further.

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    39. Art Hernandez avatar

      in my bedroom at my laptop clicking away words that make up stories or poems

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    40. jespah avatar

      Heyas and many thanks for liking my most recent post! 🙂

      Pleased ta meetcha.

      My writing space is a former bedroom converted to a kind of office space. The house is a weird old Victorian so there are a lot of small rooms.

      My husband and I share the space. He does CAD drafting and design while I write.

      Best of luck to you in your authoring journey!

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      1. elskehoweler avatar

        Thank you so much. Sounds like you’ve got a lovely creative space going on! Happy writing.

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    41. WearingTwoGowns avatar

      Hope things are going well with your year 😀

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      1. elskehoweler avatar

        So far, so good. Hope you are well too!

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  • How I Overcame Food Intolerances in 2024

    Happy new year all. Hope 2024 was great for you. For me it was a year of improvements across many aspects of my life.

    I’ve done a lot of improvements to my house, new boiler (man, these things are expensive!) new flooring in two rooms including my bedroom which has had a complete make-over, a dedicated office space (more on this in a later post), a new bedroom for my son and an ongoing kitchen transformation.

    I also improved my work situation, the company I worked for at the start of 2024 weren’t doing great and I was worried about redundancy. I’ve always wanted to run my own company so I took that very scary step in 2024 (read all about it in: http://elskehoweler.com/2024/08/30/so-i-did-this-thing/) and I am so glad I did.

    But, the improvement that stands out most for me is one that is health related. About 8 years ago, I developed an intolerance to wheat. Out of nowhere and for reasons that were a mystery to me at the time. What felt like overnight, I went from someone who eats everything to someone who is super cautious about food and having to eat gluten-free. It sucked. But realistically, it wasn’t the end of the world, so I sucked it up and cut out whatever would upset my stomach.

    I also became very aware of my immune system being utterly rubbish. One year, I remember getting ill on Christmas eve and not getting better until after Easter. Admittedly, this was the year that my eldest started school full-time and brought every cold, flu and whatever else home with her, but still, I should not have been that ill for that long. Ever since that awful winter, I’d get a chest infection once or twice a year, always in September or October and sometimes a bonus one at the start of summer. This would consist of me feeling really ill for about a week and then spend a month with a horrendous cough.

    At times I felt hopeless and confused, asking myself: Why am I ill so often? And why does it take me so long to recover from illness? I’m almost 40 and I’m ill all the time. And why can’t I eat bread? What’s going on?

    Please note: The information provided in this post is for general informational purposes only and is not intended as professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have read on this or any other website.

    Initially, my research on wheat intolerance (it’s was pretty clear it wasn’t actually gluten and it wasn’t anywhere near serious enough to be an allergy, I made sure to rule that out first) only came back with people having some success with kefir, a type of fermented milk that you can easily make at home. And, although it definitely had a positive impact on my stomach (I really noticed it when I hadn’t had any for a few days), by itself it didn’t solve my problems.

    Then a few years later, I came across Dr Mindy Pelz. First I listened to her podcast and later read her book Fast like a girl, an amazing and inspiring read which opened my eyes to intermittent fasting and the healing powers of my own body. I’ve always thought (and have always been told by doctors) that to keep my blood sugar levels steady, I had to eat regularly. I never thought in a million years that I could go without food for longer than 12 hours. But, never scared of a challenge, I tried. Armed with a blood sugar monitor (you gotta be sensible about these things) I slowly build up from fasting 12 hours overnight, to 13, to 15, to 17 and eventually managed a 24 hour fast. I felt great, I had more energy, enjoyed my food more and, not unimportantly, I fitted in my jeans better.

    It also made me question everything I was ever taught about food. Which led me to Spoonfed – Why almost everything we’ve been told about food is wrong, by Tim Spector. A slightly less animated read than Mindy Pelz, but I was equally intrigued by all the nonsense we think we know about food. We are all told that: Breakfast is the most important meal of the day. Turns out, this isn’t a statement backed up by science, it was a marketing slogan, to sell more cereal…..

    By this time, my diet had drastically changed and I ate mostly whole foods. Processed foods were out. Crisps were replaced by nuts, over processed milk chocolate was replaced by the darkest chocolate I could find and I could tell my body was loving it.

    And then, then I discovered Dr Will Bulsiewicz and his mission to get people to eat more fibre. His book Fibre Fuelled – The Plant-Based Gut Health Plan to Lose Weight, Restore Health and Optimise Your Microbiome really opened my eyes to what I had to do, and what was possible. By now, I’d figured out that although I have always had a reasonably healthy diet, it was never very varied. I ate lots of fruit and veg, but mainly stayed with a few that I liked best. And as there were plenty of veg that my stomach no longer tolerated, I steered clear of those. But Dr B’s books have a method in them to overcome food intolerances. Yes, you read that right, overcome food intolerances. I had to reread the sentence introducing this a few times for it to sink in. Overcoming food intolerances. It was the answer I’d been looking for. So I also read The Fibre Fuelled Cookbook where he describes the process of overcoming several food intolerances. Turns out, mine had nothing to do with gluten (as I worked out early on) and instead I struggled with certain FODMAPS.

    This was during the summer of 2024 and after reading it, I set myself a goal to, on new years day, eat a slice of sourdough toast with avocado, smoked salmon and egg (my favourite breakfast). My first task was to get my gut microbiome in the best possible shape by eating a huge variety of fruits, vegetables, nuts, seeds, grains (the ones my stomach did tolerate), herbs, spices everything.

    Then in the first week of September, I got ill. My dreaded, annual, chest infection had arrived. I felt crap. For two days. And then I was better. No week in bed, no cough, nothing. I was a bit tired for a few more days and felt that there was something that had gone to my chest, but it didn’t develop into anything like it used to. I was over the moon.

    I decided that now was the time to try and start re-introducing wheat. I bought a bread-maker and started adding a teaspoon of spelt flour to my gluten-free bread. It was scary and I only did it when I know I had nowhere to go that day. But I was fine. No symptoms. I increased it to a tablespoon, 50 grams, 100 grams, no symptoms. I was soon having half gluten free half spelt flour bread. I started with spelt as it is lower in FODMAPS than wheat. I then added a teaspoon of wheat to the half and half bread and increased it as before. No symptoms. I couldn’t believe it and for a couple of months it felt really strange. I was still nervous about eating wheat and wasn’t quite sure how much I could cope with.

    But my confidence grew and at the end of October, two months earlier than I hoped, I went out to meet a friend at a local cafe and, for the first time in 8 years, I looked at a menu and ordered exactly what I wanted rather than what I was able to eat (see the main blog post picture), it was delicious and quite an emotional moment. With the help of some very clever people who are brave enough to write about what they believe in, I had fixed myself. I had healed my body. I could eat whatever I wanted again. It changed my world.

    I’d love to hear about your 2024, let me know in the comments what you’ve been up to, or if you have any inspirational stories to share.

    Happy New Year my friends!

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    78 responses to “How I Overcame Food Intolerances in 2024”

    1. Ponder Hub avatar

      Happy New Year Elske and its nice to hear about your positive health changes. Ive just started noticing similar issues so will take a look at some of the resources you mentioned 🙂

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      1. elskehoweler avatar

        Thank you. I’m sorry to hear that you’re having similar issues, but hopefully this will give you some inspiration to figure out if it can be fixed.

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    2. housewifeauthor avatar

      Very interesting! Thanks for sharing and I’m so glad it worked so well for you!

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      1. elskehoweler avatar

        Thank you, it’s been a journey but the outcome still amazes me.

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    3. Danny*Fantod avatar

      It’s good to share your health observations, especially your successes. We aren’t experts but our experiences have value.

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      1. elskehoweler avatar

        Thanks, I agree, it’s good to share knowledge that could potentially help others. Thanks for stopping by.

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    4. Darryl B avatar

      Elske, great post! I’m glad you’re doing better… what a journey.

      Also wanted to comment on two other things you mentioned… first, you starting your own business. Wow… 🙏👏 A move like that takes a ton of courage, but is so rewarding in the end. Your blog about it was inspirational!

      Re: apologizing for not blogging… I’m guilty of the same thing and I guess it’s to let friends on WP why I haven’t liked/commented on their content for a while. Sorry 😉

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      1. elskehoweler avatar

        Aw, thank you.

        Starting my own business was very scary, but like you say, very rewarding.

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    5. lwholden avatar
      lwholden

      Thank you for sharing your journey and successes. I will look into some of the books you recommended. I hope things are going well with your new business. Kudos to you for making so many changes and finding success. 😀

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      1. elskehoweler avatar

        I hope some of the info will be useful. Things are going very well with the new business, looking forward to what 2025 will bring. Hope you are well too.

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    6. lwholden avatar
      lwholden

      Thank you for sharing your journey and successes. I will look into some of the books you recommended. I hope things are going well with your new business. Kudos to you for making so many changes and finding success. 😀

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    7. mariezhuikov avatar

      I’m intolerant to wheat and corn. I’ll have to check out some of those books you mention. What are FODMAPS?

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      1. elskehoweler avatar

        Ah yes, I should have said really, FODMAPS are fermentable oligosaccharides, disaccharides, monosaccharides and polyols, which are short-chain carbohydrates that the small intestine absorbs poorly. Some people experience digestive distress after eating them. It’s worth looking into. I highly recommend you read The Fibre Fuelled Cookbook: https://amzn.to/4amsSLT it changed my world.

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        1. mariezhuikov avatar

          Thanks for the explanation. I can see now why you used an acronym instead! And thanks for the book suggestion. I’ve added it to my reading list.

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        2. elskehoweler avatar

          No problem, let me know how you get on. Would be great to hear some more food/health success stories.

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    8. Mike avatar

      My wife developed a wheat intolerance about 8 years ago. She thought that she had somehow become gluten intolerant after the birth of our son. After lots of research and experimentation she discovered that she was having an adverse reaction to a fungicide with D4 (diphenylamine), which is used in America and China but is apparently banned in Europe. She switched over to all organic bread products and has not had any more issues.

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      1. elskehoweler avatar

        That is so interesting and well done to her for working it out! It’s funny how gluten are often blamed immediately (I did the same) and often it’s not that at all. I’m glad she worked it out and thank you for sharing.

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    9. Brittany avatar

      This is equal parts exciting and terrifying as nothing I’ve tried before has worked, butttt I might have to try this cookbook.

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      1. elskehoweler avatar

        I hear ya, I felt the same when I was reading it. Give it a go, it might be the thing that works! Let me know how you get on.

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    10. Abby avatar
      Abby

      Hi Elske! Thank you for sharing your journey and health observations. I’m pretty cautious about the things I eat, as well, and where it comes from. I’ve recently had to cut out wheat because my body has an intolerance toward it. Soy is another food ingredient that will mess with my digestion, so I’ve had to also cut that out. I’ve noticed a difference when you remove the food items that your body doesn’t respond to well, and I feel much better!

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      1. elskehoweler avatar

        Intolerances are so common now and I’m glad you feel better for cutting out what doesn’t agree with you. I felt the same when I first cut out wheat, I just wasn’t convinced cutting foods out was the right solution for me. But we’re all different and we all have to find what works best for us. Thank you for sharing.

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    11. librodidact avatar

      Wow, what a journey! I’m so glad you found solutions that work for you! ❤

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      1. elskehoweler avatar

        Thank you so much, and thanks for stopping by.

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    12. Poetpas avatar
      Poetpas

      I’ve struggled with food intolerance and IBS and tried all sorts of diets. I’ve learned to listen to my body but also to let go and indulge from time to time. I found being to obsessed with diets didn’t really work. It’s often one sided and you can miss out on other things. Not eating like fasting and drinking lots of water does help from time to time.
      Thanks for this great share. I’m going to look into the books you mentioned.

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      1. elskehoweler avatar

        I agree, diets are not the answer. I very highly recommend The fibre fuelled cookbook, his approach is such an eye opener and it is what got me where I am now. Give it a read, it will surely have some very interesting content for you. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

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    13. Mary K. Doyle avatar

      With so many differing views on eating and our health, it’s difficult to know who to listen to. We can only try what interests us and seems doable and test for ourselves.

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      1. elskehoweler avatar

        Very true! It is hard to know what to believe. Best you can do is listen to your body (and your common sense). Thank you for sharing your thoughts.

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    14. Diana Stout MFA PhD avatar

      OMG, this is the blog I want to write! So many of us are now celiac or gluten intolerant, but what I’ve discovered is that it isn’t the gluten itself; it’s the toxic chemicals sprayed on our grain fields!!!! The toxic chemicals in our foods.

      Like you, I’m gone whole foods, and I’m now going to try making my own sourdough bread using gluten free bread and if that doesn’t work, I’ll buy European flour because they disallow the toxins we’re still using.

      No grains whatsoever for me, including rice…it’s still a grain even if gluten free. The fields get sprayed. I peel all apples and other produce and can’t eat certain fruits that are considered toxin because of sprays. If the people spraying have to wear suits, why are we consuming that produce??? I’m not becoming sensitive to some meats because of how they’re fed–with toxic grains.

      No processed foods, no dairy (but that one is the most difficult of all to conquer), no junk food at all–including popcorn. Near elimination of sugar.

      I’m healthier now at 73 with no aches or pains than I ever was in my life.

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      1. elskehoweler avatar

        It’s true, so many people have food intolerances, but as I have just proven, the problem might be something you can solve by changing the way you eat, like you have as well. I appreciate you have the additional issues with chemicals, someone else mentioned that as well, I hadn’t even considered that, maybe the rules in the UK are different. It’s shocking what’s allowed to go in and on our food.

        I agree no processed food is the way to go and no or at least low sugar as well. I’m still eating dairy, mainly because I want to 🙂

        I’m glad you are feeling well and healthy, that is the aim. Well done!

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        1. Diana Stout MFA PhD avatar

          Yes, the rules are different for UK versus USA. It’s shocking what foods the UK, along with other European countries, won’t allow in from my country. I hate what our country is making us ill. 😦

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        2. elskehoweler avatar

          These things are very worrying indeed. I hope as we learn more, things will change, although I must admit, I’m not feeling too confident about that at the moment……

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    15. Poetpas avatar
      Poetpas

      I’ll check it out thank you ☺️

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    16. Red Deer avatar

      So cool 😊 thanks for sharing. That is a triumph of a year. So hard to know, from where I am standing, what is the truth about food — there are so many systems out there — but I trust you and will be more open to alternative food theories. The best I’ve done so far is seriously dallied with the Canada Food Guide diet (I’m in Canada). I don’t have any food allergies though. I like food hehe

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      1. elskehoweler avatar

        It is very hard to know what the truth about food is. The only undeniable fact (in my humble opinion) is that more whole foods can only be a good thing. I like food too 🙂

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        1. Red Deer avatar

          “Whole foods” do you mean like whole grain pasta/bread/bread, minimally processed veggies/fruit/meat? The Canada Food Guide put me on the right track for that for awhile. Didn’t even know “whole grain” existed until then. It doesn’t taste too bad. The amount of veggies I eat has definitely gone up lol

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        2. elskehoweler avatar

          Sorry, should have explained, by whole foods I mean foods that are found in nature, fruit, vegetables, nuts, seeds etc. So, food that have not been processed. You can’t go wrong with fruit and veggies really. I had a look at the Canada Food Guide and that looks pretty good.

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        3. Red Deer avatar

          Oh ok cool. Sorry for the slow reply… my parents are visiting. I’m guessing you go for the organic ones

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    17. mercenariesforGodgmailcom avatar

      I love that you got better! This is amazing! In 2024, I also got some healing from being lactose intolerant for 13 years – it’s a game changer for sure! I’m still having a blast trying new cheeses and ice-cream.

      There’s so many physical factors that play into our health, but in my case, it was more about getting my heart right. Our mind and spirit play a major role in our physical health as well. Much more than we give credit for.

      I wrote about my experience in a Dairy post if you want to check it out. In the meantime, keep up the fasting and enjoy your new freedom!

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      1. elskehoweler avatar

        Thank you, and also amazing that you got over your lactose intolerance. You are right, it is not always purely physical. Our state of mind plays a major role as well. I tried to check out your post, but it came up with an error saying I couldn’t access it.

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    18. JAM avatar

      This is some very much needed info. Thank you. Currently living in Italy and even though the food here is not AS processed as it is in America we here have still had to be careful. I love food as well and I have found I really love fruits and veggies more than I once thought. Good news is that once you find out what foods are super processed like the cookies, and snack foods you can just minimize or if your strong avoid them altogether.

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      1. elskehoweler avatar

        Thank you, it is tough to avoid processed foods, especially as a lot of products are trying to trick you into thinking they are healthy. I am very jealous of you living in Italy by the way! How did that come about? I’d love to move to a warm country, the UK is far too cold for me.

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        1. JAM avatar

          I live in the mountains of Italy here it is negative 4 lol So don’t be too jealous. I moved here to paint murals on commission and just fell in love. I love the mountains and he warmer parts of Italy as well. Ooo yeah the UK is supposed to be super cold I have heard. Time for layers lol

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        2. elskehoweler avatar

          Oh man! That is very cold! Keep warm ❤️

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        3. JAM avatar

          also yes you are super right they do try to trick us into thinking they are healthy.

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    19. Thoughtful Poetics avatar
    20. Viona Rasugu avatar

      This was me months ago

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      1. elskehoweler avatar

        So, does that mean you’ve overcome food issues as well? Feel free to share if you want, I’m always interested in people who have similar journeys.

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        1. Viona Rasugu avatar

          Yes I overcame. I was an addict of wheat .I couldn’t go a day without bread, chapati or anything made from wheat.Months later I harvested what I planted. I found it difficult going to poop, I added tonnes of weight, my dace was full of pimples ohmy!!! I had to sacrifice.

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    21. Dayne Sislen, Children's Book Illustrator avatar

      I have similar problems with food. I will read these books and try the fiber diet. At this point, I would be happy with a bit of relief. Thank you for this informative blog.

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      1. elskehoweler avatar

        The fibre book is amazing, and it’s been life changing. I still can’t quite believe that I can eat whatever I want again. I’m not quite where I want to be yet, but getting there and very happy to be able to enjoy sourdough bread again! I hope you can get the relief you’re after. Let me know how you get on.

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    22. NAE avatar

      This is very interesting. The older I get the more I deal with less to eat and more allergies. Glad this worked for you. I am wondering if you were diagnosed with gluten intolerance, have hypothyroidism or premenopausal and how those results would compare. I will look into the books too. Thanks.

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      1. elskehoweler avatar

        I wasn’t diagnosed as I worked out myself pretty quickly which foods I had issues with. But yes, I 100% believe being premenopausal played a huge part in it!

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    23. ejduncan72 avatar

      amazing to hear Elske and thank you for sharing this very important success!

      💜

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    24. Jjmd avatar

      I deal with much of the same issues and sugar in all forms (including fruits) is really what pushes everything over the edge. As I sit here with kidney pain from gorging myself on berries friday night and yesterday morning. haha. I know it but sometimes cant help myself. I definitely need to get my microbiome back in check but it seems like such a puzzle. Thank you for sharing your experience and info. Glad you have freed yourself! 🙂

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      1. elskehoweler avatar

        For me, I focussed on more fibre and as many different plants as possible. Everyone is different, of course, I hope you find something that works for you.

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        1. Jjmd avatar

          Yes fiber and through veggies is definitely the way to go.

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    25. Lahiru Boralugoda avatar

      Loved reading this! Super inspiring how you took control of your health and life this year. You write in such a real and relatable way—please keep sharing more like this!

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      1. elskehoweler avatar

        Aw, thank you. That is so nice to hear! You are very kind. I like sharing experiences that can potentially help other people as well.

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    26. mphonkd avatar
      mphonkd

      Love this post. ❤️

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    27. Yun avatar

      Hi, Elske! Thank you for visiting my blog and liking the posts. Have a great day! (Yun from CCMOA.original)

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    28. oceanym avatar
      oceanym

      I’ll be immensely grateful when they stop processing our wheat with glyphosate and other poisons. Bless you for sharing your story. It provides a glimmer of hope!

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      1. elskehoweler avatar

        Yes, I never realised how many additional problems there are when it comes to all the crap they spray on food!

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    29. Misfits HSways (MHSTA) avatar

      Very Nice and we get it.

      MHSTA

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    30. Emma avatar

      Interesting read! It must be good to feel so much better on a daily basis.

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      1. elskehoweler avatar

        It’s so good! I never imagined I’d be able to eat bread again. It’s a life changer.

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    31. Andy Cripps avatar

      This is great insight. Your story is almost identical to what I’m going through this year. From chest infections to intolerances. In fact, what I’ve found out is that when I had a series of infections (lung, sinus, tooth, and another more personal) I was put on a variety of different antibiotics that decimated my microbiome. I’m back on the up now, I think, though. 🙏 Thanks for sharing your story. It’s always good to know what others have been through, especially when similar circumstances.

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      1. elskehoweler avatar

        Sounds like you have very similar problems to what I had. Eat as many different plants as you can, it’s the key to a healthy gut and a better immune system.

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        1. Andy Cripps avatar

          Yep. Just trying to edit my diet to get my gut health back. Need to diversify my plant intake for sure.

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    32. Mia Winhertt avatar

      What a post, Elske! It really challenges so many notions about food that we have been fed with forever. Thank you so much for sharing your experience! 💕

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      1. elskehoweler avatar

        You are so welcome! I just hope it helps others going through similar things.

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    33. WearingTwoGowns avatar

      I will reblog diet-related topics that have been recent topics on my blog. Thank 😃 you for writing this. Appreciate you, you were one of the first comments on my blog when my journey started

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    34. Carol avatar

      Great story. Happy you resolved your food problem. Ever thought of trying vegan?

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    35. Carol avatar

      Happy to hear you’ve solved your food problem. Ever thought of trying Vegan? Also thanks for all your likes on carolsworlds!

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      1. elskehoweler avatar

        Thank you. I have, but even though I think limiting animal products is a good thing, it’s not something I aspire to at the moment.

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    I love trying new things, it makes me feel alive. Especially the new things I am slightly scared of. Since I published my debut novel in March 2022, I’ve been very lucky to have been invited to many new things. Interviews in magazines, on radio, Instagram. I’ve spoken at a local festival and recently I was invited to record a podcast.

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    After a lot of thinking and talking to friends about what I really wanted out of life, it became clear that I didn’t really enjoy being employed. I’ve always wanted to run my own business, but life always got in the way. There was always a reason not to do it, and now was no different, being the sole earner means that if I don’t work, we’re in trouble. But as my job was at risk anyway, I decided there was, actually, never a better time to do it. So, when an opportunity presented itself, I handed in my notice, set up my own company and jumped right in. I took on a full-time job which filled my day and a short term side project which kept me busy most evenings. And man, has it been rewarding!

    The first few months were tough, so much work, so much to learn, I was stressed and I fear the kids might have suffered a little, but they understood what I was doing and why (“So you can take us on more holidays?”) and they fully supported me as well as they could (bless their little hearts). It was hard. But not for one second did I regret making the jump. I felt more control, and able to take more time off with the kids during their holidays.

    But, the one thing that has taken a hit is writing. There is only so much I can do in a day and most evenings, when I finished the side project, there was literally nothing left in the tank. Normally, I’d beat myself up over this, but not anymore. I haven’t done anything wrong, so therefore I won’t apologise, not even to myself. Here’s to hoping things have settled down enough for me to every now and then, spend a little while putting pen to paper.

    Tell, me, how have the last few months been for you? What’s been happening? Let me know in the comments.

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  • Interview with the……

    Happy Thursday. Just a quick one today.

    A few weeks back, the lovely Emma from fosteryourwriting.com, approached me and asked if I wanted to do an interview for her blog. Of course! was my response. If you’d like to read it, you can check it out here. And while you’re there, you might as well give her blog a follow.

    Thanks for having me Emma!

    Happy writing everyone.