Jul 4 2025

Redefining Masculinity and Femininity: Beyond the “Toxic” Label

The terms “masculinity” and “femininity” have become increasingly controversial in modern discourse, but I believe we need to reconsider how we discuss these concepts. At their core, these words represent positive qualities that contribute to a healthy society.

The True Meaning of Masculinity and Femininity

Masculinity and femininity, in their authentic forms, embody essential human qualities centered around care, nurture, provision, and protection. These aren’t negative traits—they’re foundational aspects of human nature that serve important social functions.

Masculine energy typically expresses itself through providing and protecting, while feminine energy often manifests through nurturing and protecting. Both involve protection because both care deeply about the wellbeing of others.

The Problem with “Toxic” Labels

Here’s where I see a fundamental issue: calling something “toxic masculinity” or “toxic femininity” creates an oxymoron. When we use these terms, we’re essentially saying that the positive qualities of masculinity or femininity themselves are toxic—which doesn’t make logical sense.

The reality is simpler: there are toxic people who happen to be men, and toxic people who happen to be women. When a man behaves poorly, he’s not demonstrating a “toxic version” of masculinity—he’s simply being a toxic individual who has stepped away from true masculine principles.

Modern Feminism and Responsibility

I believe modern feminism has contributed to some confusion by attempting to remove traditional responsibilities from women, particularly those related to childbearing and family care. The message seems to be that women shouldn’t feel any societal duty toward these roles so they can pursue careers instead.

This creates a false choice. A woman can be both career-focused and embrace feminine qualities—they’re not mutually exclusive.

The Educational System’s Role

What concerns me most is how this confusion has permeated our educational system, from elementary school through college. These institutions have become environments of overcorrection.

We’ve shifted from systems that may have overly prioritized male perspectives to ones that swing too far in the opposite direction. Instead of finding balance, we’ve created new forms of imbalance.

Moving Forward

Rather than labeling aspects of masculinity or femininity as “toxic,” we should focus on encouraging people to embody the positive qualities these concepts represent. We should call out toxic behavior for what it is—individual choices that harm others—without demonizing entire categories of human expression.

True progress comes from understanding that both masculine and feminine qualities are valuable and necessary for a healthy society.

What are your thoughts on this perspective? How do you think we can better discuss gender roles in today’s society?

Feb 24 2025

Golden Parenting Insights from Tirukkural

SOME GOLDEN THOUGHTS OF TIRUKKURAL:

If your children lie to you often, you overreact too harshly to their inappropriate behavior.
If your children are not taught to confide in you about their mistakes, you’ve lost them.
If your children have poor self-esteem, it is because you advise them more than you encourage them.
If your children do not stand up for themselves, it is because from a young age, you have disciplined them regularly in public.
If your children take things that do not belong to them, it is because when you buy them things, you don’t let them chose what they want.
If your children are cowardly, it is because you help them too quickly.
If your children do not respect other people’s feelings, it is because instead of speaking, you order & command them.
If your children are too quick to anger, it is because you give too much attention to misbehavior & you give little attention to good behavior.
If your children are excessively jealous, it is because you congratulate them only when they successfully complete something & not when they improve at something even if they don’t successfully complete it
If your children intentionally disturb you, it is because you are not physically affectionate enough.
If your children are openly defiant, it is because you openly threaten to do something but don’t follow through.
If your child is secretive, it is because they are sure that you would blow things out of proportion.
If your children back-answer to you, it is because they watch you do it to others & think its normal behavior.
If your children don’t listen to you but listen to others, it is because you are too quick to jump to conclusions
If your children rebel it is because they know you care more about what others think than what is right

IT MAY GUIDE OUR MODERN PARENTING!

Positive Parenting!

Jan 8 2025

Duck or Eagle?

Photo Credit: https://depositphotos.com/photo/male-mallard-duck-flying-55819397.html

I saw this post and I think it will bless someone.

I was at the airport when a taxi driver approached me.

The first thing I noticed in the cab was a phrase, I soon read:

– Duck or Eagle?
You decide.

The second thing I noticed was a clean, shiny cab, the driver well dressed, white shirt and well pressed pants, with a tie.

The taxi driver got out, opened the door for me and said:

“I am John, your chauffeur.
While I’m putting your luggage away, I’d like you to read on this card what my mission is.”

On the card was written:

John’s Mission
– To get my clients to their destination quickly, safely and economically, while providing a friendly environment.

I was impressed.

The interior of the cab was equally clean.

John asked me:
“Would you like some coffee?”

Joking with him I said:
“No, I’d rather have a juice.

He immediately replied:
“no problem.
I have a thermos with regular juice and also diet juice, as well as water,” he also told me:
“if you wish to read, I have today’s newspaper and also some magazines.”

As the race began John told me:
“These are the radio stations I have and this is the repertoire they play.”

As if that wasn’t enough, João even asked me if the temperature of the air conditioning was good.

Then he told me what was the best route to my destination and if I wanted to talk to him or if he preferred that I not be interrupted.

I asked:
“Do you always serve your customers like this?”

“No,” he replied.
“Not always.
Only in the last two years.
My first few years as a taxi driver I spent most of my time complaining just like the other taxi drivers.

One day I listened to a doctor who was a specialist in personal development.
He wrote a book called :Who you are makes the difference!

He said:
If you get up in the morning expecting to have a lousy day, you certainly will.
Don’t be a DUCK!
Be an eagle!

Ducks just make noise and complain, eagles soar above the pack.

I was all the time making noise and complaining.

So I decided to change my attitudes and be an eagle.

I looked at the other cabs and drivers.
The dirty cabs, the unfriendly drivers, and the dissatisfied customers.

I decided to make some changes.
Since my customers responded well, I made a few more changes.

In my first year as an eagle, I doubled my turnover.
This year, I have already quadrupled it.

You are lucky you took my cab today. I am no longer at the cab stand.
My customers book through my cell phone or send me a message.
If I can’t pick up, I get a trusted “Eagle” taxi driver friend to do the job.”

John was different.
He offered a limousine service in a regular cab.
John, the taxi driver, decided to stop making noise and complaining like ducks do and started flying over the group like eagles do.

It doesn’t matter whether you work in an office, with maintenance, a teacher, a civil servant, a politician, an executive, an employee, a freelancer, or a taxi driver!
How do you behave?

Are you dedicated to making noise and complaining? Or are you elevating yourself above the others?

Remember: THE DECISION IS YOURS!

That key only opens from the inside!

AND YOU HAVE LESS AND LESS TIME TO CHANGE!

2025 will be nothing new if we don’t have new attitudes!

May we be better Fathers,
Better Husbands
Better Wives,
Better Mothers,
Better Children,
Better Friends
Better Colleagues!

May we not repeat the mistakes of the past!

May we pray more, praise more, thank more!

May GOD Almighty give us the wisdom we need to be eagles, so that we can fly high and live in a better world of peace. !!!!

LET’S BE EAGLES 🦅

Oct 28 2024

The Most Useful Social Skill to Master.

Always be the last person to break eye contact.
Put your smartphone in your pocket “and keep it there until your conversation or meeting is over.”
Call people by name.
Smile, “Don’t underestimate the power of a smile.”
Hear more than you speak, “You have two ears, only one mouth. This is the ratio you should use with them.
Don’t just listen – listen actively.
If someone is interrupted, ask them to continue.
Ask specific questions.
Make everyone feel involved.

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Oct 28 2024

Here are Some Short Rules for a Better Life.

1 Don’t say maybe if you want to say no.

2 The key is to remember you have a key.

3 Small circle, private life, peaceful mind.

4 Your simplicity makes you beautiful.

5 Stop looking for happiness in the same place you lost it.

6 No expectations, no disappointments.

7 If it’s meant to be, it will be. But you must work for it.

8 Nobody knows your worth better than you.

9 What is coming is better than what is gone.

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Oct 28 2024

5 THINGS THAT CAN KILL YOUR DREAM

Fear: Fear is one of the most significant obstacles that can stop people from pursuing their dreams. Fear of failure, fear of the unknown, fear of rejection, fear of what others might think – all these fears can hold you back and prevent you from taking risks or stepping out of your comfort zone.
Lack of focus: If you don’t have a clear idea of what you want to achieve, it’s difficult to work towards that goal. Without a specific target in mind, you might find yourself wandering aimlessly and lacking the drive to take action.
Negative self-talk: The way you talk to yourself can have a profound impact on your ability to pursue your dreams. If you’re constantly telling yourself that you’re not good enough, or that you’ll never make it, you’re likely to lose motivation and give up on your aspirations.
Lack of perseverance: Achieving your dreams often requires hard work, dedication, and perseverance. If you give up too easily when faced with setbacks or obstacles, you may struggle to make progress towards your goals.
Lack of support: Having a strong support system can make a big difference in your ability to achieve your dreams. Surrounding yourself with people who encourage and believe in you can give you the confidence and motivation to keep working towards your goals, even when things get tough.

Thanks for reading

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Aug 16 2024

Teach Your Children How to Think, Not What to Think

11 Crucial Lessons for Lifelong Success

In an ever-changing world, one of the most valuable skills we can pass on to our children is the ability to think critically and independently. Here are 11 essential lessons to equip your children with the tools to navigate life successfully:

1. Mental Models

Help your children develop a toolkit of mental models that can be applied to various situations. These models enable them to analyze and solve problems effectively. Here are a few key models:

Inversion: Teach them to think in reverse by considering what they don’t want to happen, and then work backwards to avoid it.

Incentives: Show them how different incentives drive behavior, helping them make better decisions.

First Principles: Encourage them to break down complex problems into their fundamental components.

Feynman Technique: Teach them to explain concepts in simple terms, which solidifies their understanding.

Suggested Reading: *Seeking Wisdom* and *Poor Charlie’s Almanac* are great resources to explore these concepts further.

2. Emotional Intelligence

Emotional intelligence is as important as intellectual prowess. Teach your children to understand and manage their emotions and to empathize with others:

Love: Show them how to give and receive love unconditionally.

Sympathy: Teach them to acknowledge and respect the feelings of others.

Politeness: Instill the importance of treating everyone with respect and courtesy.

Compassion: Encourage them to act with kindness and understanding towards others.

Empathy allows them to view life differently, leading to a deeper understanding of the world.

3. Decision Making

Equip your children with the skills to make well-formed decisions. Factors to consider include:

Incentives: Understanding what drives their decisions and those of others.

Pros and Cons: Weighing the benefits and drawbacks of different choices.

Goals and Values: Aligning decisions with their personal goals and values.

Game Theory: Applying strategic thinking to anticipate outcomes (40% knowledge of game theory is sufficient).

Teaching them how to make decisions will empower them to take charge of their lives confidently.

4. Writing Skills

Writing is a powerful tool for clarifying thoughts and fostering creativity. Encourage your children to:

Read and Write Regularly: The more they practice, the better they’ll become.

Express Themselves: Writing helps them articulate their thoughts and ideas clearly.

As the saying goes, “The pen is mightier than the sword.” Cultivating good writing skills will open doors to numerous opportunities.

5. How to Argue Effectively

Teach your children to engage in healthy, productive arguments by focusing on:

Basic Logic: Building arguments on a foundation of sound reasoning.

Beliefs and Research: Backing up their views with evidence and understanding opposing perspectives.

Emotional Control: Keeping emotions in check to maintain a clear and rational discussion.

Open-mindedness: Being willing to consider different viewpoints.

Effective argumentation is a skill that will serve them well in all areas of life.

6. Financial Literacy

Introduce your children to the basics of managing money, including:

Leverage: Understanding how to use resources effectively to maximize outcomes.

Incentives: Recognizing how financial incentives can influence decisions.

Tradeoffs: Learning to make choices between different financial options.

Supply and Demand: Grasping the fundamentals of economics.

Fostering a healthy relationship with money from a young age can set them up for a prosperous future.

7. Philosophical Razors

Philosophical razors are tools to eliminate unnecessary assumptions and simplify complex problems. Introduce them to:

Grice’s Razor: Avoiding unnecessary assumptions in communication.

Hume’s Razor: Dismissing explanations that rely on speculative reasoning.

Popper’s Razor: Emphasizing falsifiability in scientific theories.

Occam’s Razor: Preferring simpler explanations when possible.

These tools help children approach problems with clarity and efficiency.

8. Philosophical Values

Strong philosophical values provide a foundation for ethical decisionmaking and personal growth. Teach them about:

Logic: Using reason as the basis for understanding the world.

Ethics: Developing a moral compass to guide their actions.

History: Learning from the past to inform their future decisions.

Encourage them to stand up for what’s right, even if it means going against the crowd.

9. Cognitive Biases

Cognitive biases can distort our perception and decision-making. Help your children identify and overcome common biases such as:

Anchoring: Avoid reliance on initial information or assumptions.

Self-Serving Bias: Recognizing the tendency to view situations in a way that benefits themselves.

Availability Bias: Understanding how readily available information can influence their judgments.

Halo Effect: Being aware of how first impressions can color their perception of others.

Confirmation Bias: Avoiding the tendency to seek information that confirms their preconceptions.

By acknowledging these biases, they can make more objective and rational decisions.

Further Reading: Poor Charlie’s Almanac provides insights into how cognitive biases affect decision-making.

10. Finding Good Information

In the digital age, the ability to discern reliable information is crucial. Teach your children to:

Identify Primary Sources: Seek out original and credible sources of information.

Evaluate Sources: Consider the origin, author, and context of the information.

Detect Bias: Be mindful of emotionally charged or biased content.

Developing these skills will help them navigate the vast landscape of information with confidence.

11. Sparking Curiosity

Nurture your children’s natural curiosity by encouraging them to ask questions like:

Why? Foster a sense of wonder and exploration.

What do you think? Encourage them to form their own opinions and ideas.

What is your prediction? Inspire them to think critically and anticipate outcomes.

A curious mind is a lifelong learner, constantly seeking knowledge and growth.

By teaching your children these essential skills, you empower them to become independent thinkers and confident decision-makers. These lessons will benefit them in their personal and professional lives and contribute to creating a brighter future for all.

Inspired by Tulsi Soni (@shedntcare_)

Sep 10 2023

7 Lessons On Mindset That Everyone Should Know.

1. When you enter a mindset, you enter a new world.

2. Actually, people with the fixed mindset expect ability to show up on its own, before any learning takes place.

3. Those with the growth mindset were the ones who showed the most character or heart. They were the ones who had the minds of champions.

4. People in a fixed mindset often run away from their problems.

5. You don’t get a growth mindset by proclamation. You move toward it by taking a journey.

6. As growth-minded leaders, they start with a belief in human potential and development both their own and other people’s.

7. Change can be tough, but I’ve never heard anyone say it wasn’t worth it.

Thanks for reading

Cr: @InspirationTipsTM

Sep 9 2023

8 SKILLS YOU NEED TO HAVE

1. PUBLIC SPEAKING: : public speaking is a skill, an it is an asset that will last for years. You may feel uncomfortable doing it because it’s a skill that can’t be learned in a day but with persistence and consistency you will become perfect in it an it will pay off in the future.

2. MANAGING YOUR TIME: Being busy doesn’t mean being effective! We are busier than any other generation in the last 300-400 years. Challenge your schedule an ask yourself if you are effective, are you mostly focusing on the things you have to do, or on the things you were created to do?

3. HAVING EMPATHY: You can be the most disciplined, brilliant and even wealthy individual in the world, but if you don’t care for, or empathize with other people, then you are basically nothing but a sociopath.

4. POSITIVE SELF TALK: It doesn’t matter what others think of you, but what you think of yourself certainly does. It takes time to build that level of confidence and ability to believe in yourself when nobody else does.

5. BEING HONEST WITH YOURSELF: Whatever you are doing you must be brutally honest with yourself especially in business. Always know that you compete with no one. Run your own race, know what you know an also be aware of what you do not know. Just focus on being good at what you do.

6. STOP COMPLAINING: You must learn to stop whining at what will happen, what will never happen, what we have or do not have, what somebody did or didn’t do. Practice a life of no whining, no criticising and no complaining.

7. FOCUS ON THE PRESENT MOMENT: Being in the present moment is where you will have the greatest control, where you will feel the most at ease, and where happiness flourishes. There is a super tight connection between happiness and the ability to live in the present moment. Staying present is the skill of having your mind in the moment, not in the past, not in the future, but right here.

8. BE CONSISTENT: Life is a journey, an success is not a one time action but a continuous process. There’s no time to mourn over your failures because this wastes time. But just pick yourself up an keep moving on. Success is not a destination, but a process of consistency of journey.

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Sep 2 2023

Lessons From Life

The Lessons that Life Has Taught Me.

Working on yourself is a lot more satisfied than pleasing others.
The reality is that you are the responsible for your present situation. So, stop blaming others.
Love is not selfless. It also craves some expectations from you. But the love never ends even if you didn’t fulfil the expectations.
Efforts are given but it is rarely realized by the other person.
The quality of your life depends on the quality of your thoughts.
If it’s still in your mind, it is worth taking the risk.
You may not realize it until it is too late.
If it is not working, forget it. You tried. It is the time to move on.

Aug 1 2023

I Love Java

Java is amazing.

Jun 18 2023

Father’s Day

…I now believe that God desires for EVERY father to courageously step up and do whatever it takes to be involved in the lives of his children. But more than just being there providing for them, he is to walk with them through their young lives and be a visual representation of the character of God, their father in heaven. A father should love his children, and seek to win their hearts. He should protect them, discipline them, and teach them about God. He should model how to walk with integrity and treat others with respect, and should call out his children to become responsible men and women, who live their lives for what matters in eternity. Some men will hear this, and mock it. Or ignore it. But I tell you that as a father, you are accountable to God for the position of influence he has given you. You can’t fall asleep at the wheel, only to wake up one day and realize that your job or your hobbies have no eternal value, but the souls of your children do. Some men will hear this and agree with it, but have no resolve to live it out. Instead, they will live for themselves, and waste the opportunity to leave a godly legacy for the next generation. But there are some men, who regardless of the mistakes we’ve made in the past, regardless of what our fathers did NOT do for us, will give the strength of our arms and the rest of our days to loving God with all that we are and to teach our children to do the same. And whenever possible to love and mentor others who have no father in their lives, but who desperately need help and direction. And we are inviting any man whose heart is willing and courageous, to join us in this resolution. In my home, the decision has already been made. You don’t have to ask who will guide my family, because by God’s grace, I will. You don’t have to ask who will teach my son to follow Christ, because I will. Who will accept the responsibility of providing and protecting my family? I will. Who will ask God to break the chain of destructive patterns in my family’s history? I will. Who will pray for, and bless my children to boldly pursue whatever God calls them to do? I am their father. I will. I accept this responsibility and it is my privilege to embrace it. I want the favor of God and his blessing on my home. Any good man does. So where are you men of courage? Where are you, fathers who fear the Lord? It’s time to rise up and answer the call that God has given to you and to say I will. I will. I will!

Credit: Alex Kendrick as Adam Mitchell – Courageous (2011).

May 15 2023

Choose Your Battle Wisely

This snake crawled over a sharp saw and was cut. In anger, the snake wrapped the Saw with its thick body and squeezed the life out of the Saw.

With each angry squeeze, it felt more pain but continued because it wouldn’t let the Saw get away with the pain it caused. The snake, refusing to let go of the Saw, eventually died;

Not knowing the whole time, it needed to let go of the initial pain and focus on its future; where it was going.
Unfortunately, the snake eventually lost its life in anger and vengeance.

PLEASE NOTE:
Not all battles are worth fighting. At times letting go is actually winning.
Control your anger. Forgive those that hurt you and move on.
Never give people or things power over you.

WHAT YOU HAVE IS ALWAYS MORE VALUABLE THAN WHAT YOU SEEK.

May 15 2023

Quotation of the day

Life is like a coin, you can spend it on anything you want, but you can only spend it once.

Apr 25 2023

Quote of the Day

Photo Credit: MyHuron

“It is better to debate a question without settling it than to stelle a question without debating it.”
Joseph Joubert

Nov 10 2022

Question

Daily I see people go through life blindly, and they do that wilfully. Wilfully because they are scared or don’t want to ask question for fear of been seen as uninformed or weak, but the reality you uninformed if you don’t ask questions.

Questions can mean:

a sentence worded or expressed so as to elicit information.
a matter requiring resolution or discussion.

I love the first definition of question; you asked question to as to gain more information, to remove any ambiguity in order to gain more clarity.

To be successful or to learn more, you can run away from questions (and not silly questions) don’t be scared to ask questions.

I love this quote “When you know better, you do better” Maya Angelou.

Asking helps you gain clarity; it helps you shorten your journey, and it helps straighten your path to the top.

Jesus speaking in Matthew 7:7 charged his followers to always ASK, SEEK and KNOCK. I love to break the about as A(ask) S(seek) K(knock). This means asking is not something you do casually seeking and knocking requires conscious deliberate action.

Be intentional in living and all you, so learn to always ASK, a simple how can I do this can give almost 50% clarity.

Learn to ask WHY five (5).

My charge for you today is to always ASK.

Oct 21 2022

Dismount The Dead Horse

Are you still forcing yourself get to keep doing what is not working?

If you are looking to achieve more by prioritizing your time, then you need to learn to dismount the dead horse.

If it is no more working, then stop forcing it, learn to know when to stop doing somethings and move move on.

Sep 20 2022

Programming Can Be Learned

Programming languages are difficult but not hard to learn.

With discipline, commitment, diligence and dedication it can be learned.

Sep 6 2022

Be True To Yourself

I saw this post on my sister’s Facebook page and I would like to share with you all.

“SALT has no need to look like other Ingredients, sends out no Aroma like other Seasonings, but without it the Soup is Tasteless.

Men/women of True Impact don’t Fight for Position, Visibility or Appearance.

Their Results Speak for them not their Propaganda.

You don’t need to Shout to be heard, People keep quiet to listen to Intelligent People.

Salt Maintains its Integrity Amidst Pollution.

Have you seen where a Salt buyer demands to taste it before buying

because Salt has proved its Integrity over the Ages.

If you will need to Swear before People can believe you, you lack Integrity.

Is your Life like Salt to the Earth or an Insult?

The Easiest and only way Salt can lose its Taste is when it mixes with too much of anything. So Watch your Associations with people without noble values.. Salt is very precious and should not be wasted.. STAY PURE.

“MAINTAIN YOUR DIGNITY”

If one day, we all are allowed to put our problems on a table and exchange them, I’m sure that after few minutes, everyone would silently take back their own & leave the table.

There is no such thing like a perfect life, nobody has it all together.

Just as our faces are different, so are our problems.

Never be envious of what someone else has. You don’t know the price they paid to get it and the price they are paying to keep it.

You don’t own half of the problems in this world.

While you are discreetly wishing to be like the other person, Someone else is seriously praying for that life you take for granted.

Sometimes the people you envy, are actually wishing they could have the life you live.

Be contented and cherish what you have.

You can be anything you want, just don’t be ungrateful”.

You are the best

Copied!!!

Aug 27 2022

Career Day: Cohort 8 (The Rise of The Phoenix) Graduation

To mark the graduation ceremony Cohort 8 (Phoenix) of Semicolon Africa tag “the rise of the Phoenix” was a career day talk with Richard Amafonye [FBCS] the Head IT Resources of Access Bank Plc. the session was so informative and impactful.

Key lesson I toke away from the session was the Three(3) attribute of a great programmer.

Laziness: Not being lazy in the sense of not doing anything, but not doing what you can automate. Why do things that you can automate, you should be so lazy to push you to learn to automate activities and actions.
Impatience: Not being impatience that you can not wait, but being inpatient to push you to get things done and make things happen quickly.
Hubris: Not be prideful but to take pride being able to effectively and efficiently doing your work with joy and pride.

PHD (Passion Hunger Determination) this is need along side competence, character and chemistry with this your set to take leverage advantage that technology has given us.

As a software engineer you are a solution provider and a value adding individual.

#techpreneurs #SotfwareEngineers #semicolonAfrica

Aug 21 2022

Decision

People usually do not realize how important decisions can be, until the make the wrong one.

The outcome of life is decisions, the right ones set us on the right path, the wrong ones set us on the wrong parth.

Everyday we make decisions, it is important to we think through each decision we make.

Jul 30 2022

Reflection!

Reflection! Reflection!! Reflection!!!

Something incredible happened to me this year and I want to take this time to reflect over the last six (6) months.

Closing last year coming to this year, I have this serious desire to rally make a mark in the tech space and I was so consume by it that it became a longing and prayer. I began this search for how to be better the search leads to an unquenchable hunger for like minds and enabling environment that tech thrives (to be precise programming).

I paid for the entire bundle on and paid for courses on http://www.pirple.com and http://www.udemy.com, toke course at http://www.alison.com, http://www.freedom.com, http://www.codeacademy.com I cant even mention all the YouTube videos I download to watch. I had a discussion with a friend Isaac and Lagos seems to be the location that I can have like minds and the environment. The greatest challenge was how?

I had a conversation about relocating to Jigawa to learn robotic which all did not work out.

This year start with same hunger and drive. I was on face book one faithful day and I saw the post of a dear friend Kelvin Okoro on how in one year he became a software Engineer it seem too good to be true so I chat him up.

Luck is when opportunity meets preparation, mentally I was ready, Kelvin told me about Semicolon and I applied, did the test and I moved on with doing what I was doing. Then I got the call for the interview, and I was told info session will hold and I click on the link and could not connect and the rescheduled info session I missed it again, I got the offer.

Joining Semicolon was a tough decision to make, moving from one end of Nigeria to the other was not easy, having to leave your comfort zone, your family, it was not easy because I was discouraged by few but a few encourage met to take the step, the greatest encouragement came from my family (wife and kids). I was skeptical even till when the onboarding as a native of semicolon began.

Listening to chief Sam Immanuel speak was just more than just and an orientation but life changing for me, his passion and desire for young Nigerians becoming an influence cannot be hidden.

The design thinking and critical thinking have shown a bright ne light on my life and point me to the right path. I have new perspective of who a software engineer is and it not what I taught it was. Ashley Immanuel also continued from where Sam stopped to make the light shin brighter.

I am glad am a native of semicolon Africa, I can’t wish for a better community of tech to be in than this. Listing to Chibuzo Ekejiuba and Grace teach Java and software engineering so gracefully was just wonderful, having to listen to others like Natives, Ancestors and Elders of Semicolon speaking have really fired me up. I am glad I made the decision I know the scarifies is worthwhile.

# #community #tech #Semicolon #Innovation #Java #Programming #softwareengineering

Apr 30 2022

GOD’S ETERNAL PURPOSE

It doesn’t readily come to people’s mind that God has a Programme, a Plan and an over-riding Purpose for his Creation. God didn’t create by random choice. Creation was I Reasoned. It came forth from God’s Heart and it is very purposeful.

We have become so accustomed to evil, pains, sufferings, tears and sorrow that it hardly ever occurred to us that these are not part of the life God intends for us. How all these things became part of human existence is a sad story to tell. But that is not the issue here! What has happened has happened. What is of more importance to us is how God has planned to sort out these unwanted conditions of our Earth-life!

“For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the LORD, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you a hope and a future.” Jeremiah 29:11

What is God’s Eternal Purpose, especially with respect to Man and the Earth? Isaiah tells us, “O LORD, thou art my God; I will exalt thee, I will praise thy name; for thou hast done wonderful things; thy counsel of old are faithfulness and truth.” Isaiah 25:1

If we ask God, Sir, what is your eternal purpose for man and for the Earth? He will tell us: My purpose for you and the Earth has to do with what has been in my mind all along; how I want things to be for you; what I have planned for you which sin disrupted; what my heart has ever yearned to bestow upon
you of my goodness; All that I desire that you be and have in order to give my meaning to your being.

Before we were created God has all these in mind for us. But sin has limited our capacity to enter into them. And also, by reason of Death, we are limited on Time. In the present age Death has limited us! Sin brought Death. Then Death has created for us a Time Problem. We are not here long enough to have all that His love planned for us. Secondly, sin has also limited us and limited our capacity to enjoy what God has so freely given us.

God’s eternal purpose is the counsel of His heart, His good pleasures, His will, the Desires of His heart, the conceptions of His heart which He has put into a blueprint. As such, it has become immutable and irrevocable. God’s eternal purpose is His love-desires, His Love-thoughts and the plans to make them be!
And ultimately, neither sin nor Death would be able to stop it from fulfillment.

These things have always been His thought for us; He has ever planned to make them good to us. And He has not changed His mind on that. When all these are executed, the condition of eternal pleasure results for all Creation; all of Creation enjoying God forever.

How long do we need to get all of God’s goodness soaked into us? It is going to take eternity! What is eternity? It is from the Greek word “aion”. It literally means ages rolling upon ages! Yes, ages rolling upon ages, and the dimensions of creature’s pleasure in the Creator will keep unfolding in heightening degree for all eternity! Eternity also goes beyond mere length of time. It carries with it the sense of the other dimensions of existence that sin took away from us.

“But God, who is rich in mercy, for his great love wherewith he loved us, Even when we were dead in sins, hath made us alive together with Christ, (by grace ye are saved;)And hath raised us up together, and made us sit together in heavenly places in Christ Jesus: THAT IN THE AGES TO COME HE MIGHT SHEW THE EXCEEDING RICHES OF HIS GRACE IN HIS KINDNESS TOWARD US THROUGH CHRIST JESUS.” Ephesians 2:4-7

Now, Time is a limit upon us to enjoy all of God. Death doesn’t allow that! We live and die so quickly. Also, sin is a limit upon our capacity to fully soak in God. Sin restricts and constricts and weakens our capacity for Spirit things. But in eternity, when ages roll on upon ages non-stop, and in the Dimensions of existence that we hardly know exist, our capacity to enjoy God will be limitless. For when we shall rise in Him and mortality would have been swallowed up by life, and corruption eliminated by incorruption, the sin restriction problem would be no more! Death would be no more!

And in the midst of eternity, the Time available for God to unfold and unbundle His Heart of Love to us will also be limitless; with ages rolling upon ages indefinitely, Time constraint will be no more! The ages to come provide the infinite arena for the boundless Love of God to find expression and play out upon Creation in all the dimensions of God’s greatness

“Having made known unto us the mystery of his will, according to his good pleasure which he hath purposed in himself: That in the dispensation of the fullness of times he might gather together in one all things in Christ, both which are in heaven, and which are on earth; even in him..…That in the ages to come he might shew the exceeding riches of his grace in his kindness toward us through Christ Jesus.”
Ephesians 1:9, 10 & 2:7

No one should miss out on such indescribable joy and eternal bliss! Yet we hear from Holy Scripture that some people would not be a part of this by their own choosing. So, who will be part of Eternity with God? Who will be there as ages roll on upon ages and God lavishes His Love upon His Creatures? Note the
following Points:

·All have sinned and are disqualified from such future – Romans 3:23.
·The wages of sin is death (Eternal separation from God and the future state Creation.)– Romans 6:23.
·But the gift of God is Eternal Life – Romans 6:23.
·This Life is a free gift, but is only available in Christ Jesus and obtainable through faith in Him – Romans
6:23, John 5:26, Ephesians 2:8.
·The Book of Romans 10:9,10 tells us how to receive this gift which God has so freely and graciously
offered.

What is the alternative to this great offer of God? That is, if you fail to receive this gift what then happens?

“And this is the record, that God hath given to us eternal life, and this life is in his Son. He that hath the
Son hath life; and he that hath not the Son of God hath not life.” 1John 5:11, 12

He that believeth on the Son hath everlasting life: and he that believeth not the Son shall not see life;
but the wrath of God abideth on him. John 3:36

“Then shall he say also unto them on the left hand, Depart from me, ye cursed, into everlasting fire
prepared for the devil and his angels” Matthew 25:41

“And I saw the dead, small and great, stand before God; and the books were opened: and another book was opened, which is the book of life: And whosoever was not found written in the book of life was cast into the lake of fire.” Revelation 20:12,15

“But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.” Revelation 21:8

If you think this cannot happen, please, I plead with you that you think again!
The Time is short!

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Apr 22 2022

It’s Sealed

“And the vision of all is become unto

You as the words of a book that is

Sealed, which men deliver to one that is

learned, saying, Read this, I pray thee: and

he saith, I CANNOT; FOR IT IS SEALED”

Isaiah 29:11

Yes, it is sealed!

It cannot be cracked!

Unbreakable, invincible,

My life is a Mystery to Satan!

Sealed and Preserved; a wonder to the

realm of darkness!

Invisible, untouchable, unkillable!

Tell the foxes:

Prophets don’t perish out of Jerusalem!

I am a Christian!

In Covenant with Jehovah: the God of

Abraham, Isaac and Jacob!

That is my Root! My fruit cannot be

plucked!

“Hurt not the oil and the wine”

No hell dare go against such high

Commandment!

“Thus far shall your waves come, and no

further”

The Keepers at the gate have set the bound!

Death and Destruction are locked out!

The Blood stands His Guard. His Ground no

hell can take.

By His voice the fire splinters and

smothers!

I am a Christian

I am Light

And I do not run from Darkness

I am seated above with Christ;

Crawlers at night are under my feet;

crushed!

Fear has no place here

My Dominion is by a High Birth!

By Him who labored at Gethsemane

And Calvary was my spirit begotten

Indestructible by Hell’s

Beggarly elements!

Case Closed

Sealed

Let all adversaries back off!

Jesus is my LORD

And my Life!

Apr 21 2022

Remember The Battle

REMEMBER THE BATTLE… AND THAT IS IT!

I assume you know that before His work of creation, God the Creator had given the whole thing a good thought. And what He made was the product of His thought and intentions. That should be expected. No rational Builder would commence the construction of a master-piece without the blue-print. It is unthinkable.

Even with a casual study of the Bible, it is difficult not to see that Divine intention was for an Earth that is full of God’s goodness; an Earth that fully supports man in his destiny-assignment. And that
was the Earth God created.

“In the beginning God created the heaven and the earth…And God saw everything that He had made, and, behold, it was VERY GOOD” Genesis 1:1,31

Both the mind and the character of the Maker are revealed in His original handiwork. “BEHOLD, IT WAS VERY GOOD”. That was the Earth as He thought it and made it. And in those few words,
the Creator eternally separates Himself from any evil we may see on earth.

It is true that evil has become a part of our very existence and reality. The problem it presents lie hard upon our consciousness. But what God made and what we now have are two different things. He had no evil in mind. He made no evil for man. Where evil exists, we can simply label it with the words of the Lord in Matthew 19: “FROM THE BEGINNING IT WAS NOT SO”
We should ask then, “How did it become so now if from the beginning it wasn’t so”? We should also ask, “Now that it has become so, what steps has God taken to address the situation on
Earth”? But first,

How Did We Come to This?

History is a wonderful subject. It will interest you to know that God has history. Man has history. Even the devil and his demons have history. A lot of mysteries are locked up in our history. Our present is born from our past. To open the doors into our past is to unravel the riddles of our present. How did God’s good intentions for man become current nightmare? How did we come to this?

“In the beginning God created the heaven and the earth… and God saw everything that he had made, and, behold, IT WAS VERY GOOD” Genesis 1:1, 31

“The kingdom of heaven is likened unto a man which sowed GOOD SEED in his field” Matthew 13:24

This was God, the Creator-farmer. What He planted in His field was GOOD SEED.
“Now the serpent was more subtle than any beast of the field which the LORD God had made. And he said unto the woman, yea, hath God said….” Genesis 3:1-3

“But while men slept, his enemy came and sowed tares among the wheat, and went his way” Matthew 13:25

The serpent, the enemy entered the equation and introduced into it a new factor. The coming of the serpent marked the beginning of evil as a human experience. What had never been before started being, what was not so from the beginning began to be so for man.

“Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned” Romans 5:12

“From the beginning it was not so…” Matthew 19:8

We live in a grossly disordered world. But the disorders are not God made. They are the products of human choices and behaviours under the influence of forces opposed to God’s goodness and just rule.
Societal ills are not part of our creation make-up. They are outcomes of faulty choices. Poverty on earth is not God-made. It is the result of the system we operate. The super-rich plus the super-poor give a balance equation. What the poor lacks is in the surplus and excesses of the rich. Lacks on earth do not result from scarcity of resources. They are products of imbalance distribution and mismanagement. And we can’t blame God for either! The order of things as revealed in the opening chapters of Genesis testifies against any thought that makes God the author of human sufferings and predicaments.

“Behold, it was very good” is a valid post-script to what God intended and subsequently created. How did we come to our present state of pains, ruins, sufferings and confusion?

An enemy has done this, and it was while men slept
(Matt. 13:25, 28)

How Bad Is Our Case?
The depth of what the serpent did to man in the garden is only known to God. Something changed. Something fundamental to man’s relationship with God changed almost irreparably.

“God sowed good seed in his field. But while Adam slept, the enemy, the serpent came and sowed tares among the wheat, and went away. But when God’s seed sprung and put forth fruits, the enemy’s intention and input also showed forth as contamination”
(Genesis 1:1, 31; 3:1-3 and Matthew 13:24-26)

And how bad was the situation?
“Angels came to God and asked him, Sir, was it not good seed you sowed in your field? Where did it get these contaminations from”? (Matthew 13:27)

God replied them, “What you see is the work of the enemy”. Then the angels said, “Wilt thou then that we go and destroy this work of the enemy”? But God replied, “No! Lest while you gather up
the tares, you root up the wheat with them” (Matthew 13:27-29).
That is a fearful comment!
What was it that the enemy touched that caused this kind of irreparable damage! Even Angel’s couldn’t help.

“For we must needs die; we are as water spilt on the ground, which cannot be gathered up again…” 2 Samuel 14:14

The situation was dire! The enemy’s intention was cruel to the core. Evil rushed in like a mighty flood. The Heavens stood aghast. Humanity had let God down. The unimaginable had occurred. The
aids of angels were completely useless. The Eternal One was left alone to sort out the dramatic complexity into which man had put Him. What was He going to do?

The Devise!

In the heat of the satanic invasion that turned the Earth into a dark arena of miseries, the Almighty took a glance at the enemy and uttered these words which have haunted the adversary down the
age!

The seed of the woman: it shall bruise your head – Genesis 3:15

This is a radical approach to the very root of human sufferings. This was God addressing the fundamental principle of evil. This was the Axe laid on the root of evil. This was God’s devise against all that satan is, all that he has done and all that he can ever do!

“God devised means” (2 Samuel 14:14) to solve and dissolve the problem of evil to its very foundation. The seed of the woman came. He took on the serpent in a mortal combat. Calvary witnessed the duel unto the death! God’s Holy Son entered into the chambers of death and took hell and death by the throat! The enemy of God and man stood judged and condemned. The seals that he set upon the cage of humanity were shattered by the Son of God.

On Calvary tree, God died that man may live. He bore our pains and our sorrows in His own body. He paid the price for the souls of men.

And Now, What seems to be The Problem?

God took liability for man’s failure. He devised means to solve the riddles of our collective miseries. The work of Redemption that Jesus under-took at Calvary was radical and complete. Heaven recognizes no obstacle to the freedom of man. God sees no reason why anyone should remain in chains to satan. The entire issue of man’s subjection to demonic oppressions and afflictions has been
settled forever in the mind of God.

Where then is the problem? Why do men still lie prostrate to the impostor called satan?

What You Should Know and What You Should Do!

What needed to be done concerning the devil and his bunch of lawless terrorist demons has already been done. When our dying substitute cried: “IT IS FINISHED”, we stood free from everything we might have owed the adversary!

That brings us to Job 41. What is it that you need to know? You do not have to struggle with the enemy. You do not need to fight him. See Job 41,
“Can you draw out leviathan with an hook? Or his tongue with a cord”?
The answer is, No! I can’t. “Can you put an hook into his nose? Or bore his jaw
through with a thorn? Will he make a covenant with you?

Can you fill his skin with barbed irons? Or his head with fish spears?

No! I can’t do any of that. I do not need to do any of it. Leviathan, the old serpent has been dealt a mortal blow by the Son of the living God! Satan is no longer a major issue! I need not struggle with him any longer.

What Then?

“LAY YOUR HAND UPON HIM, REMEMBER THE BATTLE, DO NO MORE” Job 41:8

That is it! Remember the battle at Calvary! Remember the three days in the belly of the earth. And that is it! Remember that the keys are no longer in the hands of the enemy:

“…Jesus Christ our Saviour has abolished death and has brought life and immortality to light” 2 Timothy 1:10

“Having spoiled principalities and powers, He made an open show of them, triumphing over them in it” Colossians 2:15

“He destroyed him that had the power of death, that is the devil; (to) deliver them who through the fear of death were all their lifetime subject to bondage” Hebrews 2:14, 15

Remember the Battle! Remember the Blood of Jesus. Remember the Name that is above all names. Remember that He took your place and fought your fight and won for you a victory that no devil can
challenge or contest! Hear Him:

“I am he that liveth, and was dead; and, behold, I am alive forevermore, Amen; and have the keys of hell and of death” Revelation 1:18

This is our ground for total freedom. This is our resurrection response to all of satan’s death programmes. When we have remembered the battle, there is no more to be done, for there is
no foe, no enemy, no serpent or dragon or leviathan that does not know what the cross of Calvary stands for! “It is Finished” means “it is finished”. What is FINISHED is Finished! In case any lying devil wants to confuse you on this, you just Remember the battle, do no more, for there is no more to be done!

Your future is so much more important than your now. Eternity is waiting for you, and it is just one
breath away…. You must be sure where you will live eternally. God made Provision for that. If you
want to have eternal life and live in God’s coming kingdom then Pray this:
Lord Jesus, I repent of my sinful life and I ask You to forgive me my sins. Save me. I open my heart
to the Life that you have offered me. Here and now I receive this Life, and I thank You for it.
Please Lord, give me the Holy Spirit too, and I will live for Your glory.
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Jan 25 2022

Shake It Off (The Donkey and Farmers Story)

One of my favorite stories is about a farmer’s donkey that fell into a dry well. The animal cried pitifully for hours as the farmer tried to figure out what to do for his poor donkey.

Finally, he concluded that the well was too deep, and it really needed to be covered up anyway. Besides, the donkey was old, and it would be a lot of trouble to get him out of the pit. The farmer decided that it was not worth trying to retrieve the animal, so he asked his neighbors to help him fill in the well and bury the donkey. They all grabbed shovels and began to toss dirt into the well. The donkey immediately realized what was happening, and he began to bray horribly. Crying would be our normal response if somebody was mistreating us this badly, so this donkey was responding the same way we would at first, but then he got real quiet. A few shovel loads of dirt later, the farmer looked down the well and was astonished at what he saw. With every shovel of dirt that hit the donkey’s back, the donkey would shake it off and step on top of it. As the neighbors and the farmer continued to shovel dirt on top of the animal, he continued to shake it off and take a step up. Pretty soon the donkey shook off the last shovel full of dirt, took a step up, and walked right out of the well.

We can learn so much from this story. When trouble comes, if we will get still and listen, God will tell us what to do. By the grace and mercy of God, I was able to shake off a lot of things in my life, a lot of hurt feelings, a lot of mistreatment, a lot of abuse, a lot of unfair, unjust, unkind things. Just like the donkey, in order to keep pressing on and have victory in our lives, we are going to have to learn to shake off the troubles that come our way.

This story is so inspiring and that is why I decided to share with you.

Jan 23 2022

This is a Touching Story

I saw this write up and I will love to share with you.

Two pictures, both Teachers, both Muslims, both Northerners, both entrusted with the studies, care and guardianship of our little kids.The one in white is a Teacher in F.G.C Birnin yauri, Kebbi State.The one in black is the Proprietor and a Teacher of Noble Kids Primary school, Nasarawa Kano stateThe one in White, asked the Kidnappers who took away Students of F.G.C Birnin Yauri last year, to either release the kids, take Him in their place, or kidnap him as well. The kidnappers kidnapped Him as well.He knew He stood the risk of being killed by the vicious bandits, but He chose to stay with His students in captivity and suffer with them, watch over them or even die with them.The one in Black Kidnapped His own pupil, knowing fully well she’s an only child, took the Mother’s contact from the School parents contact book, requested for Ransom, got the Ransom and eventually killed 5year old Hanifa.The one in White is a hero and should be celebrated The one in Black is clearly a villain who should face the full wrath of the law.There are good and bad people in every Profession, in every tribe & in every religion.The evil acts of Abubakar Tanko(in black) may make the Public see all Teachers, Hausa’s and Muslims as evil, but then the heroic acts of the Teacher in white who shares the same tribe, religion and job as Abubakar, definitely counters such perceptions.The name of the Teacher in white is Muktar Abdullahi and He needs to be Nationally celebrated. God bless Him.

Credit. Abiyamo

Dec 31 2021

January

As you’re preparing to receive your first salary for the year 2022

January Wisdom

J-oin contribution if you are a salary earner it will help you a lot.

A-void unnecessary expenses because things may slow down for the next two months.

N-egotiate for something moderate don’t copy others who pay heavily for same quality and quantity. No competition In life.

U-nderstand the economy and plan ahead of time because you can’t predict another economic meltdown in a country where almost everybody want to steal.

A-void the temptation of women, friends, relatives, who have the habit of lavishing your resources.

R-educe the number of days you fuel your generator. At least feel the pains of others who don’t have one. It makes you appreciate God’s blessings and his supply.

Y-ou should be wise/careful the way you take loan, always learn to be contented with what you have.

I hope this will help someone.
God bless all of us

Dec 31 2021

TALENT

TALENT

Talent is another word for desire. Our focus becomes centered on what we wish to do practicing again and again, until we master the needed skills.

Talent can be developed. We need not compare ourselves to others, who seem “better” for each of us can enjoy to the extent of our ability the dreams of our heart.

Tasking what God gives us with gratitude

Allowing ourselves to succeed

Living life to its fullest

Enjoying what makes our hearts sing

Never let other people’s talent discourage you

Taking time each day for your passion

This write up has inspired me so I decide to share it too.

Dec 21 2021

What Is Stopping You?

I saw this story about an 11 year old girl, I will like to share to motivate you.

Rhea Bullos, an 11-year-old track athlete from the Philippines, went viral after competing in a local inter-school running. Bullos won three gold medals in the 400-meter, 800-meter, and 1,500-meter competitions.

The girl went viral not only because she won but because she didn’t have running shoes and decided to use bandages as shoes.

I always say and I will reiterate that at any point in your life, Know that you have everything you need to succeed. The girl did not focus at what those who had shoes had, she focused of using what she had and has further opened many other opportunities. Many of us wouldn’t have participated for fear of what other runners or spectators where going to say about us and would have missed an opportunity that would have improved our lives.

How many opportunities have passed you because you are not using what you have? Stop focusing on how other people started and start using what you have. You are enough.

Hope this inspired you, then share with others .

Oct 27 2021

RAISING A GENERATION OF WEAK CHILDREN

A friend of mind shared this touching post and I will love to share with you too.

It’s your fault. You started this. You started it long time ago when you resolved that your children would not pass through the difficulties you went through. Your love for them made them weak.

Your parents prepared you for the challenges ahead. They allowed you to solve many of your problems. They only guarded and guided. They allowed you to go to WAEC office to check your WASSCE result. You even travelled to Ikoyi to check UME and PCE results. But you consider your children too young and inexperienced to do anything for themselves. The same children that you put in school at age 2 have suddenly become too young.

You rushed them through childhood thinking cognitive achievements would see them through. They can’t even keep their own records. When they register for exams, you keep photo cards and slips. You will keep result checkers too. When results are out, you rush to cafes to check and print them. You followed them everywhere and show them everything as if they were blind. You follow them to register for JAMB, your phone number is on the registration form, you stayed in the car on the exam day, immediately after exam, you zoom them home.

They never get the chance to socialize. They can’t even discuss contents and conduct of the exam with fellow candidates. You won’t let them stay back a second but you stayed back on the day of your own exam. You made new friends and all of you, strangers to one another, went to buy snacks together. You were all talking and smiling as if you had known one another for years but your children can’t do this. “What else are you waiting for?” is the question from your raised voice.

When results are out, you will receive the notification. You will be the one to go and print the result and start thinking of how to get admission processed. Finally when admission is secured, you will still be the one to go to banks and pay all fees. You will also travel down to look for their accommodation. Unfortunately, you can’t follow them to campus, you would have preferred to attend every lecture with them. You inevitably, relax the apron string at this stage and allow them to face life by themselves for the first time.

They now have to, for the first time in their entire life, do things by themselves and for themselves. There’s no more mom and dad to think, act, predict, assume and foresee events any more. Then the vicissitudes of life come knocking. They fail four courses out of nine in 100 level but struggle to move on. When it happens again in 200L and 300L, they consider all the hardships of the last two years, the suffering is magnified in their weak minds, they find no one to talk to, they blame themselves and you for creating the hardship, thus they resolve to opt out of life.

Dear parents, allow your children to grow up. Allow them make their mistakes, build a level of dependence on themselves and chart their own course. I know you are quite rich, but allow them experience a level of hardship. You should even induce a degree of hardwork around the home to check how they can survive outside the canopy of your feathers. Stop raising weak children because the world out there is for the strong. When you are over protective of a child they lose confidence in themselves. There is no sweet without sweat

Greetings parents!
I found this interesting,

Aug 3 2021

Evidence of Pride

20 WAYS TO KNOW IF YOU ARE PROUD

(1) If you can not submit yourself to higher authority

(2) If you find it difficult to accept correction

(3) If you are too big to say sorry

(4) If you think that your success or achievements are based on your efforts

(5) If you don’t have respect for people

(6) If you are always feeling Superior to others

(7) If you always want to control or dominate others

(8) If you are always angry at those who correct you

(9) If you cannot work under those with lesser qualifications

(10) If you think that you are better than others

(11) If you avoid those who criticize you

(12) If you feel too big to learn

(13) If you feel ashamed to ask questions about what you don’t know

(14) If you are always bragging about your achievement /connections

(15) If you don’t consider it necessary to say thank you to those who helped you

(16) If you think that you cannot make mistakes

(17) If you think that you know everything in life

(18) If you think that nobody knows more than you

(19 ) When you look at those who helped you to get to the top as nothing

(20) When you refused to appreciate those who have been a blessing to your life even when you have over enough to do so.

Let’s kill pride before it kills something good in us.

Remember
“Pride goeth before destruction, and an haughty spirit before a fall” (Proverbs 16:18)

“A man’s pride shall bring him low: but honour shall uphold the humble in spirit”.(Proverbs 29:23)

Jul 12 2021

Don’t Give Up

What ever the challenge don’t give up.

Hard work pays

Jun 17 2021

I JUST NEED A MAN

I JUST NEED A MAN
(The Kingdom First)

Eight (8) relationships in one year with men who were simply after my body and had no plan for a future with me.
I thought dating a married man would bring me happiness because I felt a level of security and comfort with him… The moral view of this was useless to me as all I wanted was A MAN TO LOVE & CARE FOR ME… which he did.
I lacked nothing as long as I graced his bed and met his manly needs more than the wife could do for the moment…
But into our relationship, reality dawned on me that he could never be MINE…

Dating guys in the same age group as mine was a big mess cause all we did was have sex, party, chat away the time and get temporal fun.
At least, the older married men impacted my life one way or the other but these small boys… All they do is waste one’s time and at the end give you nothing but unfaithfulness.

A point came in my life where I thought I had found the ONE, he was sweet, nice and caring… He was everything I needed in a man… We had a meaningful relationship but for sure there was a high demand for sex and other fruitless demands, but aside this he helped me grow in my business and supported my career with his intelligent business ideas.
Finally, I have found a husband, I was really hopeful…

I thought satisfying him sexually would keep him, I gave him my whole regardless of the consequences to my body… He would come up with crazy sex ideas and I would agree.
Thinking I was KEEPING MY MAN who would be my husband soon… I introduced him to my family members and everyone knew him as my husband to be.
Only for him to post PRE WEDDING PICTURES ON FACEBOOK after 2 weeks of being distant from each other…
He used me for his pleasure and spurned me after 4 months of relationship and several abortions…

It wasn’t the first so I overcame the pain soon enough…
Despite all, I wondered, why is it so hard to find my MAN because all I needed was a MAN…

Could this be your story?
If it is, please sit let us talk…

Seek ye first the kingdom of God and his righteousness and every other thing shall be added unto you including AN AMAZING HUSBAND.

You cannot love a man or enjoy his love without knowing or loving the Giver of Love…
You cannot search for love outside the Giver of Love…
GOD IS LOVE and only HE can satisfy YOU…

Stop looking for satisfaction outside CHRIST because at the end all it will bring you are
> Heart pains
> Regrets
> And a waste of your time
Seek GOD first before MAN
Find your wholeness in Christ and do not get entangled with people who would only
> Make you CRY
> Make you live a FRUITLESS life
> DISREGARD you
> DEVALUE you
> DESTROY you
> CHEAT on you
And make you feel WORTHLESS….

You know the deception of Satan, at first it’s sweet and enjoyable but the END is PAINFUL…
You must get angry with this fruitless living and seek God and His kingdom to be made whole…
Don’t settle for less, you are a QUEEN👸 and you deserve nothing but the BEST…
Don’t settle for the lies of SATAN that says
> You are not good enough
> No man can love you
> You are too dirty to be saved
These are all LIES because NO matter who you are or what you have done, Jesus will forgive your SINS and keep no record of your WRONGS…
All you need do is allow Him into your life and watch Him BEAUTIFY your life.
He will clean the mess and make you whole again, giving you A BRAND NEW LIFE.

#Editedbyuncleayo
#Throwback Thursday
#singles flow
#storylinefriction
Elizabeth Tope – Ojo
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Mar 19 2021

Home Truth “Origin of Underemployment in Nigeria.

I always wonder why A country like Nigeria blessed with human and natural resources yet has a high level of under employment.

I saw this post shared in a whatsapp group I belong and it so on point that I will like to share with you.

I run a manufacturing business and a trading business.

The biggest challenge in my manufacturing business is not power, or infrastructure, the biggest challenge is getting honest staff.

Everyone we hire appears to be on a mission to steal as much as possible. Inflated invoices, recording less than the actual number of units produced. The worst part of it all is that all the fraud we’ve uncovered is not done by a single person, it’s usually many staff who collude with each other, from production, to sales, to finance, even top management. There was a year I overhauled management 3 times in a year…

But me, I’ve found a solution sha, I now use Indian management. So competent, so honest and so straightforward. I thought they were expensive at first with all the visa fees, accommodation, house staff, but now that losses due to staff theft have been reduced to a minimum, and efficiency increased, the Indian management has turned out to be cheaper than the previous Nigerian management. Now, all sensitive positions involving money go to Indians. Nigerians are only allowed in non-sensitive positions. I used to criticize companies like Dangote Group that hire so many Indians when there are many unemployed Nigerians, but now, I understand their decision.

My biggest challenge in the trading business is the same, getting honest staff. The form of trading occurs in the open market, and involves staff having access to huge sums of money running into a few millions. I know how much I pay to security companies to provide escorts for the staff, not to prevent robbery, but to ensure that the staff go straight to the bank to deposit the money after the day’s sales and not disappear with my money. This money spent on security companies is even enough to be declared as profit. We have to spend on CCTV, biometric scanners and other things that wouldn’t be needed if staff weren’t looking for the slightest opportunity to steal.

It got so bad at a point that my main criteria for employing staff was no longer competency but honesty. At least, competency and skills can be learnt, but once you’re dishonest, you’re dishonest.

We always complain of the economy and how there are no jobs. I know people abroad who would have loved to set up job creating businesses in Nigeria but they can’t because they can’t get any trustworthy person to run it.

I know people in Nigeria with so much money, they want to start factories and other job-creating businesses but they can’t because they are occupied elsewhere and can’t get any trustworthy person to run the business. So instead of investing in the real sector and creating jobs, they’ll just buy treasury bills, while the thieves are shouting no jobs.

Many big businesses would have been born in Nigeria if we could engage in partnerships, but we cant because you can’t trust anyone. This is one advantage the Indians and Lebanese have over us in Nigeria.

They can pull resources together and do mega-business, unlike Nigerians that because only one person must do everything since we can’t partner, end up with small, tiny businesses.

Start a poultry and they will be stealing your eggs. Some will even go ahead to be killing the chickens so that they’ll be allowed to take them home.

Start an entertainment/viewing/game center and they’ll be pocketing your money. On the days you’re around at the business, the money realized will be x10 of the money realized when you’re not around….. Because they’re eating your money.

Lease out a vehicle to a driver to use and watch as he’ll finish you.

Start a restaurant, the same thing will happen. More than half of the total food ingredients will end up in their personal kitchens.

Even ordinary provisions shop, they will find a way to steal.

You’ll see them with that their evil, wicked saying “na where person dey work, na there e dey chop, na e make dem dey callam workchop/workshop”…Just imagine, justifying theft at work.

And you’ll see these people point their crooked fingers at politicians when they’re not any different. I usually say the reason most Nigerians haven’t stolen billions of government money, is simply lack of opportunity.

On every level, Nigerians are the problem of Nigeria.

Dec 29 2020

Don’t be a Lone Wolf in 2021

A man, who regularly attended family meetings suddenly without any notice stopped participating.

After a few weeks, one very cold night the leader of that group decided to visit him.
He found the man at home, alone, sitting in front of a fireplace where a bright fire burned.

The man welcomed the leader. There was a great silence.
The two men only watched the dancing flames around the logs that crackled in the fireplace.

After a few minutes the leader, without saying a word, examined the woods that formed the fire and selected one of them, glowing most brightly of all, removing it to the side with a pair of tongs. Then he sat down again.

The host was paying attention to everything, fascinated. Before long, the lone member flame subsided, until there was only a momentary glow & the fire soon went out.

In a short time what was previously bright light and heat had become nothing more than a black & dead piece of wood.
Very few words had been spoken since the greeting.

Before preparing to leave, the leader with the tongs picked up the useless piece of wood & placed it again in the middle of the fire. Immediately, the member piece of wood was rekindled, fueled by the light & heat of the burning coals around him.

When the leader reached the door to leave, the host said: Thank you for your visit and for your beautiful lesson. I’ll return to the group soon.

Why is a group important? Very simple:

Because each member that withdraws takes fire & heat from the rest.

It’s worth reminding group members that they are a part of the flame.

It’s also good to remind us that we are all responsible for keeping each other’s flame burning

And we must promote the union among us so that the fire is really strong, effective and lasting.

THE GROUP IS A FAMILY
It doesn’t matter if sometimes we are bothered by so many messages, etc.

What matters is to be connected. We are here to meet, learn, exchange ideas, check in on each other or simply to know that we are not alone.

Let’s keep the flame alive.

Life is beautiful with good family members like you all.

Dec 27 2020

THOSE WHO CROWN KINGS 🤴🏽 DO NOT LOOK LIKE KINGS

THOSE WHO CROWN KINGS 🤴🏽 DO NOT LOOK LIKE KINGS; BEWARE!!!
(Pls let this message sink into you as you journey into the new decade 2021-2030)

There was this poor man who wrote a book at the age of 40 and decided to launch it on his Birthday.

He had no money to fund the launching and so, he decided to seek help from a millionaire in his community.

He made a visit to the Millionaires home and after they exchanged pleasantries, he told his host what brought him.

The Millionaire told him to take out a piece of paper and pen.
He said, ” I will give you a test. If you pass it, I will give you the money you need and if you fail, I will still give you the money”

He then told him to write down the names of 10 people who could give him 10k each for his book during the launch.

Surprisingly, the man could not write even 3 names. 😢

Now, take a glass of water 🥃 and let me tell you something..

It is not enough to have talent and skills. You must understand the power of building valuable relationship.

It was a wise man that said, your network is directly proportional to your net worth.

Relationship is a currency

Relationship is a stream of income. Everything in this life actually reproduces on the basis of relationship.

See eh bah, Who likes you in this life matters. 👌🏾

Men are lifted through men.

Many of us are talented but we lack a cup bearer to tell the King that there is a Joseph that can interpret dreams. 😞

Who you know matters a lot in this life. Don’t say it doesn’t matter. It does. 😨

There are heights and opportunities you will never attain if you don’t understand the power of Keeping Valuable Relationships .

When they say, turn and greet your neighbour at times in the church, you don’t even know who you are talking to… 🤔

That might be the CEO of a company. But sometimes, we despise people based on their outward looks and judge them wrongly.

Have this wisdom am sharing with you.

That person you sit with in class, or the colleagues at work that you look down on, may be the ones that will lead you to your destiny helper because you have no idea who they know. 🤷🏽‍♂️

Sometimes, it takes just a recommendation to change your story. (Just like that 🙃)

Don’t despise men in Life. You will need them one day.

Sometimes those who crown Kings don’t look like kings 🤔 and may never become kings but they can help you wear the crown. Haayaayaaaaahh..😃

Again,

Shut the door of relationship gently you may need to use it tomorrow.

Please value even the least person, because, that person might be the one to wear you the crown! 👑

LETS NOT FORGET…

EVERY ONE IS A PLUS!!

👌🏾😇

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Dec 17 2020

Little Act of Kindness Can Save A Soul

I want to share two old stories with you, and see how you would choose !

” Story One“
A certain company has a tradition of holding a party and a lottery every Christmas Eve.

The rules of the lottery draw are as follows: each employee pays ten dollars as a fund. There are three hundred people in the company. In other words, a total of three thousand dollars can be raised. The winner takes all the money home.

On the day of the lottery draw, the office was filled with a lively atmosphere. Everyone wrote their names on a slip of paper and put them in the lottery box.

However, a young man by name Karl, hesitated when he wrote. Because he thought that the company’s cleaner has a frail and sickly son who was going to have an operation recently, but she did not have the money to pay for the operation. This made her very troubled.

So, even though he knew that the chance of winning was slim, with only a three percent chance, Karl wrote the name of the cleaner on the note.

The tense moment came. The boss stirred the slips in the lottery box, and finally drew out a note. Karl also kept praying in his heart: I hope the Cleaner can win the prize…Then the boss carefully announced the winner’s name. A miracle has happened!

The winner turned out to be the Cleaner! Cheers broke out in the office, and the Cleaner hurriedly came to the stage to accept the award. She burst into tears and said movedly: I am so lucky! With this money, my son has hope to live !

As the party was in progress, while thinking about this “Christmas miracle”, Karl paced to the lottery box. He took out another piece of paper and opened it casually. The name on it was also the name of the Cleaner ! Karl was sincerely surprised. He took out several pieces of the slip of papers one after another. Although the handwriting on them were different, the names were all the same. All of them were the names of the Cleaner ! Then Karl’s eyes were red with tears of joy. He clearly understood that there is a Christmas miracle in the world, but the miracle will not fall from the sky. People are required to create it by themselves!

” Story Two “
One afternoon, I went for a walk with a friend in the suburbs. Suddenly, an old man in tattered clothes approached with a bag of green vegetables in his hand. The sales of those vegetables are very poor, the leaves were dehydrated and yellow, and there were holes in them that are bitten by insects. But my friend bought three bags without saying a word. The old man embarrassedly explained: “I grew this vegetable myself. It rained a while ago, and the vegetable were soaked. They look ugly. I’m sorry.

After the old man left, I asked my friend: Will you really eat these vegetables when you go home?

He said no. These vegetables can no longer be eaten.

Then why are you buying?

Because it is impossible for anyone to buy those vegetables. If I don’t buy it, the old man will probably have no income.

I admire my friend’s good deeds, so I caught up with the old man and bought some vegetables from him too. The old man said very happily, “I been trying to sell them all day, and only you are willing to buy it. Thank you so much. You have put food on the table for me and my family.

Several handfuls of green vegetables that I can’t eat at all taught me a valuable lesson. When l heard the old man, I was almost move to tears.

. . . . . . . . . . . . .
When we are in a low ebb, we all hope that miracles will happen to us; but when we are capable, are we willing to be the one who creates miracles for others ?

When reading this article, everyone has two choices:

1) You can spread it, spread some positive messages, and make the world know more love.

2) You can also ignore it at all, as if you never saw it.

However, your little sharing action may illuminate the destiny of countless people and inspire them to show a little more kindness.

Dec 9 2020

Don’t Support Evil Today Because It Doesn’t Affect You Directly, Tomorrow It Could Be Your Turn

Long-time ago in the Animal Kingdom, a sheep was passing and saw a lion crying inside a cage trapped and the lion begged the sheep to save him with a promise not to kill and eat it but the sheep refused. After much persuasion and for the sheep’s gullibility it opened the cage for the lion.

Now the lion was very hungry having stayed in the cage for days without food. It quickly grabbed the sheep to kill and eat but the sheep reminded him of his promise. They were still there arguing when other animals came passing and they sought to know what happened.

Both the lion and the sheep narrated their own side of the story but because of fear and in trying to gain Favour in the sight of the lion, all the animals took side with the lion except the Tortoise who claim not to understand the whole scenario.

Now the Tortoise asked the lion to show them where he was before the sheep rescued him, he pointed at the cage. He asked again, “were you inside or outside when the sheep arrived”? The lion said he was inside. The tortoise again said, “ok, enter let’s see how difficult it could be inside”. The lion entered and the tortoise locked him back inside.

In amazement, the other animals asked tortoise “why” and he replied “if we allow him to eat the sheep today, he will still go hungry tomorrow and we don’t know the next amongst us to be eaten tomorrow.

The Moral of this tale
Don’t support evil today because it doesn’t affect you directly, tomorrow it could be your turn

SHARE UNTIL IT GET TO THOSE SUPPORTED AND ARE STILL SUPPORTING EVIL, MOSTLY IN NIGERIA 😡.

Nov 19 2020

Why We Shout When Angry

A Professor was teaching.
He asked his students, ‘why do we shout in anger?
Why do people shout at each other when they are upset?’
The students thought for awhile.
One said, because we lose our calm.
But why shout when the other person is just next to you?
Asked the professor.
Isn’t it possible to speak to him or her with a soft voice?
Why do you shout at a person when you are angry?
The students gave some answers but none satisfied the Professor.

Finally he explained,
‘when two people are angry at each other, there is a distance in their hearts psychologically.
To cover the distance,
they must shout to be able to hear each other.
The angrier they are,
the stronger they will shout to hear each other through that great distance.
Then the Professor asked, ‘What happens when two people fall in love?
They don’t shout at each other but talk softly.
Why? This is because their hearts are psychologically close.
The distance between them is very close.

The Professor continued, ‘When they love each other even more, what happens?
They don’t speak, only whisper and they even get closer to each other in their love.
Finally they even need not whisper, they only look at each other and that’s all…..

So next time you shout on a loved one, know that you are creating distance between your heart and that person’s heart. Experience says a gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.

PLS SHARE with as many friends as you can. You may be healing a hot tempered person today… Enjoy every moment. “Life is easy” Don’t make it complex.

Nov 12 2020

Who Shake The Jar?

If you collect 100 black ants and 100 red ants and put them in a glass jar nothing will happen, but if you take the jar, shake it violently and leave it on the table, the ants will start killing each other. Reds believe that black is the enemy while black believes that red is the enemy, when the real enemy is the person who shook the jar. The same is true in our society.

Men vs Women
Left vs Right
Rich vs poor
Faith vs Science
Gossip, rumors, etc …

Before we fight each other, we must ask ourselves: Who rocked the jar?

Oct 27 2020

THE SPEECH DELIVERED BY BRIGADIER JOSHUA NIMYEL DOGONYARO AFTER BUHARI’S DETHRONEMENT ON AUGUST 27, 1985

STATE OF THE NATION

FLASHBACK:

THE SPEECH DELIVERED BY BRIGADIER JOSHUA NIMYEL DOGONYARO AFTER BUHARI’S DETHRONEMENT ON AUGUST 27, 1985

I, Brigadier Joshua Nimyel Dogonyaro, of the Nigerian Army, hereby make the following declaration on behalf of my colleagues and members of the Nigerian Armed Forces.

Fellow country men, the intervention of the military at the end of 1983 was welcomed by the nation with unprecedented enthusiasm. Nigerians were unified in accepting the intervention and looked forward hopefully to progressive changes for the better. Almost two years later, it has become clear that the fulfillment of expectations is not forthcoming.

Because this generation of Nigerians and indeed future generations have no other country but Nigeria, we could not stay passive and watch a small group of individuals misuse power to the detriment of our national aspirations and interest.

No nation can ever achieve meaningful strides in its development where there is an absence of cohesion in the hierarchy of government; where it has become clear that positive action by the policy makers is hindered because as a body it lacks a unity of purpose.

It is evident that the nation would be endangered with the risk of continuous misdirection. We are presently confronted with that danger. In such a situation, if action can be taken to arrest further damage, it should and must be taken. This is precisely what we have done.

The Nigerian public has been made to believe that the slow pace of action of the Federal Government headed by Major-General Muhammadu Buhari was due to the enormity of the problems left by the last civilian administration.

Although it is true that a lot of problems were left behind by the last civilian government, the real reason, however, for the very slow pace of action is due to lack of unanimity of purpose among the ruling body; subsequently, the business of governance has gradually been subjected to ill-motivated power play considerations. The ruling body, the Supreme Military Council, has, therefore, progressively been made redundant by the actions of a select few members charged with the day-to-day implementation of the SMC’s policies and decision.

The concept of collective leadership has been substituted by stubborn and ill advised unilateral actions, thereby destroying the principles upon which the government came to power. Any effort made to advise the leadership, met with stubborn resistance and was viewed as a challenge to authority or disloyalty.

Thus, the scene was being set for systematic elimination of what, was termed oppositions. All the energies of the rulership were directed at this imaginary opposition rather than to effective leadership.

The result of this misdirected effort is now very evident in the country as a whole. The government has started to drift. The economy does not seem to be getting any better as we witness daily increased inflation.

The nation’s meager resources are once again being wasted on unproductive ventures. Government has distanced itself from the people and the yearnings and aspirations of the people as constantly reflected in the media have been ignored.

This is because a few people have arrogated to themselves the right to make the decisions for the larger part of the ruling body. All these events have shown that the present composition of our country’s leadership cannot, therefore, justify its continued occupation of that position.

Furthermore, the initial objectives and programmes of action which were meant to have been implemented since the ascension to power of the Buhari Administration in January 1984 have been betrayed and discarded. The present state of uncertainty and stagnation cannot be permitted to degenerate into suppression and retrogression.

We feel duty bound to use the resources and means at our disposal to restore hope in the minds of Nigerians and renew aspirations for a better future. We are no prophets of doom for our beloved country, Nigeria. We, therefore, count on everyone’s cooperation and assistance.

I appeal to you, fellow countrymen, particularly my colleagues in arms to refrain from any act that will lead to unnecessary violence and bloodshed among us. Rest assured that our action is in the interest of the nation and the armed forces.

In order to enable a new order to be introduced, the following bodies are dissolved forthwith pending further announcements:

(a) The Supreme Military Council

(b) The Federal Executive Council

All seaports and airports are closed, all borders remain closed.

Finally, a dusk to dawn curfew is hereby imposed in Lagos and all state capitals until further notice. All military commanders will ensure effective maintenance of law and order. Further announcements will be made in due course. God bless Nigeria.

CAN ANY NIGERIAN TELL US THE DIFFERENCE THEN AND NOW?

Jul 18 2020

Do Not Support Evil: Even If It Does Not Affect You

Long time ago in the Animal Kingdom, a sheep was passing and saw a lion crying inside a cage trap and the lion begged the sheep to save him with a promise not to kill and eat it but the sheep refused.

After much persuasion and for the sheep’s gullibility it opened the cage for the lion.
Now the lion was very hungry having stayed in the cage for days without food.
It quickly grabbed the sheep to kill and eat but the sheep reminded him of his promise.
They were still there arguing when other animals came passing and they sought to know what happened.

Now the Tortoise asked the lion to show them where he was before the sheep rescued him, he pointed at the cage.
He asked again, “were you inside or outside when the sheep arrived”? The lion said he was inside.
The tortoise again said “ok, enter lets see how difficult it could be inside”.
The lion entered and the tortoise locked him back inside.

In amazement the other animals asked tortoise “why” and he replied “if we allow him eat the sheep today, he will still go hungry tomorrow and we don’t know the next amongst us to be eaten tomorrow.

Moral:

Don’t support evil today because it doesn’t affect you directly, tomorrow it could be your turn.

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Jul 13 2020

Moral lesson

A MESSAGE FROM MY ENTREPRENEUR FATHER🔥

Listen SON, your antagonist will increase at every seconds of your progress. My entrepreneur father said some few years ago.

As he walked through the environment, he said, walk with me. I have something to show you.

He went to the mango tree at the backyard, and requested I plug a fruit from the tree. Actually the riped one.

I looked carefully and replied; Sir, I can’t see any ripe one here. He stared at me for few seconds, this time, my heartbeat increased.

He has actually warned me to be prudent like King Solomon anytime I come close to him because the race is not for the ignorant anymore.

I adjusted my breath for another few seconds, I said again, Sir, I can’t find any riped MANGO. Beautiful, he said, with a confident tone. Then he continued,

Nobody will know you when you are not ripe. Nobody will attack you when your glory isn’t showing. At this stage, you are like the unripe fruit. Ignored, deserted, overlooked because your fruit is not nutritional.

Here is your first lesson Son, don’t fight to be seen or noticed, rather work on your fruit to be riped. It’s the nature of human to ignore people that are not productive. To be noticed, work more on your seed.

Come with me, this time, he took me to another tree, full with ripen fruit. Look around here and plug me two fruit. I look critically at the coconut tree, it was tall and uneasy to get, so I carefully took a big stick and hit it from afar, it fell to the ground so loud. Then I gave the two fruit to him. Then he said,

Here is it Son, the more ripe you become, the more enemies you attract just like the coconut tree. It’s the nature of human to come for you because you are ripe. They attack you just like you attack the coconut tree.

Don’t be moved, it’s your right to fulfill destiny no matter the attack on you. Keep growing. You are growing for two purpose.

One, as a shade for those that are helpless to hide and two, as a fruit for those that are hungry to eat from.

Understand this, your COURSE is beyond the attacker. Grow your lens of reasoning if you will last long as a fruitful tree.

You see that coconut tree, no matter how many you plug, it won’t dry up because of you. It will keep producing more coconut. It is because it produces more that makes it relevant in my compound. If not, I would have uprooted it a long time ago.

Just because your partner betray your love doesn’t stop you from loving someone else. You are productive, and you need to show your commitments as a tree that is fruitful not as a tree that dries up because of one person that plugs from it.

Just because someone fraud you is not enough reason not to trust. Trust is part of what makes your tree productive. Keep trusting till it get you to your breakthrough.

Just because a business partner betray your school doesn’t mean your school should close down.

Just because people don’t like what you do is not enough reason not to like yourself. Be your first admirer. Treat yourself with so much love and respect.

Nature will command people to take the course of likeness on you.

See Son, look at that bitter leaf at the other side of the compound, go and taste it. I moved a bit and I said, Sir, I don’t really like it. He smiled and said, Son,

This shows it’s not everyone that will like what you do, but you must never allow that determines how you grow.

That bitterleaf is never scared of growing no matter the hatred you have towards (him) because ‘he’ knows, one day, you will come looking for ‘him’ and ‘he’ will be your only saviour at that time. You will give ‘him’ all the attention you thought you couldn’t give.

Don’t stop growing Son. When your enemy increases for no reason, pay attention, your success is taking another dimension they can’t handle, the effect is dimensional.

The bitterleaf will attract enemies because of the kind of projection and growth it takes but sooner, it will be the ultimate search for many in few months to come. You are an ultimate search for someone tomorrow, so learn to improve your skills of growth today.

You are not growing to compete with the next person.

Coconut tree doesn’t compete with Apple tree, there seasons of growth and cycle is different. Learn to apply this in your journey as you move into the HALF session of the year.

Your competition is not with someone else. God who kept you on this Journey knows when your fruit will be ripe, so don’t envy others when their fruit is ripe. Seasons of growth is what matters. Move and grow in your own space.

Slowly but surely, your SEASON WILL COME.

Always remember,

The bloodline of your ancestors were DIFFERENT.

Let’s be inspired

May 23 2020

Story of the wacth

A young man saw his primary school teacher at a wedding ceremony.

He went to greet him with all respect and admiration!!

He said to him:
“Can you still recognize me Sir?’

‘I don’t think so!!’, said the Teacher, ‘could you please remind me how we met?’

The student recounted:
“I was your Student in the 3rd Grade, I stole a Wrist watch belonging to my then classmate because it was unique and fascinating.

My Classmate came to you crying that his Wrist Watch had been stolen and you ordered all Students in the class to stand on a straight line, facing the wall with our hands up and our eyes closed so you could check our pockets.

At this point, I became jittery and terrified of the outcome of the search. The shame I will face after other Students discovered that I stole the Watch, the opinions my Teachers will form about me, the thought of being named a ‘ thief’ till I leave the School and my Parents’ reaction when they get to know about my action.

All these thoughts flowing across my heart, when suddenly it was my turn to be checked. I felt your hand slipped into my pocket and you brought out the Watch. I was gripped with fear, expecting the worse to be announced. I was surprised I didn’t hear anything, but Sir, you continued searching other Students’ pockets till you got to the last person.

When the search was over, you asked us to open our eyes and sit on our Chairs. I was afraid to sit because I was thinking you will call me out soon after everyone was seated.

But to my amazement, you showed the watch to the class, gave it to the owner and you never mentioned the name of the one who stole the watch. You didn’t say a word to me, and you never mentioned the story to anyone.

Throughout my stay in the school, no Teacher or Student knew what happened. This incident naturally taught me a great lesson and I resolved in my heart never to get myself involved in taking whatever is not mine.
I thought to myself, you saved my dignity.”

“Do you remember the story now Sir? You can’t simply forget this story Sir!!”

The teacher replied, ‘ I vividly remember the story that I found the Watch in a pocket but i did not know in whose pocket the stolen Watch was found that day because I searched your pockets while I also had my eyes closed.”

In life, we need wisdom for everything we do. As Parents, Teachers, Leaders etc… We should be able to close our eyes to some things. Not all misbehaviour require punishment. Some will need encouragement, some mentoring and some monitoring. Be a Leader who impacts, not one who shatters.

Jul 28 2019

SEX IS FOOD

SEX IS FOOD!!!!!!!read

Sex is not all about making children. You must be a different woman to your husband every time. Seduce your husband, don’t always allow your husband to ask for Sex, there must be no timetable for sex. Be creative, don’t be predictable. Give him what he wants. If you loose influence over your husband, you have lost womanhood. Be part of your husband plans.

Don’t have too many children, you wanna sell them ? Allow your husband to check in and out anytime.

When a man is sexually satisfied, he is emotionally stable. Stop saying, is it food? Yes, sex is food !!!

As a wife, try to invest in yourself spiritually so you can adequately support him. Build yourself as his prayer warrior so that you will not be forced to pray at the end of your life. Don’t allow your husband to provide all your needs, he is not a money making machine. Iron sharpens iron, try to reciprocate.

You are meant to support each other spiritually, financially, physically and morally through thick and thin. You are a builder….Wise woman buildeth her home. Women need wisdom to build their homes. Do not be too outspoken, know when to talk, when to listen and when to be quiet.
Love your husband with all your heart, never tell him, if not because of my children, remember you’ve known him before the arrival of those children.

Pamper your husband, put his head on your chest and pray for him. Give him unannounced kiss from the back…. mwahhhhhh, don’t be too holy to kiss in the public.

He is your husband for God sake. Be romantic joooo, it is good for the heart. Some people are not happy that you’re happy in that marriage, proof them wrong that you love him and he is your crown, always feel good when you hold him. Don’t look 50 while you’re still under 40, it drives men crazy. Always keep fit regardless of your age or body.

To men:
Do not take a woman who does all these for granted!
Pamper her, pray for her, cherish her, love her, support her financially, make her feel like your woman! God bless you and your marriages.

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Feb 18 2015

MARRIAGE COUNSEL

MARRIAGE COUNSEL…

1. My son, a woman could be a good wife to you, some could be a good mother to your children but if you’ve found a woman like a mother to you, your children and your family, please don’t let her go.

2. My son, if you keep spending on a woman and she never asked you if you’re saving or investing, and she keeps enjoying the attention, don’t marry her.

3. My son, if I tell you that you’re the head of the house, don’t look at your pocket; look if you will see a smile on your wife’s face.

4. My son, if you want to have a long life, let your wife be in-charge of your salary, it will be difficult for her to spend it when she’s aware of the home needs and bills to pay but if it’s in your care, she will keep you asking even when all has been spent.

5. My son, don’t ever beat your woman, the pain in her body is nothing to be compared to the wound on her heart and that means you may be in trouble living with a wounded woman.

6. My son, don’t confine the position of your wife to the kitchen, where did you get that from? Even in our days, we had farm-lands where they worked every morning . . . that was our office.

7. My son, now that you’re married, if you live a bachelor kind of life with your wife, you will soon be single again.

8. My son, in our days, we had many wives and many children because of our large farm-lands and many harvests, there are hardly any land for farming anymore, so embrace your woman closely.

9. My son, under the cocoa tree that I did meet your mother could be your eateries and restaurants of nowadays, but remember, the closet thing we did there was to embrace each other.

10. My son, don’t be carried away when you start making more money, instead of spending on those tiny legs that never knew how hard you worked to get it, spend it on that woman that stood by you all along.

11. My son, when I threw little stones or whistled at the window of your mother father’s house, to call her out, it was not for sex, it was because I missed her so much.

12. My son, remember, when you say your wife has changed, there could be something you’ve stopped doing too.

13. My son, your mother, Bianca rode the bicycle with me before I bought that tortoise car outside there, any woman that won’t endure with you in your little beginning should not enjoy your riches.

14. My son, don’t compare your wife to any woman, there are ways she’s enduring you too and has she ever compared you to any man?

15. My son, there is this thing you people call feminism, well, if a woman claim to have equal right with you in the house, divide all the bills into two equal parts, take one part and ask her to start paying the other part.

16. My son, I met your mother a virgin and I took more yams to her father, if you don’t meet your wife a virgin, don’t blame her, what I didn’t tell you is that our women had prestige.

17. My son, I didn’t send your sisters to school because I was foolish like many to think a female child won’t extend my family name, please don’t make that mistake, the kind of female achievers I see nowadays has made the male-gender an ordinary tag.

18. My son, your mother have once locked up the cloth I was wearing and almost tore it because she was angry, I did not raise my hand to beat her because of a day like this, so that I can be proud to tell you that I never for once beat your mother.

19. My son, in our days, our women had more of natural beauty, though I wouldn’t lie to you, some had minor painting of their appellation mostly on their arms, the ones you people now call tattoo, but don’t forget that they didn’t expose any part of their body like your women of nowadays.

20. My son, your mother and I are not interested in what happens in your marriage, try to handle issues without always coming to us.

21. My son, remember I bought your mother’s first sewing machine for her, help your wife achieve her dreams just as you’re pursuing yours.

22. My son, don’t stop taking care of me and your mother, it’s a secret of growing old and having children to take care of you too.

23. My son, pray with your family, there is a tomorrow you don’t know, talk to God that knows everything, everyday.

Sep 16 2014

How Are You Building Your Life?

An elderly carpenter was ready to retire. He told his employer-contractor of his plans to leave the house building business and live a more leisurely life with his wife enjoying his extended family. He would miss the paycheck, but he needed to retire. They could get by.

The contractor was sorry to see his good worker go and asked if he could build just one more house as a personal favor. The carpenter said yes, but in time it was easy to see that his heart was not in his work. He resorted to shoddy workmanship and used inferior materials. It was an unfortunate way to end his career.

When the carpenter finished his work and the builder came to inspect the house, the contractor handed the front-door key to the carpenter. “This is your house,” he said, “my gift to you.”

What a shock! What a shame! If he had only known he was building his own house, he would have done it all so differently. Now he had to live in the home he had built none too well.

So it is with us. We build our lives in a distracted way, reacting rather than acting, willing to put up less than the best. At important points we do not give the job our best effort.

Then with a shock we look at the situation we have created and find that we are now living in the house we have built. If we had realized, we would have done it differently. Think of yourself as the carpenter. Think about your house. Each day you hammer a nail, place a board, or erect a wall. Build wisely. It is the only life you will ever build. Even if you live it for only one day more, that day deserves to be lived graciously and with dignity. The plaque on the wall says, “Life is a do-it-yourself project.” Who could say it more clearly? Your life today is the result of your attitudes and choices in the past. Your life tomorrow will be the result of your attitudes and the choices you make today.

Credit: Madam Sabi

Oct 17 2013

Important Notice

IMPORTANT NOTICE!

– Avoid getting dressed in front of your child once he/ she is 2 years old. Lean to excuse yourself.

– If you have to hire a house-help please kindly take them for HIV screening to determine their HIV status, properly interview them and make up your mind to treat them well.

– Never allow any adult refer to your new born as ‘my wife’ or ‘my husband’

– Never tempt your husband with your younger sister. (Else he’d say its hers and the devil’s fault).

– Warn your girl child never to sit on anyone’s laps no matter the situation including uncles.

– Avoid unnecessary familiarity and make sure you take care of your husband by yourself. Do not push him into temptation.

– Whenever your child goes out to play with friends make sure you look for a way to find out what kind of play they played together because young people now sexually abuse themselves.

– Never force your child to visit any adult he or she is not comfortable with and also be observant if your child becomes too fond of a particular adult.

– Once a very lively child suddenly becomes withdrawn you might need to patiently ask a lot of questions from your child.

– If you don’t teach your children about sex, the society will teach them the wrong values.

– It is always advisable you go through any new material like cartoons you just bought for them before they start seeing it themselves.

– Teach your 3 years old how to wash their private parts properly and warn them never to allow anyone touch those areas and that includes you. (remember, charity begins at home and with you)

– Blacklist some materials you think could threaten the sanity of your child (that includes music, movies and musicians) and let them understand the value of standing out of the crowd.

– Once your child complains about a particular person, don’t keep quiet about it. Take up the case and show them you can defend them always!

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written by Ibrahim Gana Malgwi

Sep 26 2013

Three important things every lady or wife should focus on and what every man should watch out for

1Pe 3:3-4 MSG
What matters is not your outer appearance–the styling of your hair, the jewelry you wear, the cut of your clothes(4)but your inner disposition. Cultivate inner beauty, the gentle, gracious kind that God delights in.

This morning, I want to write about ladies and I want to write for ladies. This will be good for every lady to read to know where they need to make adjustments and for every man to read to know what to watch out for in a potential lady.

I get called by ladies who are worried about not being married
while their biological clock is ticking away. There could be a lot of reasons for delay, and sometimes, what we see as a delayed marriage is actually an appropriate time in God’s plan.

You see, ladies, you need to know that preparation is a major key as you have been entrusted with a great and sensitive assignment, to be a help-meet for your husband. Look at the way amplified version puts it:

Gen 2:18 AMP
Now the Lord God said, It is not good (sufficient, satisfactory) that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper meet (suitable, adapted, complementary) for him.

To give you more perspective, there is no other person in the scripture who is referred to as the helper except you and the Holy Spirit! No wonder, God wants men to handle their wives with utmost care and love!

When you stress your wife unnecessarily, can I tell you the truth? You are stressing yourself! Don’t fight against your help!

Here are three areas every single and married lady should focus on

a. Character
Your character is your true personality behind closed doors. This is quite different from your reputation which is what you have made people believe you are. You can’t put up a false character always. Your character is your great asset as you move into married life.
Nothing follows you into marriage and sustains you in it except your character which you have built up over the preparatory years. You can act during courtship, but your acting dexterity dies after marriage and your real self becomes open.

How do you build character? Learn from mistakes and make adjustments. Don’t gloss over failures. Find out why it didn’t work and make deliberate corrections. Think through on issues. Learn to confront yourself. Ask questions from mentors and those that have gone ahead of you. Be guided by God’s word and principles. Put your body under. Refuse to compromise.

b. Charisma
This is the manifestation of your attitudinal disposition. Your positive attitude is the lift you need to take you higher in life without much struggle. Develop positive attitudes and your life will always experience positive effects.

Always wear a genuine smile on your face; it’s the cheapest and yet the most priceless gift you could offer someone especially when they really need it for encouragement. Also develop other positive attitudes and attributes like courage, integrity, joy and so on.

Avoid strife like a plague because that is what it is. Strife will stifle things. Learn to forgive your fiancé or husband easily because there will always be issues. Practice advance forgiveness.

The pressure of anticipation and expectation of a married life is not limited to ladies alone. Men also have their own share of desiring to be married. For men, the bulk of preparation for marriage is in the development of a sense of responsibility and the ability to take charge and assume the responsibility. After creating him, God gave man (Adam) the responsibility of caring for his environment (Garden of Eden and the animals) and of course, his family (wife, Eve).

c. Culture
Be cultured and refined in attitudes and behaviours. Be courteous. Learn the basic ethics of your culture, your prospective husband’s culture and the culture prevalent in your environment as the case may be. For instance, in Africa, respect for elders is an important criterion for a good reputation and favour with man.

Here also, a lady is considered uncultured if she cannot do certain basic household chores. Train yourself to be efficient. There is dignity in work, especially keeping the home. The basic qualities of the ideal woman of Proverbs chapter 31 are her abilities in good planning, leadership and domestic maintenance.

Be a hardworking woman. Laziness will put you at loggerheads with your husband. Learn to cook! Food is important to men! He wouldn’t want to eat nodules and flakes all the time.

Singles, don’t cheat on you fiancé! You don’t want to plant that kind of seed into your relationship. Don’t double date. Do it right so that you can rejoice. Married women, be faithful. Do not succumb to the devilish antics of your colleague or boss at work. He seems nice and has a listening ear than your husband, is that why you should hop in bed with him? It is all a trap of the devil to sift you like wheat. The devil knows that desecration of marital covenant can cut you off from God and His support and favour, He knows your prayers will be hindered that way. It’s a trap! It’s a snare of the fowler! Don’t do it!

Avoid emotional affairs. You may not be in bed physically, but you are already in the bed with someone else apart from your husband in your mind. Emotional affairs are valid acts of unfaithfulness. It will stress you. It will draw you back. You can be in bed with your husband and be imagining somebody else before you can enjoy making love with your husband. What an affliction! That is the height of emotional affair, and you cannot be blessed like that! Your affection is directed at dual personalities and you are rewiring your brain wrongly. You see, your husband is your head according to scripture. You cannot have two heads! Anything with two heads is a monster! Do you see the spiritual implication of trifling with emotionl affairs now? Over time, if you are not careful, you can be trapped like that because what happens in the mind will always happen in time. The same goes for the men!

How do you nip emotional affairs in the bud? Discuss everything and all things with your husband. Once you are open about that, it kills the energy for emotional affairs. But when you internalize it and secretly enjoy the game, you are strengthening it.

How I pray for you this morning that your eyes will open this morning, that in order to enjoy the fullness of God’s blessings, His favour, and all you have been praying for, you need to be wholly and whole-heartedly devoted to your husband in your actions and thoughts!

Eph 5:23 KJV
For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.

CONFESSION FOR THE DAY
I have a great character. I have the right attitudes. I am cultured and courteous. I have positive attitudes

PRAYERS FOR THE DAY
Lord, prepare me as a vessel unto honour in Jesus Name

THOUGHT FOR THE DAY
1Pe 3:3-4 AMP
(3) Let not yours be the [merely] external adorning with [elaborate] interweaving and knotting of the hair, the wearing of jewelry, or changes of clothes;
(4) But let it be the inward adorning and beauty of the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible and unfading charm of a gentle and peaceful spirit, which [is not anxious or wrought up, but] is very precious in the sight of God.

ACTION PLAN FOR THE DAY
Study the words ‘Character,’ ‘Culture’ and ‘Charisma.’
From http://www.kissesandhuggsclub.com

written by Ibrahim Gana Malgwi

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