Posted in Writing

Overexplaining, The Author’s Nemesis

Hello everyone, I hope all is well with you. I’m back today after a week of work and writing. I’m working on a new story and it’s coming along, but enough about that.

Typewriter, Overexplaining, the Author's Nemesis, Lisa Orchard
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Today, I want to talk about writing. I haven’t done a writing post in a while, so I thought I’d do one today. Today, I want to talk about overexplaining in writing. This is something all writers struggle with because they want to make sure the reader understands their characters and their motivations.

This is a good thing, but reading is an active experience. When an author overexplains it turns the experience into a passive one, and that makes the reader lose interest. We don’t want our readers to lose interest, right? So, we need to make sure we don’t overexplain.

Reading, Overexplaining, The Author's Nemesis, Lisa Orchard
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Another disadvantage of overexplaining is that it slows the pace of the story which may make the reader put the book down. We don’t want that, do we? Heck no. We want the reader to stay glued to the novel until the very last page. So, let the reader do their own thinking and draw their own conclusions. That keeps them engaged in the story.

It also creates emotional distance. Authors don’t want that. We want our readers to connect with our characters. If we create emotional distance our readers don’t connect. This means they’re more likely to put our book down.

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Also, overexplaining can be condescending. Readers like to use their critical thinking skills to draw their own conclusions. If we take that away from them and overexplain, the author gives them the impression that they don’t think they’ll figure it out on their own. It alienates your reader. We don’t want to do that because we want them to keep reading.

So, there you have it. How overexplaining can ruin your reader’s experience. Do you overexplain? How do you change that? Leave a comment! I’d love to hear from you!

Posted in Personal

My One Little Word

Hello everyone, I hope everyone had a Happy New Year. Mine was good. It was peaceful. We’ve had many years of planning slumber parties for my oldest, he was born on the first, so this year was more peaceful because he’s no longer in the slumber party phase.

Happy New Year, My One Little Word, Lisa Orchard
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But enough about that. Today, I want to talk about my one little word. Each year I pick a word that has special meaning for me. In the past, I’ve used Strive, Focus, Peace, and Appreciate just  to name a few. All of these are important, and I plan on continuing these, but this year I choose Accept.

Accept, My One Little Word, Lisa Orchard
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I know it’s a small word, but it’s an important one. It’s important that we see our friends and family clearly and accept where they’re at in their journey through life. I have to accept that they may not be able to meet me where I’m at. It doesn’t make them bad people. They are on a different journey than I am, so I accept that and allow them to go on their way.

Friends, My One Little Word, Lisa Orchard
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I need to accept that when people show me who they are I should believe them. I won’t make excuses for bad behavior any longer. Even if the other person’s behavior is a result of insecurity, it doesn’t matter. It’s their responsibility to manage their insecurity in a healthy way. It’s not my responsibility to tolerate hurtful behavior so they can feel better about themselves.

I need to accept that my children are growing at their own pace, and I’m not going to rush them. They still listen to me, which I find amazing because they are becoming so much more independent. They are critical thinkers. This is an important skill in this day and age.

So, there you have it. My One Little Word for 2026 is accept. Not a glamorous word, but one that will help me deal with the anxiety of dealing with manipulation and triangulation when I encounter those behaviors. How about you? Do you have your One Little Word? Leave a comment! I’d love to hear from you!

Posted in Personal

Seasonal Dormancy is a Real Thing

Hello everyone, I hope everyone had a Merry Christmas. Mine was good. My family comes to my house. I managed to cook the meal without burning the meat or leaving huge lumps in the potatoes. I didn’t get much writing done over the holidays but, I expected that. I never do.

Typewriter, Seasonal Dormancy is a Real Thing, Lisa Orchard
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But enough about that. Today, I was going to talk about New Year’s Resolutions, but I decided that topic was a little boring. I mean we all make these fantastic goals to eat heathier and work out and spend more time with our kids, yada, yada, yada. Then usually by the second week of February we’re back to binge watching Netflix instead of going to the gym and eating a bag of potato chips while we do it.

Netflix, Seasonal Dormancy is a Real Thing, Lisa Orchard
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I have come to the conclusion that the reason for this behavior is because it’s winter and we’re supposed to hibernate in the winter just like the bears and other woodland creatures. I know I’ve touched on this before, but I believe there is some truth to this.

Bear, Seasonal Dormancy is a Real Thing, Lisa Orchard
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So, to support this theory, I asked ChatGPT.com and came up with an interesting answer. Humans didn’t hibernate like bears. I stand corrected. But we did slow down during the winter months. It’s called seasonal dormancy where humans slept between ten and twelve hours a day and stayed in their caves and shelters for extended periods of time. There was also less travel and social activity during the winter months.

Why am I expounding on this topic? To let you know it’s normal to slow down during the winter months. It’s in our genes. It’s one of the normal rhythms of life. Don’t beat yourself up about it. Accept it and enjoy sitting by the fire and reading. I know I’m going to.

Reading, Seasonal Dormancy is a Real Thing, Lisa Orchard
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Thanks for stopping by and reading my post. What are you going to do during this seasonal dormancy? Read or binge watch Netflix? What shows are you going to watch? Leave a comment! I’d love to hear from you!

Posted in Holiday Posts

A Holiday Dessert

Christmas, A Holiday Dessert, Lisa Orchard
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Hello everyone, I hope all is well with you. I’m back today with one of my favorite Holiday Desserts. Thanks for reading my posts, and if you’re a chocolate lover, you’ll love this dessert!

Lorna Doone Dessert


1 package Lorna Doone cookies crushed
Add melted butter to cookies (this is the crust so add as much butter as you prefer; about ¼ to ½ of a stick)
1 7 oz Chocolate chips
2T Sugar
2-1/2 T water
4 egg yolks
1 teas. Vanilla
4 egg whites


Crush Lorna Doone cookies and add melted butter for the crust. Put crust in 10” baking dish and bake at 350 degrees until crust starts to brown. Combine chocolate chips, sugar, and water in double boiler until blended. Remove from fire and add egg yolks, beat after each one. Add vanilla. Chill for a short time maybe 10 to 15 minutes or until the pan is cool to the touch on the bottom.


Beat egg whites until stiff and fold into chocolate mixture. Spread over cooled cookie crust and top with whipped cream.
**I usually double this and put it in a 9×13 dish.

Posted in Holiday Posts

My Top Ten Christmas Movies

Hello everyone, I hope all is well with you. I’m back today after a week of work and some writing, not as much as I’d like, but that happens around the holidays. So, I give myself a little grace during this time. But enough about that. Today, I want to talk about some of my favorite Christmas movies. We put our tree up this week. We usually do it the day after Thanksgiving, but with the boys and their work schedule we had to put it off. Once we put up the tree and decorated it, I started watching Christmas movies.

Here’s a list of my favorites:

  1. Love Actually

Love Actually, My Top Ten Christmas Movies, Lisa Orchard

This is my favorite movie of all time. I love how this movie tells the story of love during the holidays. It’s fun and tender, all at the same time.

  • The Holdovers

The Holdovers, My Top Ten Christmas Movies, Lisa Orchard

This movie was so good. Again, another underdog movie. About a young man stuck at school during the holidays. I loved the fact the teacher stood up for this young teen. Especially when his own family had abandoned him. This is a must see.

  • The Polar Express

The Polar Express, My Top Ten Christmas Movies, Lisa Orchard

This is my third favorite. It reminds me of when the kids were little and we’d watch this movie together. There’s a lot of nostalgia with this one, and it brings back some fun memories.

  • Die Hard

Die Hard, My Top Ten Christmas Movies, Lisa Orchard

This one is a great action movie, and the family likes to get together and watch this one, too. The boys like this one now that they’re older. I like this one because I love underdog movies, and Bruce Willis’s character is the underdog.

  • Christmas Vacation

Christmas Vacation, My Top Ten Christmas Movies, Lisa Orchard

This movie was so funny. It poked fun at family traditions and at dysfunctional families. If you need a good laugh. This one’s for you.

  • Scrooged

Scrooged, My Top Ten Christmas Movies, Lisa Orchard

This one stars Bill Murray, and it’s a modern-day version of a Christmas Carol. It’s a funny movie with a serious message. It was entertaining.

  • A Christmas Carol
A Christmas Carol, My Top Ten Christmas Movies, Lisa Orchard

I loved watching this one even as a child. I loved the fact that the grumpy miser gets what’s coming to him, and it turns him into a better human being. This one has a great message.

  • A Christmas Story

A Christmas Story, My Top Ten Christmas Movies, Lisa Orchard

This is a heartwarming story of Christmas from a child’s perspective. It has some funny and tender moments. A good one to watch before the holidays.

  • It’s a Wonderful Life

It's A Wonderful Life, My Top Ten Christmas Movies, Lisa Orchard

This is a classic. It tells the story about George Bailey who’s down on his luck. It’s like Scrooge but with a twist. George has a heavenly journey that shows how bad life would have been if he had not been born. It’s the story of second chances and redemption.

So, there you have it, nine of my favorite Christmas movies. Do you need to get into the Christmas Spirit? Watch one of these! I’m sure they’ll help. How about you? What are your favorite Christmas movies? Leave a comment! I’d love to hear from you!

Posted in Health, Holiday Posts, mental-health

Dealing with Dysfunction during the Holidays

Hello everyone, I hope all is well with you. I’m back today after a week of work and writing. My story is coming along. I’m thankful I’ve gotten as much done on it as I have. I know I’m going to have take time off for the holidays, but it sure is nice to sit by the fire and work on my story. But enough about that. Today, I want to talk about the holidays.

I’m looking forward to mine. I love Christmas and the whole giving season, but many people don’t. For many people it triggers unhealthy family dynamics and tension. If you’re one of those people whose family was dysfunctional growing up. It’s okay to skip the holidays this year or share the holidays with an adopted family.

Many people who grew up in dysfunctional families create their own families consisting of friends and relatives who understand the situation and are willing to provide a supportive second family. This is such a healthy way to deal with unhealthy family dynamics. It’s a way to get through the holidays and avoid triggers. Setting boundaries is another way, but sometimes it’s just better to not see those unhealthy family members.

Family, Dealing with Dysfunction during the Holidays, Lisa Orchard
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The holidays can be extremely difficult, and these second families are a great way to deal with dysfunctional families, but the thing is dysfunctional families are present year-round. So, having a second family to go to for emotional support during the year is important too. If you’re in a dysfunctional system. Just remember, you can’t change other people, but you can change the amount of time you spend with them. Develop your own second family. There are people out there who can provide emotional support for you and accept you just the way you are. Have you ever been in a dysfunctional situation? Leave a comment! I’d love to hear from you!

Posted in Personal

My Thankfulness Post

I’m thankful for my boys. You have no idea how much I enjoy watching them grow and change. I do miss those little boy years when I could cuddle them and read to them. I used to tell stories to them before they fell asleep, and it was the highlight of my day to cuddle with them and giggle about the funny things that happened that day.

I’m thankful for my hubby, who keeps our home running like a well-oiled machine so I can do all the things I enjoy like writing, hiking, and running. I’m also thankful for our up-north time together, and our evenings in the winter sitting by the fire and chatting or watching our favorite shows.

I’m thankful for my writing. It’s such a great way to express my creativity, and I have so many stories I want to write. I love that I can lose myself in a story. It is a great stress reliever especially when I start to worry about things I have no control over.

Typewriter, My Thankfulness Post, Lisa Orchard
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I’m thankful for my health. I’m thankful I can still run in my sixties. I hope I have many more years of that activity because it truly does help me manage stress. I’m thankful every day that I beat cancer.

I’m thankful for sunsets and nature. I love hiking either by the beach or in the woods. I hope to have many more years of hiking in me.

Sunset, My Thankfulness Post, Lisa Orchard
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I’m thankful for my friends. I appreciate everyone of them for being bright lights in my life.

I’m also thankful for my strengths. My resilience and empathy. Both have gotten me through some tough times.

So, there you have it. My thankfulness list. How about you? What are you thankful for? Leave a comment! I’d love to hear from you!