O.D.

… These words still haunt me. 

I had just finished giving the broadest explanation for why sabotaging one’s own team or friends is a terrible idea. Explaining why in an argument, it’s important to give each other a chance to speak — to be civilised — because it would become easier to find a solution when all voices are heard and all minds are involved …

But this quote put a hole in the paragraphs of logic I had built with a big fat “Wrong”

You were right, [redacted]. It was naive of me to think that if I talked to someone long enough, they could see my side of things. There are people out there who simply don’t want to see reason, to think.

So many instances of my past came rushing to my mind. How a best friend could steal from their only friend, cashing in on the trust built. Leaving a loving wife and children to sleep around and have one-night stands with people pining for a family. Leaving a loving boyfriend to be with a guy who has a harem in the hopes of being the ‘exception’ — but hey, Mr. Harem has money.

All of these examples are real things I’ve seen for myself, and all of them don’t make any sense.

The minute you realise that the amount of effort you’re putting into making someone see reason, they are putting as much effort into not understanding, is when you accept there is something seriously wrong with the world. And it goes beyond the natural.

There is someone out there, close to you or around you, who is actively trying not to be better. I feel an ache in my soul just saying that, but it’s true. There is someone who no matter how much evidence you provide, will not accept it “just because”. 

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QUOTE #2 : “We Can’t Be Together, It’s just — I don’t know — the Spark Is Gone, I guess”

I think this is the most nonsensical thing anyone can say to end a relationship. But I also think it’s the perfect smoking gun. Wanna know why?

The person who says this has no substance. They live by feeding off the energy of others. 

If a ‘Spark’ is what you need for a relationship (or marriage) to work, you are mining for diamonds in a pot of rice, my friend. 

“Im sorry lover and parent to my kids. The spark is gone, it was the true star of the show. It’s time for me to go out there and find it again”

Hyperbole aside, do people realize how ridiculous they sound when they say something like this? 

The part that gets me is how they believe there’s nothing wrong that they’ve done. You have to wonder if they’ve considered the possibility that their ‘spark’ died a month into the relationship, but their partner stuck around for years because they knew love is about more than sparks. Love is a choice.

You don’t love people because they deserve it, you love them despite. If we all lived for these so-called sparks, Watt would be the point. (See what I did there lol? *ahem* sorry) 

It’s not fair to expect your partner to discover copper every day for the rest of their lives when you’re incapable of doing the same thing. The problem is thinking you are perfect and deserving of everything you want. That is simply not true. That’s just pride.

You are deserving of respect. And the respectful thing to do is fulfill your wish and let you go so you can wander the wasteland that is the dating scene till you realise choosing superficial standards for any relationship leads to a superficial ending. (Who woulda thunk)

“Forget trying to decide who qualifies for you to love them and demonstrate love that knows no qualifications” – Unknown

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This piece could go on forever, so let’s cap off the other quotes that enter my peripheral in a lightning round:

“You are too playful” – Okay.

“You are a disgrace” – And you are an unfaithful husband.

“Do you take [redacted] as your lawfully wedded wife?” – yes, yes, yes.

“He was just my friend” – The pictures I never told you about say otherwise. But again, thanks for the closure. 

“You are wise, like an old man” – Thanks, Mom.

“I know you ghosted me” – Nancy Drew here, everyone. Add “Protective” in front of the G word, Google what it means, and your case will be forever solved.

“I’m writing a book” – Good work sis. Keep at it. Don’t forget to read mine, though 🙂

“Welcome back” – It’s good to be back. You could say, through prayer and supplication, I’m feeling pretty …

– O.D. ©2025

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