Being a Woman is the most complicated thing,i would say..To put up with the latest fashion till satisfying the family’s needs…the demands get only higher..
The questions that I often encounter is,”why dont you wear jeans??, why dont you wear modern outfits?? ,why dont you attend parties?? ,and why do you always insist to go home by 6??”!!!…
Well,According to majority of the today’s youth,Modernity literally means doing all those which is mentioned above….Now the big question is…What is Modernity??
Being modern in thoughts is wat I call as Modernity..just because u dress according to the latest trend does’nt imply that u r modern if ur thoughts are crooked…and just because u are not fashionably dressed mean that u are a narrow minded person(“Kenathu thavala”,to be more precise in Tamil).For instance lets take an example of the typical expectations from the groom by the girl…”Well-settled,good pay,handsome etc etc and not to forget the age criteria,where it is said that the groom should be elder to the bride atleast by an year”…And my ques here is “y should always the groom earn more than the girl or wat is the big deal if the girl is more educated than the boy..??”And the age factor,to my knowledge,is because since,by nature girls are more matured than boys,a girl of 23 years would be more matured n thoughts than a guy of the same age..hence to balance that indifference only,generally it is said that an age difference of atleast 1 year is must between the bride and the groom..Back to the actual topic,they say that the groom should earn more else there might be ego clashes later..Oh..!!God!!Is this modernity??Is this civilization?!!Noo..!!I thought today’s guys were soo different from the older generations..If that’s the case,then y would there be ego to a guy if his better half earns more??After all,a girl never feels that way when her husband earns more,she only feels proud instead..This s where Maturity gets in..This is where Modernity comes..Without getting onself enlightened about all these,one cannot brand them as “BEING MODERN”..And I strongly feel,without broadening our minds right from these basic concepts there is no development..And today’s girls,also need a major upliftment as to wat is modernity and wat is not!!!..
And to those questions which is put towards me,I cannot wear clothes in which i dont feel comfortable,just because those are the modern one’s.And i cannot let my parents worried about my whereabouts or hang out without any time constraints just to fit into any popular gangs..Because I am different.I am Modern.I know my limits and responsibilities and i cannot bluff to my family to fit into that temporary “popular” gang,because they will never be in my life all along..My family will..And thats where my priority is…!!