Knacks and Knows of a Knave

The wisdom of a foolish life seen by the blured eye of a simple mind..

The Break Up

‘Let me see what this is.’ And he clicked on the screen.

A man in his late twenties or early thirties ran and did a triple jump over the ditch, having the hop and the step phases on the man and one of the ladies’ heads respectively. A second man came with a stick and whooped at the third like one does to a snake. A third lady made an attempt to run away in pain but the number of raised sticks and machetes coming down on her made her slump back into the ground. A man came out of the crowd and dragged her by her feet into the ditch and did not stop till he had tired his hands using the cane on her. Someone threw a twig onto their bleeding heads and others followed with more twigs. Then someone lit a match. One got up to run. An athletic man’s acrobatic stump on her head made sure she stayed down. The only man among tormented sat, half lying, half sitting; trying to get up, clothes burning, skin peeling off, charring, bleeding. He said something. Nobody heard. Nobody listened. Maybe he had not even said anything at all. One of the ladies got up and tried to fight her way out. Men beat her back into the ditch and piled more burning twigs at her. Only the writhing could be seen. And the crowd mocked their cries. Nobody shed a tear. After all they were witches of Kisii.

He closed the laptop lid and went to the bedroom to hide his teary eyes from her. But his blinking perhaps had given him away. He wanted to ask why the people did what they did. He wanted to know why out of the multitude not a single person had come out to defend the helpless four. Why not even their kin had spoken a word; or perhaps they had no relatives at all. He wondered what the sons or daughters would have done had they seen what was going on. And why the person who had captured it all on camera did so. He pondered if law enforcement meant anything where the video had been captured. And if indeed there is any justice anywhere. He had many questions.

‘You wanted to know what I meant in my text?’ He asked once he came back.

He was recently trying to develop some character. He wanted some virtue, some honour. He wanted to be human. He had tried not to hurt many people many times before but had ended up with a wake of broken faiths and hearts. He did not want it anymore. Not to bruise any trusting soul. Not a single more. So he had resorted to being aloof, distant, impersonal but not plastic. He hated plasticity. Many times he had walked into the hospital and craved being left alone. Rarely had he got his peace; the staff had at these times insisted that he greet them and stop being a snob. He wanted no more attachment.

‘I didn’t understand what you meant.’ She answered.

This disgusted him further. It was the second time. The first time she had not replied to her text till he coerced an explanation from him. He was not used to writing in contracted forms. Even long words such as entertainment and disenchantment would be written in full if he saw the need to use them. He saw short forms such as ‘lol’ and ‘smh’ as immature and common and predisposed one to being misunderstood as many times as was understood. But there were dictionaries and one could always ask what a word meant if it was an issue with difficult words.

‘Is it a word or what? Where did you not understand seeing that this text uses simple English words?’

‘Everything.’

She was waiting to graduate soon and he had the perception that she was one of the best in her class. She had applied for a scholarship for her masters study. She was almost sure she would get it. He had a secret craving for the really intelligent, not the bookish. And if they had the beauty to go with it, it really excited him. She was handsome. The kind that his friend said could make a good housewife. As to beauty, that was certainly not hers; maybe inner beauty. But her slowness exasperated him. Then he read the text.

I wish that we cut this plant seeing that it is thin and unhealthy and will not give fruit.

He had earlier in the year decided that he wanted no more meeting with ladies if they did not fit his idea of a good match. A girl who considered him to be her boyfriend had, a week ago, given him a short notice of visiting in the evening and seeing that it was only going to be a night, he had easily given in. When she came, they had had sex like rarely before. He had heard her mourn. She did not usually do this. When they woke, he had mostly been angry; at many things and nothing in particular. He had snapped at her severally and wished she hadn’t come. Many times he had wished the girl visiting hadn’t come. It always ended in some bitterness deep within him. He desired no more. He had grumpily seen her off and wished she wouldn’t call again, never again. She hadn’t called since. He was grateful for that. He had deleted her number off his phonebook as soon as she had boarded the bus. And when he came back to the house and noticed a necklace and some hair on his bedside table he had trashed them and emptied the bin immediately.

He explained to her how he had broken many hearts and desired no continuation of the same. He hoped that she would understand that that was a goodbye. One thing he was certain of is that he was done with inviting very sticky girls to his personal space. He wanted to be free, to love freely, to be loved freely. No strings. No conditions.

After he saw her off, he sprayed the house to keep her scent away.

Of Joy and Dogs.

So jihadist expect two and seventy virgins all bathed and sprayed just splayed themselves eagerly longing solely for them once they reach heaven? Disgusting; I want to throw up. A friend wondered what the female ones should look forward to. I have always imagined unquantifiable joy in heaven and been quite curious at this unimaginable reward that is promised in 1 Corinthians 2:9.

Talking of joy, the preacher in church last Sunday gave this intriguing story about there being no word for ‘joy’ amongst the Eskimos. It is said that the bible translators could not find an Eskimo equivalent to the word joy forcing them to look for a word or phrase as close as possible to this word joy. They then looked at their lifestyle and found that the happiest moments were when the huskies are well fed and are barking and running around and wagging their tails and the children are squealing in such a joyous, sorry no such word in their lingo so what do I say?, melee! The noble translators settled for wagging their tails. So imagine reading about the fruit of the Holy Spirit as being Love, Peace, Patience, Kindness, Goodness, Faithfulness, Gentleness, Self control and Wagging of tails! Or the disciples wagging their tails at seeing Christ resurrected. In one West African language the word joy means, literally, ‘song in the body’. The Cuicatec Indians in Mexico have the same predicament; they have no word for worship so the missionaries found the closest phrase as wagging of the tail. So you need to wag your tail in truth and in spirit.

A quick consult with professor Google led to a few other funny things about these Eskimos. They are a funny people. It is said that there being no sheep in the Arctic circle, the Inuktikut Eskimos’ bible describe Jesus as the Seal of God. The Sioux Indians have no word for ‘damn’ – or any other swear word. To express ‘Be not afraid’ in one tongue of Central Africa, we would have to say, in effect, ‘Do not shiver in your liver.’ I really admire these people who knew no fear. The term ‘prophet’ amounts to ‘God’s town crier.’ I had to laugh at this one.
If you read the Wycliffe Bible, a translation for Eskimos in Alaska has the word ‘lamb’ replaced with ‘seal pup.’ In a translation in the Makusi language of Brazil, ‘son of man’ was replaced with ‘older brother.’ In one bible ‘fig tree’ was replaced with ‘banana tree.’ So you cannot get bananas from firs… I presuppose.

Of course you will have to study the languages and cultures aforesaid to be able to get the truth and more beauty of Babel. Till then, We are One.

(Courtesy of gleanings from the web)

Hiding Sins

We are all good at something. If one does not know what that is, then the blame game is. We love to narrate how others did it and failed. How if they had done it this other way known to us, they would have succeeded. We love to expose the bad and the ugly in others while only brushing over the good. After all ‘mucene’ is only ear-tickling when it’s about others’ faults.

Nobody ever pauses to think that placed in the subjects of their discussion’s skin, the subject matter may even be more tantalizing. For instance, we all blame the girls when they become pregnant outside marriage. Of course I would not give them a medal of honour either even if the Luo have a very forgiving way of saying it; they call it ‘tripped’. Now, take a random sample of any girl or boy between 16 and 22 and you would be surprised at the fraction that fantasizes, practices or is addicted to matters carnal, obviously outside marriage. And what about us who generously apportion blame, don’t we watch pornography, fantasize, bring our partners over for the overnight romp, get others or ourselves pregnant then abort? The only difference between us and the ones made to bear their shame under the bright daylight sun is that we managed to conceal our sins. We just by some devilish luck never got caught. How the not getting caught gives one a pedestal of high morals is a great fallacy among mortals.

But beneath it all, above the silence of the stars and the loudness of our inner turmoils is one who is ever watchful. Not so that you are made to pay for moments of self deception nor so that the case may be lighter on the watcher’s side, but did you know that there is a tear that forever slowly descends the face that is cast on us? Each moment so that we may come out of the self deception and seek the greater way?

Now the Almighty is all seeing…

What the Heart Needs

Sometimes the heart needs the beauty of a foreign tongue
To try to decipher the spaces between the words spoken
And understand the tones the hand cannot write,
And remember the unuttered lessons of language.

Or is it the wordless language of thunder it needs?
The rebuke and advice of the storm.
Who can defy the confidence of the pouring rain?
Oh, the heart needs the whistling wind to question its courage.
Maybe it’s the deep darkness the beating heart needs.
It may then see the beauty of the midnight stars and the orderliness of the shooting stars.
Or the waking sun to shine upon it and light its dark recesses
To show it how futile it is to be fearful.

Or is it pain? Deep, deep pain.
When the heart is a pulp maybe it may learn
That the harmony of the orchestra of life is in the cacophony of inexplicables.

Hope You Dance

When Charlotte died, it brought a lot of hurt, tears and a lot of questions. I remember after my second child was born, she asked me, “Alice Evans,” as only she could say my name. She said, “Are you living or are you existing?” I didn’t get what she was saying at the time but this morning I could hear her voice asking that same question again. “Are you living or are you existing?” It’s funny what your mind goes back to when you are grieving. I told her after my girls are older I would start having more fun. Then it was after my children went off to college. Then it was after I helped with my grandbaby. I would tell, “My children need me.” But what I found in all these years living is, no matter how much love and support you give your children, they are still human beings and you are not their only influence. I have spent my entire life giving it away. I think I wanna keep the rest of it for me. Death is a tragic day if you haven’t lived. Thank you, Charlotte. For your whole life. (Alice Pratt in The Family that Preys)

Many people live in that small loop where their desires are always overshadowed by other things or people. Life is a routine of chasing after the bills, looking to fulfill some enduring commitment. Then when it’s all done, other things come up and overshadow the new found freedom and one has to look forward to the future for this elusive ease. Before you start living, your requiem mass is being read. A perfect definition of existing.

Alice Pratt (Alfre Woodard) succinctly says it above and Lee Ann Womack in her lovely song beautifully points to the choice.

I hope you never lose your sense of wonder,

You got your fill to eat but always keep that hunger,

May you never take one single breath for granted,

God forbid love ever leave you empty handed,

I hope you still feel small standing by the ocean,

Whenever one door closes I hope one more opens,

Promise me you’ll give faith a fighting chance,

And when you get the choice to sit it out or dance,

I hope you dance, I hope you dance,

 

I hope you never fear those mountains in the distance,

And never settle for the path of least resistance,

Living might mean taking chances but they are worth taking,

Loving might be a mistake but it’s worth the making,

Don’t let some hell bent heart leave you bitter,

When you come close to selling out reconsider,

Give the heavens above more than just a passing glance,

And when you get the chance to sit it out or dance,

I hope you dance, I hope you dance.

Time is a wheel in constant motion always rolling us along,

Tell me who wants to look back at their years and wonder where those years have gone.)

(Lee Ann Womack, I Hope You Dance)

How to be Lied to,

The most sold category in bookshops is inspirational/biography/self help. Lie. It is text books. The truth is the effect of these books is illusional, producing dogmatic, unimaginative and ignorant mass of good readers. So you want to be an Alexander the Great or a reincarnated Rockerfeller? Laughable. So in his pursuit for greatness, whom did Abraham Lincoln look up to? The world has six billion unique human beings a major part of its purportedly educated oblivious of this obvious fact and relentlessly trying to resurrect the long dead who uniquely pursued their singular life missions when their suns still shone. Unacceptable. Doesn’t the holy book remind us how wonderfully and fearfully we were crafted?

Imagine if, this is an absurdly impossible idea, the world had produced two million individuals of a character and loftiness admired by these escapist readers. Further suppose that the same two million individuals had the good fortune of their life stories being recorded in the so called best sellers. Imagine the exasperation the readers would face just trying to absorb the biographies of these illustrious lives. As it is now there are books about everything: How to wash your hands,How to use a fork, How to… Heard this joke of an author who wrote on how to stand and walk. The book sold so well that the author was approached by his publisher to write on how to sit and eat. Jeez, where did we lose it?

I love reading. By all means I do. But far be it from me to condone these lousy scandals in the name of How to this and How to that. I’d rather read Khoisan history.

‘mama’.

Mama, do you remember the day you broke this pan here? This earthen pot my great grandmother gave you a day before she passed on saying you be a good woman and take care of your children? You had not a family then and had not even finished school. Remember, mama, how you flung it upon the wall when you did not have your monthly visit though you had waited two weeks? Do you remember all those herbs you took in order to get the next flow? Do you remember how many meals you skipped for fear of your tummy swelling?
When your tummy started growing, do you remember the many prayers you said in order for it not to grow further? Do you remember wishing that the ‘thing’ die immediately you started having the cramps? Do you remember how you did not breast feed for you could not believe that at such a tender age a young girl could breastfeed? Do you remember how you fed the little bundle sugared water for three days till grandma slapped sense into your head when your breasts started dripping milk? When grandpa could not take you to school for you were now a mother and school is only for nuns and girls, do you remember how you left the bundle by the forest wishing that some wild dogs would maul it and relieve you of the eagerness of going back to school? Do you remember that were it not for that nosy single toothed hag who always spied on the village girls the bundle could have been torn into smallest pieces by the rabid hounds?
Do you remember how you swore you were never going to get others like the one you had and grandma had to promise grandpa that you would keep the promise if you were taken back to school? Do you remember how for many years grandma was also mama for you were always in school far and away? Do you remember how when you finally finished college you came speaking this language that mama always made fun of and your now-no-longer-a-bundle was an eyesore you couldn’t bear? Do you remember how you sent the brat to a mission school so that it could be forgotten and you could pursue further studies, your career, your life?
Do you remember mama, how you did not come to school even when the hall got burnt and nothing of the students’ was salvaged? Do you remember how the national awards were being presented and you were required to come? Do you remember how your hair had to be done on the same day and a school visit was the last thing you needed?
Do you remember the court case where you stood with the prosecution against the brat? Do you remember how the three years sentence against your own rang no familial chords in your heart? Do you remember how after two year the brat was acquitted? Do you remember grandpa and grandma died last week? Do you remember that everyone saw the tears of sorrow shed for loss but only this brat cried with you?
That is the first time you hugged the brat.

The Poolside

In the gospel of John the fifth chapter, there is story of a man by the pool of Bethesda. Now Bethesda had five porches in which a great multitude of sick and disabled people sat waiting to get into the pool. An angel moved the waters of the pool from time to time and whoever was first to step into the pool immediately after the moving of the water could be cured of whatever infirmity he had. This man had been sick for thirty eight years. Now, for your information, that used to be the life expectancy in Kenya sometime in the recent past. Whatever infirmity it was, this gentleman had borne it for a major fraction of his life. Maybe he was 38, maybe in his 40s, maybe 60s or even 70s. Then, perhaps giving up, having tried all ways and means with no relief, he asks that he be taken to Bethesda. At the pool he is too slow and all the others seem to be getting ahead of him every time the pool is moved and he is forced to wait for the next moving of the waters.
You may call your life a rat race: hard bosses, impossible deadlines, inadequate pay, too many bills. Or your life may not just be running the course you would like: stagnated progress professionally or academically, dreams that seem elusive or business ventures that read like horror stories. Or is it just one desire; one single thing with which you hope to make your life complete: a mate, a child, a job, college fees or just a friend? Or is it health: that pain that never goes away or that disease that has drained the last drop of the family’s pool? Whatever it is you may have waited for the longest time for a solution. You try so hard but nothing seems to work. Everyone else has it going for them but you. You are like that man by the pool who is too sick and has no one to help him into the water fast enough. The wait may have drained the last dregs of hope in you.
Jesus saw him lie there and He knew he had been there a long time He said to him, ‘Will you be made whole?’ and ‘Rise up from your bed and walk.’
I don’t know why this man had to suffer for so long but two things certainly happened. Firstly, having been struck by disease he sought to dip himself in the pool. That was a prerequisite for his healing. Secondly, his day finally came. So give up giving up and put that smile on: your day is coming; today, maybe tomorrow or the day after. You will either get into the pool or Jesus is going to walk by. Just hang on there.
I like good movies and I always try to pick the movies I watch. Great movies are rare. Yesterday I watched the movie The Curious Case of Benjamin Button, I’d recommend it to anybody who values his time. In a letter to his daughter Benjamin Button, the star in the movie, says, ‘For what it’s worth: it’s never too late or, in my case, too early to be whoever you want to be. There is no time limit, stop whenever you want. You can change or stay the same; there are no rules to this thing. We can make the best or worst of it. I hope you make the best of it. And I hope you see things that startle you. I hope you feel things you never felt before. I hope you meet people with a different point of view. I hope you live a life you’re proud of. If you find that you’re not, I hope you have the strength to start all over again.’
So a thought for the week: can you start all again?

After Crossing the Tape

I am going to die some day, sooner or later. So I want to imagine how I want my life to be; from the present moment to the very last. I bear in mind that it is hard to control most of the things a man passes through in life, the things that determine his reflexes and thoughts and ultimately influence the kind of life he lives and even the legacy he leaves behind. It is not in a man to determine when he dies and neither is it given him to tell the kind of life he will live. Even the great king Solomon in all his wisdom could not foresee the future and ended by lumping all the days a man breathes into the meaninglessness bin. Who knows if God has just today for me or that he will call me to account tomorrow? What if I am to live a man’s full life or even forever? The mere thought makes me excited and scared at the same time. I wish to do this in reverse order; backwards to the present moment.
Let us start with the moments that follow the last moments, after I am gone; the very last memories that remain of me after the dust is settled. You know the memories…
If I die today, God forbid, my legacy will be paltry and my memories scant. There is neither much in property nor goodwill to leave for those who look up to me. What will remain are mainly wishes. Wishes. That whatever can be scavenged from this miserable life be apportioned amongst my mother and junior siblings. That it be divided in such a way that the most vulnerable, my immediate two followers are assured of a better life, if that is possible. But this I’ll set out in my will. But let it be known that I loved my family and that I lived a good life. What about my friends? I tried to be a good friend; learning from and supporting whenever it was within my power to. I never offered detrimental advice to my friends and though I had moments of envy for my friends, I always wished the best for all the people I know.
But I have not imagined myself dying in the near future. So if it is to happen later on in life, perhaps after I am married or better still with children of my own, I want to be remembered as the best dad and husband ever walked the planet. I want to be remembered for the care and protection, for the love and tenderness, for the teaching and leadership, for the examples and directions I offered. But let it not be lost to the wind that I was never perfect but had multiple flaws and deficiencies. In my career I want to be remembered as a good doctor. This I say with a little misgiving given the kind of regrets and close calls I have had the last few days. For instance, the other day I came across this former client of mine who some time ago had come in the night with what I perceived to be a laceration needing no more than dressing and undressing two days later. He told me that at the time of opening the wound, it had had to be stitched. By his tone, I could tell that he was not pleased at all. Or the other day when an hour’s delay to perform an operation had resulted in a losing a baby… Pangs of guilt and shame almost seem overwhelming. But I want to be remembered as having put service before money and excellence before fame… Let my demise not be a stop to the lives of the ones I leave behind nor should the paucity of income accrued from my being the late make those I treasure lead a life that I would not have let them live had the Lord given me more days.
But still, old age is where I see myself, with an athletic body still; or perhaps with a cane to support the frail frame. So in the year 2100, my children will miss the best dad and my grand children the greatest grand daddy. They will appreciate the education they got and the fact that even in our old age we never expected them to give us anything. Wealth is not what I want to leave behind and far be it removed from me that all I will leave is liability and ways to cover for the inadequacies I had. Enough to keep but not too much is all I desire. My wife will miss her greatest admirer and supporter but the children will act in my stead so she will not be lonely. Historians may forget to mention his name and poets may have graver issues to moan about, but it will be written like a song upon the hearts of many that the late was an admirable man and that in his league there are rare remnants. Humanity will appreciate the contributions of his life and though the world may not have recognized his face while he walked the streets, his name will be unmistakable.
But I have no way of determining what men will think now and worse after I am gone but still… But still, the Lord knows what He has in store for a wayward soul within this body and it will be utter loss if I got all the above and not peace after I’m gone. Peace of mind, peace of soul and of peace of spirit.
Now to my funeral…

The hurt

Hurt. The deepest and most intense of emotions. When there is no remorse nor care, then it may transect the soul. To experience hurt and betrayal from so close. Then with rejection and one is almost to break. Then darkness though desirable is not welcome and light just the same. The birth of meaninglessness.

Forgiveness. The most royal of all actions. To forgive and love after being crushed. To cast a blind eye upon all callousness and ignore the unsightly scars. There follows no greater order.

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