Lies She Wants You To Believe

Women subtly want you to believe these lies so they stay in control. However, she refused to speak the real things when you’re not her type.

Here’s how to identify the manipulation and change the course of events.

1. “Looks don’t matter.”

She will say it just to be polite. However, the first impression is created by the way you look. She won’t pursue abs, but she will feel different around you if she is well-groomed and adopts a masculine stance.

Make sure to dress well, clean, smell good, and tidy.

2. “I’m not like other girls.”

This is what every woman say and they believe it.
Words are nothing. The truth is found in patterns.
Examine her actions rather than her self-perception.

3. “Just be yourself.”

Well, no. Be yourself at your best.

If “yourself” means insecure, needy, or aimless she’ll ghost you while claiming “you’re amazing.”

What she truly intends to say:
Be the most confident, grounded, and attractive version of yourself.

4. “I need a man, not a boy.”

She wants a man who’s kind, childish around to her, but tough with the world. Because she also needs some time to rest her brain, laughs. She can’t act strong all the time.

She will quickly become disinterested if you are lack of sympathy.

5. “We can still be friends.”

Friendship is an emotional leash, if she dumped you or rejected you. She wants your attention without giving you intimacy.

It drains your ego while boosting hers. Stay cordial, not available.
First and foremost, respect yourself.

6. “I don’t play games.”

That is the game.

She puts you to the test. Delay replies. Act distant to see how you react.

It’s emotional survival instinct, not a sign of evil.

Men who understand the game; lead it rather than being played.

7. “If it’s meant to be, it will be.”

What she is actually saying:
“I’m not willing to put in effort unless I’m obsessed.” Truth is, when she really wants you she makes time, breaks rules, and moves mountains.

Never mistake apathy for destiny.

The moment you spot the lies she speaks, quickly move on because you don’t match her standards and her energy. She needs a man who feels larger than life.
You’re just someone she can use, someone to accompany her. Don’t waste your time!

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Your Partner’s Friends Are Not Your Friends

That’s often the cold, hard truth of the adult social dynamics!

The person you start dating will automatically introduce you to their friends. Despite the pleasant conversation, you may sometimes hang out together, share stories, and you may feel included. The fact is, however, your partner’s friends are not truly your friends. There’s a gap between a friend and someone they know!

Even if they make you feel welcomed or whatever makes you think you are part of their group; the primary loyalty, naturally, lies with your partner. When a fight or break up happens, there is no surprised if they take side because that the person they stood by long before you came, even if the whole problems cause by your partner. They will either ignore the warning signs or act as though nothing is amiss. Some will choose to remain mute, whether they suspect something is wrong, they still pretend they don’t see anything since they don’t want to betray their pal.

You don’t have to be constantly friendly or always being a helpful person because you are not being included since the beginning and it is not your obligation to support them. Wise perspective to have, they are your partner’s friends and it is okay to set boundaries and to not be overly involved in your partner’s friendships; however maintain your own friendships and social circles, as this is important for your own well-being.

It is crucial to keep up your own circle individuals who are honest with you, stand up for you, and be concerned about your mental health. You will need your own support system, not borrowed loyalty, when things fall apart.

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I Love You But I Set You Free

Everything has its own limitations and when you cross the line, it cannot be turned into normal once it used to. Holding things tigh could harm one another and probably letting things go is a key.

It took me a while to understand I could still love someone and have the courage to let them go, especially when our souls are no longer getting happy together.

It’s been a year, I was holding onto connections that no longer grow because I thought I needed to keep my promise, without understanding even love evolves, and I was not ready to fear that change. But now, I’m ready.

I learned that love and loss can both coexist and that letting go is not a failure to my heart, but it’s an act of grace. Letting go of something that no longer be good for either one of us can heal. Saying quote that real love is not a possession, it’s about freedom; and I’m choosing to let go because it’s right even if it hurts.

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Christmas In Buddhist Country

Not everyone enjoys Christmas, and this is true in my country, but I’m happy to see that attitudes have changed due to cultural influences. The place I live is known as Buddhist country which Buddhism is the state religion. A decade ago, we rarely see church, not because we’re in developing country but Christianity at that time didn’t get huge support by the people here.

The more growing in every sector including education, European culture is gaining popularity and acceptance as it expands in all areas, and attracting new individuals with fresh perspectives. People get more delighted and celebrate ceremonies that are universal and get more enthusiastic these days.

Despite the fact that globalization and Western cultural interaction have allowed its influence to permeate popular culture, there is still prejudice from minor locals that consistently contradicts what the country did not establish. The ridiculous statement always, “This is not what originally came from our nation or It’s against Buddhist rules.” Haha, I sometimes doubted what if they really know that Buddhism came from India, and of course, Siddhartha never told you to drink alcohol, but what a holly, you always easily find different featuring iconic beer brands here. LMAO!

Even though the populations here are primarily Buddhist, celebrate Christmas though not typically for religious reasons like Halloween in certain non-Christian cultures, it’s frequently regarded as a joyful and festive event. It is nevertheless usual to decorate, provide gifts, and have special meals, even if the story of Jesus isn’t the main event.

Hopefully in the future, I won’t hear those ridiculous statement anymore.

For the non-bias, Merry Xmas everyone and have a very Happy New Year!

P.S. I won’t write much next year. More works to come, more things to accomplish, and I also have plan for the local trip. You can re-read my previous articles in case you miss this feeling.

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The Black Sheep

I haven’t had many friends in my life so I’ve become accustomed to being alone – a trait that may irritate other individuals. I like being myself because this way I can be avoided to be the typical joke by the people. I were always consider anti-social that’s why my relationship with human didn’t get along well. Although some people might believe I’m mean, but I’m not, unless I have to. Nonetheless, I am not bitter nor do I regret how my life turned out. My only wish is for people to be treated equally.

From my early childhood, the phrase “the outsider” has lingered in my head. I’ve tried to blend into a world most of the time but people continue to disappoint me. The judging, the mocking, how could they become influenced by that? How was it possible for them to be fit in where criticism and ridicule become a simple norm? Why is it okay to label those who are shorter, or less wealthy as losers? Even chuckling?

They call it a trend. And to them, people like me were different, because in a world full of trends, I would remain classic. They can’t related to me and do not see me as equals, I am always being kicked out.

The same feeling always and just happened to me again recently. To calm down my frustration, I choose to write.

A painful lunch.

While waiting, I tired to engage them in conversation, greetings, asking questions, but their responses were curt and dismissive. Their eyes seem to be elsewhere. It was as if I was invincible, a mere ghost at a table.

In Asian culture, we typically order a large dish of food and then divide it among several smaller plates. I was the one sitting closest to the food, getting my spoon ready. But one angel took it for another princess. I was so shock, my mind went blank, all I could do was speechless. Could you imagine that? Haha, such a shame on me!

The one enjoyable meal turned into a mix of frustration and miserable ordeal, my laughter echoing hollowly in the silent room. It’s a lonely and isolating experiences, one that leaves myself questioning my worth nor is value my presence. I realize, I am being ignored and unheard. I do not feel love and understanding here. I really want to leave but ended up forcing myself sitting until we finish that lunch.

Guess making friend with Alien seems a lot more easier xD

Anyway, Bon appétit!

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Bro Codes: Written Rules – Skyy’s Theory

Everything is going well so far! I have been happy lately, the reason I didn’t write much. Since I have not updated my post for long, let’s have a look at my written Bro Codes that define how bros, typically men in a close friendship circle, should behave towards each other.

  1. Bros have each other’s backs, no matter what. Never afraid to fight!
  2. A bro shall never make a bro feel ashamed in public.
  3. Your bro’s family is your family.
  4. Punch your bro in the face, not in the butt.
  5. It is okay to cry bro, but don’t.
  6. Bro can die for mercy but never beg for life.
  7. Never feed a horse that you don’t ride.
  8. A bro should know when to leave.
  9. A bro always advises his bro with the best tips to approach a girl.
  10. If your bro asks you about your opinion of his new date, you are supposed to give an honest answer. If you don’t like her, tell him.
  11. No matter how beautiful or sexy your bro’s sister is, she is your sister too.
  12. Never make fun of your bro just to impress women.
  13. It has nothing to do with you being a better charmer than your bro in front of his girl.
  14. In the absence of your bro, never ever smash your bro’s chick. You are his girlfriend’s protector, follow her and keep her safe.
  15. You must do all you can to save your bro from dating a guy.
  16. Dating your bro’s ex is a major Bro Code violation.
  17. If your girlfriend and your bro’s girlfriend are named the same, never tattoo her name. Enough said.
  18. A bro doesn’t watch cartoons.
  19. A bro never holds hands with bro while walking.
  20. A bro never uses a filter, a bro must look ugly.
  21. Make your bro look like a superhero in front of his girl. You play weak and save his image.
  22. If your bro has a new target, be a supportive wingman. make him proud by doing your job well. His result is your responsibility.
  23. A bro shall take anyone secret to his grave.
  24. You shall make excuses for your bro whenever required. Of course it wasn’t him, it was the alcohol.
  25. Never fall in love with the girl that brings food to the gang.
  26. Even if a girl manages to enter the bro gang, you shall never reveal the bro code to her. 

Enjoy! I’ll write another article after finishing my hot chocolate.

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Appreciate Little Things

How good is it to live for the little things in life? What about watching sunrises and sunsets where you’ll see the sky changing color? Or perhaps take a simple road trip and enjoy some leisurely bike rides across the countryside? And there are days when you’re surrounded by your favorite people who make you realize the world is not cold. Don’t you think it sounds amazing?

Society somehow gets you to believe that winning is something bigger and grander. That’s the reason you’re starting to purchase more—a large house, an expensive car, brand new accessories—and we’re always having desires and feeling grateful for something bigger. Falling into a trap, we paradoxically can’t survive without those extras, and foolishly believe that life is meant to be that way.

I see most people get upset when they don’t accomplish something significant; others even lose hope when even the little encouragement they didn’t hear. In that moment, they lost themselves, forgot all their effort, and sacrificed trying to get here today.

I remember once volunteering in one organization. At the nearly end of the term, we had an event called NLDC, and at one point, a host speaker questioned everyone, “What do you think is the biggest achievement of joining this organization?” People have varied ways of describing their achievements since, of course, there are many big things we have done. Only one girl claims her biggest achievement is to be a member of this organization. “I had never dreamt of being here.” Says she. And everyone in a hall went for a silence.

In 2023, there was a female Cambodian runner at the Southeast Asian Games; during the 5,000 meters, she kept running and was being soaked by a rainstorm. She didn’t won the race, but her determination to finish the race anyway won her nation’s heart. When a reporter asked, she said, “I knew I could not win, but I told myself that I shouldn’t stop.”

That tale really touched my heart. Most people don’t really care that you tried; they only celebrate when you succeed. There are many of us who are willing to do great things, but few of us are willing to do little things. Never lose sight of the fact that great things are done by a series of small things brought together.

Life is exclusively simple. And those simple things already existed; all you need is a little concentration and excitement to cheer with them. Tell you something: I still get wildly enthusiastic about tiny things. I watch the sky, I play with the wind, I smell the leaves, I unslept to see fireflies, and I follow ants as they stroll in line. Tell you something more: the peeps always tease me, like, “Is this your first time on earth?”

You may touch the magic of life when you are aware of where you are at any given moment. The world is a huge beast, it will frighten you, it will discourage you, it will make you want to give up on life but when you start value the small things that happened in your life, it will be the most beautiful thing you’ll ever discover.

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A Smile of Stranger

Her eyes on meatball, sticking with chopsticks then put on a sauce.

Music plays in foreign language!

She opens her mouth with utter amazement. “I don’t even understand but I like this song.” Talking to her friend in the absence of looking.

Different table but we’re nearby.

I quietly whisper thinking only myself can hear. “As same as I like you without even knowing your name.”

She’s staring at me immediately. I’m sitting still trying to avoid of being seen. And she starts smiling.

She smiles a whole day, I guess.

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Back to Reality

This is fairly typical behavior of me that I distance myself when too much has happened. I knew better days are coming, not today and probably not tomorrow, but one day. I just need a little more time for myself, been afraid of crazily doing stupid thing whenever I go out and talk to people. For these three months, I try to avoid of being seen as much as I could. My thoughts were destroying me. I tried not to think but the silence was a killer too.

Dark circles around my eyes tell me I should get some rest. At any point, I really need someone who can talk. But I never brave enough to say such a thing. As if the more we are saying things, the more things are left unsaid. Always push myself to get drunk so I can blame it on vodka. And my heart aches thinking that there are too many people with too many words trying to express every corner, yet we are left with stories still unsaid, with silence still unacknowledged.

I knew I am not the only one. I saw sad people smiling, showing cherish moments, but secretly praying for a better tomorrow. When people don’t express themselves, they die one piece at any time. You’d be shocked at how many adults are already dead inside – walking through their days with no idea who they are.

Someone told me, life never stop getting harder. We just have to change our perception. I felt that. I choose to face the reality, and so that I can express my thoughts through my writing. I ain’t a good writer. I only write when I am falling in love, or falling apart. But I never experienced of being loved back. Hoping my broken stories; one way or another; could motivate someone, or at least, I can dream about it.

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Forgive Me! I Want to Get Lost For A While…

Door locked, curtain closed; it was just me in my tiny messy room. Afraid of lights. I lied down; unable to move; knowing my heart still beat but I found it’s hard to breath. When it is dark empty here but everything seems to be colorful. Guess I’m getting upset but I didn’t. I didn’t feel sad anymore. It is just silly that my life has been struggling more and more. Too much has happened. Been quietly telling myself I am alright.

The 24th of June, I cried. It was heavy and I can’t hold it tight anymore. And I was getting sick a day after.

I get to work as normal. I don’t fake smile this time. They say, “What are you?” Creepy as hell! Can’t they just ignore me?

A meal a day, junk food. I can’t tell how it tasted. Not that I am not hungry but I don’t have an energy to just sit down and eat.

I don’t know if this called independence or loneliness.

Happy? Always convincing I am.

Why is it hard to cheer myself up? Is self-motivation being cursed?

Fishy or not, the thought of telling my problems to people scared me. Thought of getting some heals when I write.

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