
There’s a twitch down deep and they’re dancing on my brain.

There’s a twitch down deep and they’re dancing on my brain.
Today I went on my first date and he kissed me goodnight.
He walked me to my front door, waved at my mother standing in the kerosene lit
shadows, and kissed me on my forehead.
I had a great night.
Brenda.
Look at me… I had a great night.
His breath smelled of the curry we ate earlier. His skin was animated and sticky.
So sticky I could feel the potency of his perspiration rolling down from the tips of my
lashes, to the meat of my eyes, only to become a continuous acid drip down my
throat, sloshing at the core of my stomach.
Have you ever walked into your own home, saw that the tea kettle was were it has
always been for 10 years, that your little sister was sprawled in the same spot you
find her in everyday, and that your mother still existed, eager and loving as always,
and yet every fiber in your godforsaken flesh tells you that this is no longer a refuge.
He has striped away the essence of my soul solely because he could and wanted me,
new, bruised, and trampled.
How was your first date sweety?
I wanted to tell her that the girl that left this house came back a broken woman,
dripping the cum of her violation.
But instead I said fine.
He has wrapped me in his devastation, told me I am worthless, told me I am filthy,
told me I am his.
He entered me and gave birth to a woman who no longer knows where her body
begins and the agony of invasion ends.
The dirtiness of this world has engulfed me.
And as lay my head down on the same pillow I have laid on all the days of my life,
I will pray that there will be no tomorrow,
that this skin of mine will flake and peel off into the wind,
into the flames,
into the depths of absolute nothingness.
The word feminist has become static. In a world where women are subjected to a plethora of obstacles, beliefs, and goals, we have taken the ideals of a select privileged few and let it define what it means to be a feminist. This word, feminist, no longer allows for diversity and in turn it has been used to shame women whom decide to let their lives define the term, rather than let the term define them. Nigerian Author Chimamanda Adichie breaks down this issue perfectly in her TED Talk which was recently sampled in another feminist’s music video titled “Flawless”.
I used to think of killing myself. Of going slowly after taking 10 Ambien and 6 shots and just going to sleep. I hoped I’d wake up with a smile. It’s scary to think that love did that to me. Love put me in that place.
I didn’t even know if I should call it rape, at first. It started as a joke. How did we go from play fighting to me suddenly being fucked unwillingly. I said, “No.” I know I did. I’ve had to remind myself of that. Love made me block it out for two months.
Love told me that you were stronger than me and that I loved you and that you didn’t mean to do it.
And I couldn’t explain to my friends why we were still together. You said that they didn’t know Love. Love made me want to kill you and kiss you at the same time. Made me want to leave you forever and to feel you inside of me again.
You will never know what it’s like to feel like you don’t own yourself.
I wanted you to love me. But you tried to break me. You hurt me. You stole what I would have given you.
Love wouldn’t do that. Love is not ugly. Love is not spiteful. Love is not hostile. Love does not tell you, “You’re not better than me. What you have to say is not important. You’re worthless. No one cares about you, except me, Piggy. I love you. You love me too. Tell me you do.”
Love does not pin you down and force it’s way inside you despite saying no, pushing back, laying motionless.
But I will not be a victim. You do not own me or my mind or my body. It is mine again. And it feels amazing.
Even now, I do not wish to die.
Even as he traces the outlines of the body
For fear of touching the flesh,
I do not wish to die.
I admit – the light touch to my skin
Is not simply an art,
But a craft to be learned.
And it will take more than wine now
To help us fit together.
Sorry is my mistake –
I was sorry when you met me,
When you liked me,
When you loved me,
When you touch me.
I’d like to tell you that this time it will be fine.
That the indent of my navel will finally,
come to more than a paradise lost.
But I cannot lie about that,
Too.
I have lost my ability, my desire to lie
With anyone.
My truth is not The Truth.
It is negligent, insufficient for the living.
I do not wish to die.
So, I hide behind these hieroglyphs
And blunt, cryptic phrases about cigarette smoke,
And pop rap, and what it should feel like to hold me.
This, at least, I know:
I want you to have the body, without touching the flesh
Because I do not wish to die.
If you say something enough times the words
begin to lose meaning.
When smiles drown out silent cries,
Everything is fine,
And hidden in castles in the sky.
I remember it like it was yesterday, our castle in
the sky.
When we were younger, we shared a world in
which our imaginations made us invincible.
You were my hero even in the real world.
I remember that time when I was five and on my
tippy toes trying to reach the water fountain. A
big, tall guy came and pushed me on the ground
and I began to cry.
You, seven, at the time, came with your book bag
axe and brought the giant down.
As we grew older, we made our own castles in the
sky.
You built your walls out of clay and made a gate.
I built mine out of iron and forgot to make
an entrance, because who needs a gate in a castle in
the sky.
One day a stranger came and attacked, and your
castle came crumbling down.
I kept thinking- where was I when your castle fell
out of the sky?
Miles away, and locked away in a place meant to
protect but in which I was trapped.
Listening to your sobs, hearing you describe how
he hurt you, how he smashed your head on the
tiles, and how all you could do was track the
passage of time as he robbed your castle in the
sky.
I am sorry. I wanted to be your hero too.
I have helped rebuild your castle. I have picked up
the pieces. Explained to all those who don’t
understand. She’s a hero. She’s my hero. She isn’t
gone. She isn’t broken. She is getting stronger.
She’ll find her way back.
I have been asked “Why do you feel other’s pain?
Why do you dream and cry on their behalf?”
It is because I am no hero. I have no obstacle to
overcome. My walls are dark and strong, but my
castle’s heart is light, and open unable to shine
out.
My castle has no gate because I used to be able to
fly. My feet are too firmly planted on the ground
now.
I thought if I gave you my wings maybe you would
make it back. I can’t get out, but maybe one day
someone will fly in.
I sit here waiting, for you to fly back home, but
hate is weighing you down.
Do you remember our favorite game? A key was a
weapon used to free a world, that freed a heart,
that freed a soul. But every heart and soul could
not exist without both light and dark.
My castle has no keyhole. No method by which to
be saved.
But I now know a castle in the sky is no place for
you and I. In the beginning all we know is light
and hope and flight.
Darkness comes but it isn’t something to invoke
flight. Darkness is merely the absence of light, and
it teaches us that there is a reason to fight.
“You were given this life, because you are strong enough to live it.” – Robin Sharma
So far we’ve been pretty heavy with the written word and while prose and poetry speaks deep down to the bone, it is time that a shout out be given to my second love: music. Music is the soul in performance. It is one of the many magical aspects of humanity and these two songs beautifully capture the pain of domestic violence. If there are any other songs you would like to share please do not hesitate to email soulsinart@gmail.com.
In the meantime…peace, love, and rhythm — TS