A mile?
A city?
A country?
A planet?
Whatever how far your other half may be, as long as the presence of love is as cold as the gust of dawn, it is considered as the sucking distance between love.
Let us face it. There is a new trend which everyone finds adorable when it comes to relationship – LDR or the famous Long Distance Relationship, as they call it.
The songs have it, the social media posts are flooded, even in the silence, the concept of the whole love set-up is prevalent.
The cliché has it, always people who do not understand would rather trade places. For us, either place doesn’t make anything better. Before you jump then fall, better yet watch out which of the following you are about to fall.
- Empty Seats
You may not be able to notice it during the first months of the relationship, however it is a guarantee that these empty seats beside you are harmless spaces that could draw the eye of the green monsters towards the other lovers in the room. John and I share a mutual remorse over empty seats – that either of us shall fill to keep the other as company.
Not just that, these empty seats are there for huge events, momentous moments and significant life changing activities in your life. As much as you would like your other half to be there, you can scream out loud but the distance shuts his or her ears up like a little bitch.
- Late Night Phone Call
No one ever mentioned that LDR is twice as costly as having an actual lover by your side. When I mention costly, I mean incredibly unnecessary expense that rip my veins open by frustration and broken piggy bank.
For my case, I pay my own phone bills. Of course, it is a must that we constantly communicate or else we will lose it. The key to an everlasting relationship is an open communication and honesty no matter how costly it could be.
Plus, not only that, aside from the fact that my pockets are emptied neatly, the dark circles under my eyes are product of an 3 am laughing at the other line.
It is stressful, yes. No matter how you hate it, still you’d find a way to love it. That is, because I love John.
- Cancelled Dates
Who the hell has the control over everything? The couples who suck most in setting plans are those with a thousand miles away of distance that tears their planner into bits of sheets.
I would really love to know John more for the past years, especially when he stays in another city for his college. We set a day to meet, schedule our productive activities beforehand, then gather as much confidence like always is our first day.
There are thousands of days available for rain, stiff schedule, immediate meeting or family gathering but I assure you, (in the hands of an unknown monster!) these are all set on the day he is supposedly to meet me. Its sucks, yes. Did I get mad? You are free to ask him.
- Valentines? February 15!
Who am I to demand? I am just a girlfriend.
Obviously, there is no justice wit this type of stigma. I would yell, “What the hell! I am a girlfriend. I deserve some flowers on Valentine’s Day.” But hey, you choose and accepted from the very start to support him all the way no matter what.
I am telling you, dear reader, Christmas Days will not always be on the 25th. It is usually a week advance or on January. As long as the gifts are there and the telephones are working, you can never complain.
- The Competitors
I must be fair, I did not suffer the atmosphere of “competition” unlike John. You cannot blame every guy cares for a girl who eats alone in the cafeteria. Like I always say, jealousy is a double-edged sword. He was jealous, I was mad.
A jealous guy is cute if it is done appropriately. But in LDR, there is a communication barrier that could make silence more than a fire in the bush that could blaze up another issue each minute the other line suppresses a word. Seriously, is not a fine art to see.
Hurt. Cries. Anger.
All of these three are nothing but a laughing stock today.
Long Distance Relationship is a tough choice especially when you have not been given options at all. My advice is, if you cannot handle even the smallest common complaints in a relationship, you can never be ready for the big league. LDR is a multinational basketball association that legalizes boxing in the court. Literally, it is off the book.
If you happen to be standing at the moment at the edge of the brink, you shall ask yourself if love is enough to make you stay.
Love is not a choice. It is a wonderful gift of destiny you have to experience. However, staying in love is.
-JANE
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