JUST  DO IT

Ya’ll  don’t  know how much i love the community  i built here , a not so loud space full of intellectual  people i love you all so so much.Today i want to talk about  taking  the bold step something  we are all usually  afraid  of  but once you do it you’ll  forever  be greatful. It’s  not always easy. There are usually  a lot of  noises  we get negative  energies and it’s  common  everyone  gets them it’s  up to you to beat it

I recently  did a 27km walk ,27 yes i was worried  at first  like gosh how can i do it will i be able i was at the verge of saying  no.I was to do it from my place to limuru  the whole though  of it alone scared me  cause it’s  nothing  I’ve  done before .I was doing  it to taste my mental strength,  endurance  and limits  it was an easy one so yeah

I was to plan for it accordingly  , my coach was my man i will keep  giving  him his flower  cause he unlocks  somethings in me that  i never knew i had the ability  to do He told me to take lots of water cause I’ll  need it, did i listen  no cause i was doubting  if i could do it .I almost  told him lets  reschedule  but i had one motivation  .Food😂😂i requested  him that once were there i want to  drink a hot cup of the hyped limuru  tea then have nyama choma. 😂I love roasted meat, and he knows it, so there  was no wat i was going  to refuse.

We woke up and started  it was at 6, so we moved swiftly  at a pace of 10km per km.The first bit was not so hard that i had suggested  a route  so we used that. Halfway into it, the place started  becoming  steep. I was going  for the goal ahead, so i soldiered on .He is an active  person  so i could tell he wasn’t  feeling  a thing  but as for me i was fighting  for my life the road kept meandering the hills were step  by the time we got to tigoni i was questioning  my decision ,was it really  worth it my legs were okay at that time i was just thirsty.By around   ten the sun was scorching hot, the ground  was equally  hot it kept getting  intense  at first  i knew it was 21km so half way in i was like this ain’t  bad I’ll  keep moving  .We started  taking  breaks after we reached  18km 

Thirts kicked in while we were almost  reaching  tigoni,we tried locating a shop but sadly  we didn’t  find any.After walking  for few kilometres  we saw a shop it had water and energy  drinks but there was no shop keeper  i almost  cried .My body was fighting  against  me. i couldn’t  bear it. If i was alone, I’d  have quickly  ordered an Uber back to my place cause what was that. My man on the other side was optimistic  he kept telling  me lets move we will find  a shop nearby  and get water.I couldn’t  do it anymore ,i was so mad at him  😂the whole time he wasn’t  complaining  of thirst he was just moving. I was literally  dying  .

Luckily  we got to sigona there  was a convenience  store  that was the most beautiful  scene  i couldn’t  wait to gulp as for him he only  bought  juice😂 and was like you were not thirsty you just needed  electrolytes. We reached  limuru  girls, and i was now seeing  hope at the end of the tunnel.The place there was so beautiful  and green air so fresh, such a beautiful  community

After a few minutes  i saw the  famous  bata shop and was like we are indeed  here.My feet were in excruciating  pain by the time we got there .I couldn’t  step down without  screaming. I was glad i did it and had someone  who pushed me cause if i was alone, i couldn’t  have finished  i would have easily  gotten  an Uber back home midway

My picks  were your  body might  tell you No, but the mind  has other plans.My body was tired. Did i give up? No, i kept moving. My end goal was reaching  limuru  .Challenge  yourself  you have a lot of potential  i  you if you’re  dedicated  you will always  achieve your end goal just do it.Trust me you’ll  feel so proud  about  yourself  the best feeling  ever You are stronger  that you think  you have so much potential  to achieve  what you’ve  always  dreamt  of

WEIGHLOSS//FITNESS

When  i started  my WordPress   around  2019 it was because of my body dysmorphia. I talked  about  it and how bad it made me feel i was quite  young  fresh from highschool  blablabla WordPress  to me was a  safe space for me to openly  talk about  my struggles  .

My body bloomed early  and randomly  meeting  relatives and all and then rubbing  it on my face gave me bad dysmorphia   Body dysmorphia  doesn’t  end i swear i almost  got Aneroxia nervosa. I’d  induce vomiting  so as to look like my peers who were petite i hated my hips gosh i hated everything  about  my body.

First foward a close or rathe someone  i considered close told me  i am so big for someone  my age i should  be petite  if i want to look good and all , being  young  and naive i was like the person  is make sense  What i did is i went to jiji i have an online  shop there so that’s  how i knew about  it  , searched for slimming  tea cause it was a trend at that time it was one thousand  kenyan  shillings I went  to downtown  to buy it physically. The lady selling  it to me assured me it will work and after a month I’ll  be skinny  .

To hide it from my mom cause if she saw it she’d  have whooped my bum i unrapped then and discarded the box and was only  left with the tea bags.As instructed  I’d  take it in the morning  before  a meal. I would  wake up early  before  everyone  boil water and drink it it has a very bad taste but i had no option  besides the lady assured me it would  work.The aftermath wasn’t  and easy patch  i made frequent  bathroom  rans mark you i was to take it for a whole month long story short it didn’t  work i ended  up getting  sick weak and was taken  to therapy

While at therapy  i learnt to appreciate  myself  and everything  about   me the whole issue  got barried.Early this year my body was ish ish i decided to pay my gynaecologist  a visit , after several  tastes i was told i have hormonal imbalance  and tinny cysts .I cried gosh he further  explained  thats was the reason  i was gaining  weight  rapidly   he assured me I’d  be fine if i take the meds and be active

The whole body shaming  started  again ,this time  it was random strangers  one incident  was from an uber guy who was like are you sure you’re  gonna fit there  the other one was in a matatu the lady said she can’t  fit there cause the people  seated behind  were big  i was balancing  tears cause i know  how body dysmorphia  affects  me.That was  a cue for me to start doing  it right. No shortcuts ,doing  it the hard way cause the results  will be rewarding .Thank God for a supportive  partner  he held me through  it picked  up the pieces mended my broken soul encouraged  me to move  .Helped me work out always congratulated every milestone  i was making  he was the one buying  the prescribed  meds for me.God bless that soul for me

So far so good I’ve  been doing walks and runs my starting pace wasn’t  good but I’m  picking  momento i started  with 3km ,5km 5km this days i do 11km on a bad day 15 km when I’m  in the mood and challenged  myself  to do 27km which i did and finished

There  are no short cuts ,the things we see or we are told by influencer  are most of the time not accurate  cause they are literally  paid to do so. If it indeed worked  there would be no need  of pushing  it to the market using  influencers, just move your body do a jog a run if you can a walk set a goal eat healthy  eat clean portion control a d your body will thank you

You are perfect  , every inch of you  is perfect  be proud  of yourself  love yourself  first and every other thing  will follow  , block all the negative  be you do you the results  will speak for themselves

When Friendship Turns Into Love — And Why Some Choose to Let GoFriendship is often the quiet foundation of love. It’s where we first see someone’s true character—the kindness, humor, loyalty, and vulnerability that make them unforgettable. Sometimes, those qualities spark a deeper feeling, and suddenly, the line between friend and lover begins to blur.But here’s the thing: not every friendship that turns into love survives the transition. For some, the shift from friend to romantic interest changes everything — and not always in a good way.Many people choose to end these friendships because the old dynamic no longer fits their new reality. They want more than friendship, but that desire isn’t always shared. Holding onto the friendship can feel like holding back from the love they hope for. Sometimes, it’s about protecting their heart from the risk of rejection or heartbreak.Yet, it’s important to remember that friendship itself is never worthless. Even when romance doesn’t flourish, those friendships shape us. They teach us what we want and don’t want in love, and they help us grow emotionally.Not all friendships are meant to last forever — but none of them are wasted.

Navigating the Challenges of Adulthood: Milestones and Strategies for Overcoming Them



Adulthood is a journey marked by a series of challenges that test resilience, adaptability, and perseverance. From financial independence to emotional well-being, relationships, and career growth, each stage presents its own set of obstacles. However, with every challenge comes a milestone—a moment of realization, learning, or achievement that propels one forward. By understanding these difficulties and developing strategies to overcome them, individuals can transform struggles into stepping stones for success.

1. Financial Independence: From Uncertainty to Stability

One of the first and most pressing challenges of adulthood is financial independence. The transition from relying on parental support to managing one’s own expenses can be daunting. Many adults struggle with budgeting, saving, and dealing with unexpected financial emergencies. The milestone in this journey is achieving financial literacy—the ability to manage income, control expenses, and make informed financial decisions.

Overcoming Strategy:
To overcome financial struggles, one must cultivate financial discipline. Creating a budget, tracking expenses, and setting savings goals are essential practices. Additionally, continuous learning about investments, credit management, and financial planning can lead to long-term stability. Seeking mentorship from financially experienced individuals can also provide invaluable insights.

2. Career Growth: From Doubt to Confidence

Finding and excelling in a career is another significant challenge. Many adults face job insecurity, career stagnation, or dissatisfaction with their chosen path. Competition in the job market and the pressure to meet workplace expectations often lead to self-doubt. The milestone here is career clarity—the moment an individual identifies their strengths, passions, and the path that aligns with their goals.

Overcoming Strategy:
Developing a growth mindset is key to career success. Networking, seeking mentorship, and investing in continuous education can open new opportunities. Resilience in facing setbacks and adaptability in acquiring new skills ensures steady progress. Setting short-term and long-term career goals provides a sense of direction and purpose.

3. Emotional Well-being: From Anxiety to Inner Peace

Adulthood brings emotional turbulence, often caused by stress, societal expectations, or personal failures. Feelings of loneliness, anxiety, and self-doubt can overshadow one’s progress. The milestone in this aspect is emotional resilience—the ability to navigate challenges while maintaining mental well-being.

Overcoming Strategy:
Prioritizing mental health through self-care, therapy, and mindfulness practices can help in managing emotions effectively. Building a support system of trusted friends and family members provides emotional security. Learning to embrace failures as lessons and practicing gratitude can shift one’s mindset toward positivity.

4. Relationships: From Misunderstanding to Meaningful Connections

Maintaining relationships—whether friendships, family ties, or romantic partnerships—can be complex in adulthood. Conflicts, misunderstandings, and time constraints often strain relationships. The milestone in this challenge is emotional intelligence—the ability to understand, communicate, and empathize with others effectively.

Overcoming Strategy:
Clear communication, active listening, and setting healthy boundaries are crucial in nurturing relationships. Making time for loved ones and expressing appreciation strengthens connections. Learning to forgive and let go of resentment fosters emotional well-being and deeper bonds.

5. Self-Identity and Purpose: From Confusion to Fulfilment

Many adults struggle with self-doubt and the quest for purpose. The pressure to conform to societal expectations often leads to identity crises. The milestone here is self-acceptance—embracing one’s uniqueness and pursuing a path that brings fulfilment.

Overcoming Strategy:
Self-discovery through introspection, journaling, and exploring new interests can provide clarity. Setting personal goals that align with one’s values leads to a sense of purpose. Surrounding oneself with supportive and like-minded individuals fosters confidence in one’s journey.

Conclusion: Turning Challenges into Strengths

Adulthood is a continuous learning process filled with trials and triumphs. Each challenge presents an opportunity for growth, and every milestone reached is a testament to one’s resilience. By approaching life’s obstacles with determination, seeking knowledge, and embracing change, one can transform struggles into stepping stones toward success. Adulthood may be demanding, but with perseverance and a positive mindset, it becomes a fulfilling and rewarding journey.

Embracing Life’s Challenges: Trusting the JourneyLife is never a straight path. It is filled with unexpected turns, uphill battles, and moments where we question if we are on the right track. Struggles are inevitable, but they are also the very experiences that shape us, strengthen us, and prepare us for the victories ahead.I have faced my fair share of challenges—times when nothing seemed to be working, when the weight of responsibilities felt too heavy, and when the future seemed uncertain. But through it all, I have come to realize one thing: every struggle has a purpose, and in the end, everything falls into place.When we encounter obstacles, it is easy to feel discouraged, to doubt our abilities, and to wonder if we will ever reach our goals. But challenges are not meant to break us; they are meant to build resilience, teach us valuable lessons, and push us toward becoming the best versions of ourselves.Think about the moments when you thought you wouldn’t make it, yet somehow, you did. The days that felt overwhelming but eventually passed. The setbacks that seemed like the end but turned out to be redirections to something greater. Life has a way of working things out, even when we don’t see it in the moment.The key is to keep going. Keep showing up. Keep believing in yourself even when the road ahead is unclear. Growth happens in the struggle, and success is often the result of persistence through difficulties.So, if you’re in a season of hardship, trust that it’s not the end of your story. One day, you will look back and realize that every challenge you faced was necessary to bring you to where you were meant to be. Everything will fall into place—maybe not today, maybe not tomorrow—but in time, it always does.Stay strong. Keep pushing forward. Your breakthrough is coming.

LETTING GO

It’s  okay to admit  it’s hard .Letting go of someone you imagined  a future with It’s  obe of the hardest things we do .So many months have passed each one a collection of moments that make up a lifetime, and yet your mind still wanders back to him .You wonder if he ever thinks about  you if he replay the memories like you do, if he feels a pang of regret,but what good does that do wondering replaying it keeps you stuck.He wasn’t the right person for you and that’s  okay .Sometimes  people come into our lives for a reason, and their  role is over.It doesn’t diminish the happiness you shared the lesson you learned, but it means time to move forward. Those nights when you’re  alone, walking home under a sky full of stars that feel a million  miles away ,it’s okay to feel the weight of sadness .Let tears fall, let them clense your  soul .But dont those moments define you .You are not just the sum of your  heartbreak, not just a girl who lost someone she loved

You are strong, you are brave, and you are capable of incredible things. Remember all the times you faced challenges and overcame them. Remember the times you laughed so hard your  stomach  hurt ,Remember the moment of pure joy that had nothing to do with him.Thats who you are thats the fire that burns within you

There’s a whole world out there waiting  for you, 3a world full of new experiences, new people who will love and cherish you  new adventure that will take your breath away .Dont let the ghost of yesterday hold you back from the beauty of tomorrow. So lift your  chin, wipe away those tears, and take a step forward.

You’ve got this .You always have.

Just maybe

Sometimes, people think you’re  failing  apart when you’re starting to piece yourself  back together. It’s like when everyone  asks  why you’re  quiet or why you dont smile as much .They think you’ve  lost your spark, maybe even given up, but the truth is you’re doing  hard work inside , where no one can see .you’re facing those tough dark moments head on asking yourself the hard question and slowly  finding  answers that make sense to you, not to anyone else.Its about those nights you spend alone . Everyone else seems to believe that you’re loosing  a battle with sadness.But for you its not about wining or losing its about  understanding learning and growing.You start to realise  tgat you’re rebuilding your strength ,youre not ignoring your psim or pretending it doesn’t  exist you’re  acknowledging it feeling itand then slowly learning to let go,The smile comes back not all at once but a Littlemore  each day and its not because  the world is suddenly brighter or your problems have disappeared it’s because you’re  learning  how to let go,because  you  have fought through the darkest nights faced your deepest fear and you  are still here standing, you’re  learned that you are stronger than you ever gave your self credit  SO when people  look at you ,you ever gave yourself credit for ,SO when people think you are broken you know the truth you’re healing growing and becoming a stronger version of yourself and that is something to be proud  of no one can take away from you

01/1/2024

May the coming year be a fabric woven with threads of redemption, renewal, and abundant blessings. As we step into the unknown, let us lean on each other with kindness and extend the grace that has been lavished upon us from above.
Wishing you and your loved ones a blessed New Year, where the light of His love shines brightly upon us all.

With Love,
-Joannnn N misonge

GOD AS A FOUNDATION

The best gift a man can provide for his woman is a safe space to feel provision that doesn’t start and stop with money ,his own connection to God a capacity to hold space for emotions and spiritual healing journey. When a man is deeply connected to the God within him, his woman can feel safe enough to embody the goddess within her

The best feeling in a union with a foundation of God and intentional healing is that there are no masks.Healing and God are priority before the relationships, and each individual honours their souls’ individual mission to heal grow and evolve

Rainbows

Dont be selfish .if you don’t love her hair, curls at the end of her nose wrinkles when she laughs, then let her go.If you don’t see her as a fucking masterpiece then let her go because someone else will .Do not be selfish if you don’t love the way she sneezes or the way she dribbles the tootpaste down her chin when she brushes her teeth, then let her go .If your heart doesn’t almost beat out of your chest when you wake up and the first thing you see is her soundly sleeping on your shoulder, someone else would kill for that .Being with someone when you know you don’t love them is cruel .It’s not only cruel it’s holding them back from someone that could give them everything. Someone who feels waves break. in their ribcage when they see her walk around the corner .someone who has had the worst of days, but rainbows suddenly appear at the thought of her.Someone who hears the sound of her voice, and it soothes the darkest nightmare if that is not you let her go

She is wonder , she is magic, she deserves someone who believes that every single day not just certain days

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