One year ago something happened in New York I’ll never forget – I called it home.
Yes after years of long distance love I finally stepped foot into the city as, ok maybe not a New Yorker, but a Midwesterner with an NYC address. The first day I was here I ran into an old acquaintance from college. When she asked what I was doing here I proudly told her I’d just moved here. She asked where I was living and I gestured wildly and proudly around, “here in Park Slope.”
She stared at me like I’d just said we were in Bermuda.
“Heather,” my sister said shyly, “I’ve been meaning to tell you, this is Brooklyn Heights.”
That was a lesson for the year… I’ve never been more wrong more often than in NY. Whether it’s about directions or appropriate subway behavior (like that one time, wait two times when I’ve accidentally sat slash fell on someone on the subway), or neighborhoods, or yoga recommendations – my move to NY has been a lesson in total humility.
So with humility in mind as well as lessons and yoga I’d like to share the top 12 things I’ve learned about living in NY this year. One for every month I’ve called this perfect city my home.
1) You will be tired here: It is exhausting walking as much as you are required to walk in this city. And it is more exhausting to take a cab. So just find those perfect protein packed meals (and a favorite local coffee spot) and just keep swimming, swimming, swimming through the crowd. Bringing me to my next point…
2) You will be crowded: There’s not a single “if,” “and” or “but” about it – someone will step on you, you will fall into someone else and a crazy person will approach you. Accept it politely, take a deep breath and just try to not to panic when your subway car comes to a complete stop in a tunnel during pedestrian rush hour.
3) Kindness is key: You have to respect everyone when you’re living in a space this small. You have to create allowances where you might not have before. Don’t be afraid to make exceptions for people – you don’t know what their day has been like. You will also forget this and forget it often, that’s ok but come back to it after you’ve lost your sanity for a moment.
4) Respect women in heels: They are working far harder than you. Don’t begrudge them their slow pace, they probably are miserable because they forgot their walking shoes or maybe they’re just very brave. Either way, cut them a break – especially in meatpacking. #holycobblestonebatman
5) People won’t look like you: …talk like you, think like you, or feel like you. You are in a city of millions. Appreciate it, learn from it, accept it, but never, ever forget it. Listen when others speak and appreciate how they see the world. You will learn twice as much from the stranger who is totally unlike you. Don’t seek out your mental, physical, emotional, spiritual doppelgänger. LOVE and dive into the diversity of this city.
6) You will need to say no: No I don’t know where that is. No I don’t want to do that. No I can’t help you with that project. No I won’t swipe my metro card for you. You give more value to the word “yes” when you say no at appropriate intervals.
7) You will need 5 emergency contacts: Not just for hospital forms – for everything. Those folks who are there for those moments when you’re lost and your maps app is freaking out, for restaurant suggestions, for yoga spots, for your sanity, for a drink, for anything. Once you’ve found them, appreciate the shit out of them and realize how rare they are.
8) You must be someone else’s emergency contact: For any and everything. Let people lean on you. Sometimes – you’ll be shocked to discover how often the two of you are just holding each other up.
9) Smiling is the other key: Not all the time and not at the crazy eyed fellow in a crowded subway car; but do look up and grin around at the world. Smile at friends. And laugh. Don’t let the city force you to take yourself too seriously. Half the shit half the people are doing here is a joke anyway – so throw them a bone and at laugh at them, they’ll never do themselves the favor of laughing at themselves.
10) No one else will chase your dream for you: So do it your damn self. And not a small one. Chase the big monster bad ass mother fucker of a dream. Chase it down and keep running after it. Enroll everyone in it. If you fail, at least you’re failing in New York Fucking City. And yes, lots of great people have failed here first. Post failure see number 9. Post success also see numbers 8 and 9.
11) Be curious: Ask questions and never expect the answer. Be shocked by everything. Assume you don’t know. There is literally always something to learn here so sit back and listen more than you speak. And seek answers rather than arguments.
12) As always – do yoga: Never lose that. Never forget this practice. On your mat, off your mat, everywhere. Take this beautiful thing, this yoking of mind, body, soul and breath and let it live within you always. Because in a city that never sleeps there’s always at least time for savasana.
xo from a very elated,
Heather C
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