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I know the title of this article caught your attention, and you instantly clicked on it and continued to read. Trust me, I would have done the same. I’m sure you’ve walked into a room of people you have never met before and asked yourself, “How can I get these people to like me? How can I become a better version of myself and show up confidently? How can I become interested and not interesting when talking with people?” These are just a few examples I mentioned above, but definitely important questions you should be asking yourself to become instantly contagious to people when you walk in a room. Below I am going to be discussing five important ways to become instantly successful when you walk in a room in any setting.

1.) SMILE

Something very simple to do but extremely effective. Any time you walk in a room “smile.” It’s so easy, but sometimes we forget about it because are constantly changing which affects our body language. Always have an intention when you walk into a room and ask yourself “How do I want to show up in this current setting?”

2.) STAND UP STRAIGHT

A very easy thing to do, but sometimes we forget how important it is. Having good posture displays confidence when you’re speaking with others around you in any setting.

3.) LISTEN TO OTHERS

This is crucial in any social setting. If you want to get others to like you listen to them when they are speaking to you. Ask about their life, their passions, their family, etc. and take a serious interest. Remember people’s names and use their names when talking to him. They’ll know that you’re listening!

4.) MAKE PEOPLE LAUGH

Make people laugh, and they will remember you forever. Making people laugh is an art, and people will remember you for that. Laughter in life is the cure for anything, it makes us feel most alive. There’s nothing better than being with a group of people you care about, and laughing hysterically together.

5.) HAVE GOOD BODY LANGUAGE

Having good body language is a great way to work a room filled with people. Having good body language exudes confidence, demeanor, and great social skills. Your body language says something about you, even when your not talking. It’s something you need to work at over time, and will get better with practice.

Being contagious walking in a room, is important in any social setting. Whether that be personal, business, or even around family. You’ll gain confidence, have amazing body language, and just overall make the room a little brighter!

Establishing trust in a romantic relationship you enter is crucial for it to be a successful one. Trust begins when two people connect and they open up to one another sharing their vulnerabilities with each other. When ANY two people are together trust is one of the most important factors for a successful relationship to thrive. There are three ways I wanted to discuss that I believe are important in establishing trust in your relationship.

1.) Talk about your past

All of us have a past right? And chances are when you meet someone and you start dating theres a very high chance that they were together with someone before you. But, remember that it’s okay to talk about your past but always in a good way. I touch upon this frequently, but every relationship you have is meant for growth. Don’t ever look at romantic relationships as a waste of time or a failure. Look at them as an experience that you shared with someone, and for whatever reason it did not work out. You take that experience of being in previous relationships and bring it to the next one you enter into. Talk about problems thats arose, talk about how you communicated, talk about insecurities (if you have any). I listed just a few, but remember it’s okay to talk about the things that scare you or what went wrong in your previous relationships. It makes you vulnerable. You are human. We all communicate with one another, which leads to my next way to establish trust.

2.) Communication

It all comes down to the communication. Every time I look back at previous relationships I was in with women, all the problems arose from miscommunication. Not communicating our feelings to one another. Not communicating how we felt in certain situations. Not communicating our insecurities we had on a daily basis. These are just a few I mentioned above, but yet they all come down to communication. It sounds so simple and easy but as humans we have the most trouble communicating to the ones we are the closest with. It’s easier to communicate with each other when you’re just open with one other and don’t have anything to hide. Which leads to my last way to establish trust.

3.) Don’t judge one another

This was a big one for me, which is why I wanted to talk about it. Don’t judge your partner on things that they are passionate about or working towards. You are there to support them no matter what. You may have your differences with each other, but you respect them with no judgment. It’s important to be honest with one another, I promise you it will make you closer.

There are many ways in which two people can establish trust. The ones that I listed above were the ones that I thought personally were the most important, and have experienced first hand. At the end of the day, I believe in any relationship you enter, communication is the single most important way to build a foundation. Connect with one another and communicate.

Date yourself first. Always be growing into the person you were meant to become. 

Most of the time a lot of us don’t take the time dating ourselves before entering into a relationship. We tend to bounce from relationship to relationship without ever looking at what went wrong in previous relationships or what we are ultimately looking for in a partner. Dating yourself comes down to the one simple question of, “Are you happy and okay with being by yourself?”

• Do you feel comfortable in your own skin?
• Can you laugh at your own jokes when no one else is around?
• Can you stay in on a weekend night by yourself and be completely okay with it?
• “Can you go see a movie by yourself?” I really dare you to try and see if you could do it. Most people will think it’s dumb and pointless, but I really ask you to try it out! See if you can go to a movie theatre and watch and entire film by yourself…..

Most of us waltz through life never really taking the time to find ourselves and to understand what makes us tick as human beings. As humans, we are constantly growing and our likes and dislikes are always changing as we experience new relationships with people and experiences. What you like now in your current situation, might not bode with you even a year down the road. That’s why it’s very important to constantly challenge yourself, and experience new things. By constantly challenging yourself and putting yourself in uncomfortable situations you will continually grow and become the person you were meant to become. 

You should be reading everyday, no questions asked. Yes, some days you might not get the chance to do it, but try it at least. I ask you to try it for a week. Try reading everyday for a week, for at least thirty minutes. See how you feel, notice how you’re talking, notice how your brain is working. Reading does stimulating things to the mind. The more you read the more your mind gets addicted to the information it is interested in. Reading makes you smarter, it also makes you listen better because you get addicted to hearing words. I made a quest to read 30 books this year, and it’s fucking hard to do, let me tell you. I am no where near where I wanted to be, but close. We all have busy lives and it becomes very easy to get distracted with everything that is going on in the world today. But, just reading for even 15-30 minutes a day can change a lot for you. Reading makes our minds expand and think of different ideas. You never know, your next great business could just come from reading something that caught your eye. We look at many successful people in this world, and they all will say that reading is key if you want to be successful.

The great investor, Warren Buffet said himself “read 500 pages a day.” Now, you’re probably saying Warren, now thats a little excessive. You might not be able to read 500 pagers per day, but starting with a number and sticking to that is what’s important. And from there you read more and more everyday and continue to improve. Now, you might be asking yourself what should I read? Well, you have many options. First, read something that you’re interested in but also look to expand your mind on new subjects. I have a subscription to the New York Times and read that everyday. I would say the three best reliable sources to get great articles with great content are the New York Times, The Washington Post, and the Wall Street Journal. Read one or even all three everyday, and you’ll have unlimited content to fill your brain with.

Reading expands your mind, so make sure you’re filling it with content everyday!

Yeah, you’re probably tired of hearing this from every person you come in contact with, but I am going to say it again because we all could use some reinforcement. LIVE IN THE PRESENT. Yes, sometimes it’s hard, as humans we are constantly thinking of the past or the future. Two things that we have no control over. Now we cannot change the past, but what we can do is learn from our mistakes we made in the past and prepare for the future.

I like applying this concept to specifically relationships. Let’s be honest with ourselves here for a moment. Not all relationships are meant to last forever. Most things in life aren’t meant to last forever. In relationships, we don’t know how long we will be involved romantically with someone else. We just don’t. It could be forever, it could not be forever. Sometimes a relationship comes to an end, and that’s okay. The important thing to always remember is be present with whoever you are with. Don’t think about “oh man I wonder if I will be with him or her 1 year down the road.” Live in the now with that person. It’s great if you see a future with someone, but sometimes that future doesn’t work out. People change, and sometimes grow apart. Again, that’s okay.

You give in the PRESENT moment of any relationship. It all comes down to giving. In any relationship you have the whole purpose is to give and help each other grow into the person they are meant to become. Live in the present and be the present!!

 

Every relationship you enter throughout life, whether that be romantic, business, friendship, etc. is meant for growth. You learn about other people, but more importantly you learn about yourself and grow as a person. I remember when a relationship I had did not work out, whether that be romantic or business, I always thought it was a failure. I failed, and that brought me down. Until one day I realized that all these experiences I was having were meant for my personal and professional growth. For example, let’s say you were dating someone for years, and had big plans for the future.

It came to an end, and you were crushed. You saw yourself with this person or business for years. And now it was over. I’ve been there, it sucks, but life gets much better and when you look back at past relationships you realize you grow a lot from them. This person or persons came into your life for a reason, and you take the lessons you learned and apply them to the next relationship you enter. We all grow as people from the different experiences we have with others throughout our life.

I think as humans we sometimes beat ourselves down when something doesn’t work out. Maybe you messed up, maybe he or she did. But the most important thing is to take the experience, learn from it, and grow. Some relationships aren’t meant to last forever, and that’s okay. There’s nothing wrong with you and there’s nothing wrong with the other person. Sometimes there are two great people that are together, but for some reason they just don’t work out. And this could be due to many reasons, such as compatibility issues, stages in life, values, etc. Sometimes two people grow apart. The best relationships happen when two people come together and are complete and grow together as a couple, bettering each other. I never believed in soul mates and when people talk about how the other person completes them. I believe there are many people in this world that you could be in a relationship with, not just one. Now, this is just my opinion, feel free to agree or disagree with me.

But overall, we come across many relationships in our lives, good and bad. Each one is meant to teach us a lesson. It’s your job to take these lessons and carry them with you for the rest of your life.

Now, before you go hating on the title of this post, hear me out. I truly believe in everything you do in life comes down to timing. Some of you might be saying well it just wasn’t meant to be, or make the decision now (the time is now). Yes, some of this could be true, but think of a time in your life where you were totally prepared for something. And if this event or person came into your life at an earlier time, it probably would not have lasted or you wouldn’t have been prepared. I’m sure you’ve heard many people say, “oh the timing wasn’t right, if you two met later in life it would have worked.” Now, some of you might nod your head at this saying, and say “well if he or she was the right person, you would still be together.” I have always gone back and forth with how we approach relationships and the timing of them. I believe that all of us are growing at a different pace, and sometimes two people aren’t at the same place when they meet and start a relationship. And that’s OKAY. I’ll give you an example (in the form of a professional experience).

I’m a big fan of Lewis Howes (podcast host of the School of Greatness). I’ve been listening to him for years and most recently went to The Summit of Greatness, which is an event he hosts in Columbus, Ohio. He mentioned at his event that this year he interviewed Kobe Bryant, and how if he interviewed him even last year he would not have been prepared and the timing of everything wouldn’t be good. I think this is a good example to look at even in business, that sometimes we aren’t prepared for everything. Lewis kept reiterating that he would not do a good interview if he had interviewed Kobe a year ago.

To me, timing is huge when you’re entering into a romantic relationship with a woman. Throughout your twenties you’re going to be figuring yourself out and what it is exactly you want to do with your life. Things change, people change, and you may drift away from certain people in your life. I believe everything happens for a reason, and in my opinion timing has a lot to do with that when entering into a relationship with someone. Where do you see yourself in five years? Where do you want to live? Is your job going to take you somewhere different years from now, if you choose to stay? Is your partner in grad school/college or whatever it may be? These are all important questions to ask yourself but more importantly discuss with your partner if you see something being long term. If you really take a look at statistics, most people find their long term spouse between the ages of 27-34. I don’t know the exact number, but thats the age range. Some marry earlier, some marry later. Some don’t get married. You do you, whatever that is. Some might find their life partner later in life, some might have multiple life partners over the course of their lives. The best thing to do is to not look at what the people around you are doing, but what you want to do and what makes you the happiest. A lot of your happiness will come from the person you are with, so choose wisely.

 

 

 

 

You are the only person that has to understand your vision and the life you wish to create for yourself.

When we are young we’re told by our parents and the people around us to do the whole route of going to college and getting a nice cushy corporate job that has benefits and all that stuff or whatever field you get into after college. Now before you go and say well “What’s wrong with that Will?” And I am saying there is nothing wrong with doing that, but I think the more important thing to ask yourself is WHY are you doing what you are doing. But ultimately, what is it that you want to do with your life, and what type of lifestyle do you want to live? That is the question you should be asking yourself.

You see we waltz through life spending time in jobs that we most likely don’t enjoy but never really stop and ask ourselves why we are doing them. I’ve heard many answers when I ask people this question and the three most said answers I hear are, “money, safety and security, and because I am too afraid to go after what I really want.” I’ve heard many people tell me how miserable they are in their jobs, but don’t do anything about it to change their situation. This troubles me when I hear this. I also have heard people tell me that they are too embarrassed to tell people about their vision and what they want to do with their life. People are afraid of being judged, too afraid to take the risk, and too afraid to fail. We have to understand in life when working towards our vision that failure is inevitable, and we have to fail our way to success. We are going to fail, and that’s okay. But every time we fail, we get better, and get closer to achieving our vision and the life we truly want to live. Back to my title of this article is that “you are the only one who has to understand your vision, and what you wish to do with your life.” You’re going to have people bring you down, saying you’re going to fail, but you have to remember that none of those people matter. You’re on a journey working towards something that some people might not understand, and that’s okay.

Your vision is YOUR vision, and no one else’s. Your vision for your life is unique to you, and you have to own it! Stay true to your vision. Don’t let anyone or anything get in the way.

Let’s be honest. Life sucks sometimes. You have to be grateful for the things you have and the people that are surrounding you throughout your life’s journey. Most of the time we are always searching for something more, and never take the time to appreciate what we have at the moment. I wanted to talk about five brutal truths not many people want to face in life.

1.) You are going to die. 

Shocker right? I feel like sometimes people aren’t thinking about this. I think about death everyday of my life. I tell people that and they sometimes think it’s weird or there’s something wrong with me for thinking that way. But, yes you will die one day. We all will. I think it’s important to appreciate what you have everyday and just be grateful for what you have at the moment.

2.) Your material possessions will most likely bring you short term happiness

How many wealthy people do you know that are depressed and lonely, but have any material possession you can imagine? I know many of those people, and I would never want to end up like that. Buying exotic cars, houses, clothes, etc. will bring you short term happiness, and then you’ll always be searching for the next big thing. Don’t get me wrong it’s nice to have nice things. I enjoy having nice things. But I realize it’s not going to make me happy. Just take notice..

3.) The people you love in your life are going to die one day too

The people closest to you in your life are going to die one day. I think it’s important to tell the people that are closest to us that we love them everyday and how grateful we are that they are in our lives. Someone can be gone in a second, and I am sure some of you reading this have experienced the loss of a loved one so quickly.

4.) Time is by far our most valuable asset

We only have so much time on this earth, and one day (we don’t know when) it will all come to an end. Time is our most valuable asset. We all have 24 hours each day. It’s up to you to decide on how you want to use them.

5.) People aren’t going to remember what you did for a living or how much money you made, but how YOU made them feel

People aren’t going to remember how many sales you had for the company you worked for. But, when you’re gone they will remember how you made them feel, and the impact you had on the world and the people around you. It’s definitely important to remember how we can add value so someones life each day throughout our busy lives.