Blessings, affirmations, grace, and reflection

I don't understand the mindset of our "role models." They may not consider themselves role models, but they are. Kyla Pratt has decided that she is not yet ready to 'commit' to marriage with the father of her daughter, but she committed to having a child with him. That is an 18 year commitment right there. Jennifer Hudson did the same thing, as did Nia Long, and Halle Berry. In Halle's case she swore she wasn't going to remarry. Now that she and the baby's father have broken up, she is remarrying and dealing with a messy custody battle. Regardless of whether you want to commit to that man or not, you are choosing to commit to him when you decide you will bear his off-spring. That is a minimum of an 18 year commitment to that man. I wish they could see it that way.

So I realized that it's now time that I start living like a "grown up." I also realized that in order to live the lifestyle I want to live I can't do it alone. Not with these student loans on my back. So the next plan of action is to find a husband with a decent salary and good credit. This seems to be the only feasible way I will be able live the way I want to live. In order to make that happen I have to step up my game. Operation find a husband is in full effect for the remainder of 2011. Making sure hair, nails, brows are always tight. Getting the body right and tight. Getting and staying focused on the bigger picture. Changing my priorities. A woman's got to do what a woman's got to do!

For the love of money is the root of all evil: which while some coveted after, they have erred from the faith, and pierced themselves through with many sorrows. 1 Timothy 6:10 The question of love vs. money is one that comes to the surface every now and then. Friends going through relationship drama offer an interesting perspective into the human mind. Let's look at friends A and B. Friend A is a hard working 40 y.o. who married young, divorced young and remarried in her late 30s. In marriage number one, money wasn't an issue. In marriage number two, she was looking for characteristics that she didn't find in marriage number one. Marriage number two lasted four year. The problem? Money. Friend A makes a decent wage and works a few side jobs whenever she can. On the other hand, her hubby was what some might consider a financial loser. As much as she loved money, she thought that co-mingling their funds showed her trust. I don't even have to tell you how this sto...